Nonsense and Such

https://apnews.com/article/university-stabbing-canada-waterloo-2b32c876596c576bb3093c147eb856a3

@politicsofcanada have you seen this shit.

And message to all the TERF and Nazi and other miserable excuse of a human being. That blood is on your hands. I hope you all die.

this was at the university of waterloo, luckily none of the wounds were fatal, but regardless this is awful

For anyone who’s not aware, the 1989 École Polytechnique massacre was a mass shooting in a Montreal university, perpetrated by a man who was “fighting feminism” by murdering women engineering students. He killed 14 women and injured 14 more before killing himself.

The anniversary of the shooting is commemorated in Canada as the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. It’s the kind of event that should serve as a cautionary tale forever, that should drive us to ongoing action so that nothing like it ever happens again. Clearly we’re not doing enough.

image id: the image is a tweet by erin reed @ErinInTheMorn. the tweet contains a screenshot of a news headline titled “3 people stabbed in canada university building and police say a person is detained”.

the body of the tweet says “i have been informed that a stabbing occurred today in canada. a young man entered into a gender studies class, asked what was being taught, and proceeded to go on a stabbing spree. it was a sickening action fueled by bigotry pushed by those pedaling [sic] anti-LGBTQ+ panic.” end id

Narcissus taking a selfie is the ACTUAL best.

These are REALLY cool

These are art in themselves, in a some of them point out what lockdown was like for us, they’re expressed themselves in a really cool way. But I think these are going to be talked about in the future.

Lil Nas X

Young people and old people's complacency and acceptance of autoplay terrifies me if I'm finished a video and another begins playing THAT I DIDN'T CHOOSE I'm already loading my gun

"if you put too many people together they start shooting each other!!" that just sounds like usamerican projection, but okay

also: western lib: *sees an apartment building in a socialist country* western lib: is this a gulag??

i love the 'imagine the energy consumed by this building' because like. it's actually very clear and obvious that a building of many apartments will require less energy than the same number of detached houses, since it shares services and thermal inertia

imagine going to visit so many of your friends and they're like only a few floors away or maybe right next door

imagine the tenant's union that this kind of place can form 😍

The ideal living arrangement, according to the people on this post lmao

If you like this idea then go live there, go live that dream.

I personally will live like a human instead of a lab rat, I want to be able to go outside and touch grass and listen to the wind blow through the trees.

Usamericans are so suburbpoisoned they don't realize you can just. Walk out of an apartment building. You aren't stuck inside.

People on this website talk about creating self-sustaining communes and working together and making accessible walkable cities and then see a close knit community in China with walkable shops nearby to every home and call it inhumane

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Madam, you are looking very posh in your fancy dress, if I may say so.

Those earrings are a delight, darling and I love what you did with your hair.

what are my plans for the summer?

WELL

Today, one of my second graders was working on shape name recognition, and we got to this picture of a pyramid shape with a wide-ish base. When he saw it, his eyes lit up and he turned to me with a huge grin on his face, pointed at it, and said "When the teacher forgets to assign homework" before bursting out into hysterics, covering his mouth and giggling. I don't understand what happened except this kid CLEARLY knows about the strong comedic and memeable value of mathematical shapes and emotions that I, an old millennial, cannot comprehend I did, however, try to recreate this moment as the meme this child must have seen in his head

maybe he was thinking of the dancing triangle meme??

i have seen this gif with that exact caption before. this is absolutely the one he was thinking of

That kid saw one of the simplest geometric shapes and said that's blorbo from my memes 👍

Obi-Wan has taught you well.

i think if we’re going to have conversations about consent we should talk about how consenting to something doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be a good experience, and having a bad experience doesn’t necessarily mean someone violated your consent. this can apply to a lot of situations but the two i’m thinking of right now are sex and transition.

you’re getting it on with someone. you enthusiastically consent to having sex with them. afterward, you feel a little weird about it. maybe even distressed. maybe they did something you didn’t enjoy and in the moment you just didn’t say anything. maybe you just realized after the fact that you were not in a good headspace for sex and now your mental health is declining. that doesn’t inherently mean the person you had sex with violated your consent. sometimes it just means you need to take a break from sex or work on communicating your needs or boundaries better during sex.

and with transition, i feel like this is something that gets consistently overlooked but like. there will never be zero detransitioners. there will always be people who decide that actually transition wasn’t right for them. they could have had the best most thorough doctors in the world who did everything by the book and got full informed consent at every step. and some people are still going to decide they don’t like the changes and wish they hadn’t transitioned. that doesn’t mean that the doctors violated their consent, and that doesn’t mean that transition shouldn’t be available to anyone. it just means that we need to have more resources available for folks who detransition.

regret does not automatically mean someone did something wrong. regret is simply one possible result of having bodily autonomy, and i think we need to get more comfortable with that.

anyway, here’s some things i’ve learned and some things i’m working on as a survivor of sexual assault/rape and prolonged abuse that might help people.

