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aroaceconfessions

aroaceconfessions

Anonymous asked:

I'm asexual. I really don't bother with specific labels anymore. Cause for me sexuality and attraction are very fluid and I don't see a point in stressing myself with finding a label that caters to the microspecific way in which my asexuality is manifesting this month. I'm done. I know it works for some people, some people have a healthy relationship with it, they try different labels as a way of explaining how they feel and expressing their experiences and I tried, but honestly I was obsessing over it, it wasn't helping me in any way. Asexual and queer and even gay as umbrella terms work just fine for me.

I've experienced sex repulsion but I've also been indifferent to it, was the first a one time only thing? or the times I was indifferent had to do with the person involved? I don't care. I've experienced sexual attraction to One person exactly One time, does that make me demi? or was I just horny and touch starved that day? I don't care. It doesn't matter, it doesn't change the fact that I'm asexual.

I'm done overthinking my sexuality. I'm asexual. Period. I don't have to prove that to anyone anymore, I don't have to find micro labels that "allow" me to still be asexual when my experiences divert from the "norm".

Fuck that. I'm ace :)

“just friends”

“friendzoned”

“more than friends”

what the fuck man

#that being said #people don't realize how amatonormative it is #so treat them with kindness #I'm not projecting #amatonormativity #aspec #aro #arospec

aspecpplarebeautiful

aspecpplarebeautiful

It's normal to have times you feel closer to or more disconnected from your labels.

hey my fellow aces (and you better believe that includes acespecs)

you’re cool

(also you don’t have to know)

(anything)

(I appreciate you)

(no matter what)

#ace #asexual #iad #ace day

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#iad #ace day #ace

happy no fucks given day

#iad #ace day #ace

aspecpplarebeautiful

aspecpplarebeautiful

You don't need to know how you feel about sex/romance. You're allowed to have complicated feelings around them. How you feel about sex/romance doesn't have to be consistent.

#aspec #aro #ace

I keep forgetting when these days are, but if you're ace, you're cool

Officially ace day again!

Just to clarify, it's the 6th of April! I posted this at 1am GMT, so sorry for any confusion!

#I almost forgot #ace #asexual

HOLY SHIT IT’S ACE DAY AND I ALMOST MISSED IT

HAPPY FUCKING ACE DAY YOU LOVELY PEOPLE

#ace #asexual #ace day

hungry-skeleton

Genuinely so mad that cuddling is seen as a strictly romantic thing that's so stupid cuddling is awesome and two consenting platonic pals should be allowed to cuddle as much as they want

androgyny isn’t for skinny people only

We really, as a society, need to stop treating sex like a rite of passage. It hurts me so much to see people (especially high schoolers) embarrassed to say they haven't had sex.

For some people it may take time, for others that time never comes, or they simply aren't interested. Stop pushing your values or expectations on other people, especially those who are developing into adulthood. Stop shaming people over something that's not your business.

aspecpplarebeautiful

aspecpplarebeautiful

Ace and aro spectrum labels can be temporary. You can use them if they're useful now, even if you think that may not be the case in the future.

labels are tools! not boxes to confine you :)

#aspec #arospec #acespec #aro #ace

I've been thinking about the whole "aro people can feel other types of love" thing, and I think that while we should be careful to not disregard loveless aros, establishing that some aro people do feel love is still important. "Aromantic people can feel love" and "love of any kind is not necessary" are two statements that can and should coexist. To many aro people, those other types of love are an important part of their experience, and should be acknowledged as such. This can be done without alienating loveless people. A big part of this is that those other types of love should not be used to justify the existence of aro people. Not only does it imply that loveless people are lesser, but it implies that aromanticism is something that needs to be justified. You can discuss your experiences with love as an aromantic, but you do not need those experiences to justify your existence. Aromanticism does not need to be justified.

#aro #aromanticism

Love is not indicative of morality or worth. How much you love or are loved does not inherently say anything about how good of a person you are or how worthy and successful you are in life.

therapist: you might want to stop trying to label yourself, it seems to not work for you and actually make you feel more anxious

me, already rummaging through more labels: well yes, but have you considered-

#romo favorable aro?#it's a work in progress #I like labels #labels just don't like me #they never seem to stick #aro #arospec #queer

Chills. I can't imagine my own high school showing up like this less than a decade ago to protest disgusting legislation like Florida's Don't Say Gay bill. The support Gen Z shows for the LGBTQ community is breathtaking.

The fight goes on. Keep it up.

#when I say I CRIED

I think qpr's are cool and I think neopronouns are cool and I think it's real cool when people express their attraction or their gender in a way other people don't like. y'all never stop.

#qpr #neopronouns #queer positivity

hey just a reminder that sex is just another form of physical intimacy. sex is not the pinnacle of a romantic relationship. bases are bullshit. a relationship can be whatever you want, as long as you talk to the other person/people involved and communicate what you are comfortable with and enjoy. this has been a psa.

#COMMUNICATE #FUCKING COMMUNICATE #relationship #romance #sex #consent #aspec

“You’re Asexual, so how could you possibly enjoy watching/reading/engaging with sexual content?!?!”

The same way I’m able to enjoy horror movies without having murdered an entire cabin full of teenagers before, Barbara you pedantic piece of pipe cleaner.