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Why should you vote for Laios? (1)
"hes so freaking weird i love him. he loves monsters and he has wanted to eat them his entire life and he took the chance when i could. he makes exposition fun (infodumping)"
Why should Buffy Summers win? (2)
"Remained positive despite it all, 2 vampire boyfriends, broke the cycle"
Remember: don't vote on "who would win in a fight", but on "who, when given a task that fits her skillset and talents, would do that task better: more comprehensively, faster, with more pizzazz, with less collateral, etc."
Leia Organa, Star Wars: everything. y'all know her. but to be clear in her very first scene she lies directly to vader's face without blinking. then iconically takes charge of her own rescue missions bc luke and han are useless. then she outlives that main trio, is a force user, senator, general, and everyone loves her.
Buffy Summers, Buffy the Vampire Slayer: At the age of sixteen, she has more experience at her job than her mentor, and pretty much every other character on the show for that matter. Over the course of the show she saves the world at least ten times, defeats a literal god, and fundamentally reshapes the system that made her a child soldier in the first place, all while dealing with intense trauma and eventually, crippling suicidal depression. She's a good leader and is usually the one to come up with the battle plans (despite, and I cannot stress this enough, being a teenager and young adult who has a grown ass man for a mentor). She's also a very skilled fighter, and she improves from season to season. And in later seasons she has to accomplish all this while also raising her teenage sister and working fast food.
She's not perfect. For one thing she's a teenager and for another, as it turns out, crippling depression is in fact crippling. But even at her worst she's almost always competent as a slayer. Plus, her hair and make-up are consistently on point. (thank you tumblr user @comradesummers )
Vote Buffy, she cut a guy in half once and then when asked where he was she said “he had to split”
I know this has been said before, and y'all aren't gonna listen to me when I say it, but you can't be bigoted to bad people. Like you don't get to call Marjorie Taylor Green an NRA whore, or misgender Caitlyn Jenner, or be antisemitic to Ben Shapiro. It doesn't work like that. Not being called slurs is not something people earn by being a good person, it's something you do because YOU are a good person. And if I'm being honest, it shouldn't be that hard for you to do. You shouldn't want to say these things to ANYBODY, even if they are the devil incarnate.
bisexual attraction is inherently queer! yes, even if one of those modes of attraction "seems" inherently heterosexual. it's not! unless the individual chooses to label it as het, bisexual men being attracted to women is queer. bisexual women being attracted to men is queer. get used to it!
they were playing running up the hill yesterday at the bar and I realized that when kate bush says she is "running up that building" she is probably using the stairs. and not running up the side of the building. like naruto
Buffy The Vampire Slayer | 5.12 - Checkpoint
out-of-the-closet gregory house would be such an unbridled nightmare. try telling him what to do? that's homophobic. that's a hate crime. he would employ the most twisted queer infighting rhetoric to be the most insufferable person possible. "actually homo sapiens is offensive, we prefer 'differently sexual'". if he got fired for malpractice he would sue for discrimination. he would make new employees guess his sexuality and if they didn't figure it out in a week he would fire them. and everyone would be too distracted by house's theatrics no one would notice wilson. they'd go to him and be like "I'm not homophobic but house is being kind of bizarre and aggressive about it" and wilson would be like "oh really" and they would say "how do you deal with it, being the straight guy best friend of someone who behaves like this" and wilson would be unable to break it to them that after a long day of wilson doing his job and house harassing every person in the hospital they go home and have horrible old man sex in their shared apartment and then lie awake laughing at how completely fucking clueless the new interns are
I was amazed. Go away where? ― Anne Carson, The Glass Essay
I've noticed a concerning trend in the overall online mental health community, particularly with younger people.