one of the things i struggle with is communicating what i want during sex, because it was something i was punished for while i was in an abusive relationship. this means whenever i want something during sex, instead of just asking for it, i panic and start overthinking about how to ask for it and if my partner will be upset if i ask for it and what if they say no and am i a bad person for even asking and maybe i should just shut up and wait for it to be over and you see how this can make sex very unpleasant, yes?

one way i’m working on coping with this is trying to talk to whoever i’m having sex with before we have sex. it’s easier if you have a partner, but really anyone you’re going to sleep with should be cool with you talking about your likes and dislikes before you have sex. sometimes it even helps to write it out, a list of likes or dislikes or things you want to try or things you notice that trigger you. for me, it’s hair pulling, so i always make sure to say something before i hook up with someone. it can feel really really awkward at first, so this one just takes practice.

another thing is i used to get triggered during sex, and occasionally still do, and the biggest issue i had was asking the person to stop. usually i’d just be frozen in place and they’d have no idea anything was even happening. instead of trying to figure out what to do when i got triggered, i practiced telling them to stop while i wasn’t triggered so i could practice what i was going to say and do and how i was going to handle it. once i had that skill on my roster, it was easier to say or do something if i did get triggered during sex, whether that was saying “stop” or tapping their arm to let them know to stop. this, again, is even easier if you have a partner or a consistent sexual partner you trust.

another thing i’ve started doing is telling my fwb anytime he does something i do like. it’s a lot easier to communicate because i’m not worried about rejection, and once i got more comfortable communicating that way during sex, communicating what i wanted got a little easier.

it’s still an uphill battle for me sometimes, there are still times during sex when i just can’t get the words to come out of my mouth, and i’m working on being gentle with myself. if you struggle with this stuff too, it’s not your fault, and you also don’t have to be afraid of sex. focus on getting to know yourself and your limits, practice communicating, check in with yourself after sex, and know that it does get easier!

pulling this out of the tags bc this is also a really good point!!!

this! it’s ok to revoke consent anytime during sex. and it’s important to know how to do that. your partner can’t read your mind. if you don’t indicate that you want them to stop, they won’t know what you need. which is why it’s so important to practice how you want to ask them to stop, talk about non verbal cues you can use, teach them what to look for if you get triggered so they know what to do, etc.

this is something i’ve said before, but i feel like it’s super relevant here: your trauma is not your fault, but unfortunately it is your responsibility to manage when interacting with others. and managing it is so much easier when you find coping techniques that are consistent and simple to use even when you’re triggered.

I'm kind of glad to hear that everyone does this. Because it means it isn't colonizer bullshit, it's what everyone does. It's just people discovering new things. Everyone goes:

"Oh hey these people have their own style of [language A's word for thing. Say, what do you call it?"

"Oh it's [language B's word for thing]."

"Got it, it's [language B's word for thing] variety [language A's word for thing]"

added to which it is LITERALLY JUST LINGUISTIC SHORTHAND for 

[item] the way [culture] makes it. 

If you don’t want sliced bread, you want bread the way Eastern Indians make it you ask for Roti, not bread. Because Roti is bread THE WAY [EASTERN] INDIANS MAKE IT. Like fuck, it’s not that complicated a concept. 

OF COURSE it’s not colonizer bullshit! It’s just linguistic shorthand!

We are the Doctor’s friends. We assist him in his isolation but that does not mean we approve of it. DOCTOR WHO – The Snowmen (2012 Christmas Special) directed by Saul Metzstein | written by Steven Moffat ››› Neve McIntosh as Madame Vastra ››› Jenna Coleman as Clara Oswin Oswald ››› Catrin Stewart as Jenny Flint

I’ve met multiple white people from all over through the years who legitimately believe black people go to college for free

And when I ask where they were told that is always essentially another white person

Anyway this is what made me remember this shit

Related: Professors worry todays ruling could impact programs scholarships and course offerings:

"OiYan Poon, a visiting education professor at the University of Maryland, College Park, points to early court filings from the plaintiffs in the Harvard case, arguing that "any use of race or ethnicity in the educational setting" is unconstitutional — not just in admissions.

"Will that mean the closure of Asian American cultural centers?" Poon wonders. "Will that mean the end of Native American studies on college campuses? Will that mean the end of historically Black colleges and universities [and] the designations of minority-serving institutions?""

tell me it’s not only me

Certain words can change your brain forever and ever so you do have to be very careful about it.

Terfs are like "The women's restroom is where women go to have a private moment away from men" i go in there to piss and shit so I think im using it for its intended purpose more than you

the women's bathroom is where we go to do coke, sorry

Now I'm wondering if snakes have "handedness" in the direction that they wrap around a tree when they climb it. This one goes clockwise -- does it always do that? Are there other snakes of this species that wrap counterclockwise?

my favorite part is the “fuck you” at the end lmaoooo

It’s the nonchalant walk away for me 🚶🏾‍♂️😩😩

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