Context that may be revelant here -
I'm 30ish years old, severely mentally ill, and have spent half my life in the mh system at this point. I am also working on my psych degree and pursuing a career in this field. Most importantly for the sake of this post, I'm anti-psych meaning that I believe that the psych/medical system should NOT have the power to remove a person's autonomy and that any "treatment" which is not patient-driven is unethical. I recognize (poor) psych treatment can often be more harmful than helpful. This is something I've also personally experienced over the years I've spent in the mh system.
The issue I'm seeing is this -
People are starting to recycle the old-fashioned (frequently held by boomers and gen x) mentality that psych treatment, esp therapy, is inherently a scam, useless, or untrustworthy, and therefore they're throwing up their hands and going, "It's pointless to seek help anyway!"
There's no way I'd be able to fully unpack this issue in a single blog-length-friendly post, but it's getting so pervasive that I feel the need to try scraping the tip of the iceberg.
I think there's room to discuss psych abuse without discarding the entire field.
1. There are absolutely good practitioners out there who care deeply about helping clients, and who firmly believe in maintaining their clients' autonomy while doing so.
2. There are (a lot of) mental illnesses that simply do not have good outcomes for recovery without professional help, whether that comes in the form of medications and/or therapy.
The biggest issue, from my standpoint, is that the majority of therapists aren't being trained to work with things beyond mild to moderate anxiety and depression, marriage/family issues, sometimes eating disorders, etc. Not in depth. Your average therapist isn't going to have a good understanding of more complex issues such as personality or dissociative disorders unless they've taken it upon themselves to seek continued education in that--and many don't. This in turn leads to a not insignificant amount of therapists who are outright ableist towards severe mental illnesses.
The sad truth is if you want competent help, you are probably going to have to search for a therapist who specializes in your area--or at least one who's open and willing to learn. This shouldn't be the case and it sucks that it is, but this also doesn't negate the number of therapists who are genuinely good at their jobs and the amount of help they provide.
I know this is anecdotal, but I can tell you that good therapy exists. I've had bad--terrible--therapists who further damaged me. I will always speak about that issue openly. I have also been fortunate enough to find good therapy that has been immensely beneficial. I had to put the work in to find these therapists. They didn't fall in front of me on my first Google search. I dug, I looked for specialists, I made multiple contacts asking questions about their practices to find a good fit. But I did find it.
I think it's incredibly discouraging and harmful to scare people away from getting help. We cannot go backwards towards being so anti-psych that we are anti-help, anti-treatment, and anti-recovery. Not for our own good and not if we ever want to see the psych field continue to improve (and it has, incredibly so, over time).
So again I will say -
I am seeing people reinventing an outdated view of psych that I've commonly seen before in older generations. The avoidance of seeking help only led to avoidance of acknowledging problems, which is kind of what walked us all into a massive amount of generational trauma to begin with. Do not fall into that trap.
Expect to need to advocate for yourself, or have a trusted person help to advocate for you. Seek specialized treatment. Push for what you need. Don't give up on your recovery.
If you are able to (well and truly) recover on your own via self-help methods, more power to you. Please be cognizant of the fact that this is simply not an option for many people, especially those with severe mental illness.
me when anyone brings up avatar the last airbender:
buffy summers really is the most character ever. she averted the apocalypse multiple times. she came back from the dead twice. she fought dracula and won. her first impulse when someone said they thought she was just a myth was to tell them "you were myth-taken." she led a workers' uprising while wielding a hammer and sickle. she couldn't fucking drive. she killed a demon with a rocket launcher stolen from the us military. she was really into figure skating. once she fucked so hard that the building she was in collapsed. she got a job slinging burgers. and she was even bisexual
You may see in her all of your greatest fears squeezed into one person. I spent most of her childhood praying she would not end up like me. But she turned out to be stubborn, aimless, just like her mother. But now I see. It's okay that she's a mess. Because just like me the universe gave her someone kind, patient and forgiving to make up for all she lacks.
EVERYTHING EVERYWHERE ALL AT ONCE 2022 | dir. Daniel Kwan and Daniel Scheinert
