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"The good thing about tough times is that they make the truly extraordinary moments stand outt even more" -Heather O'Reilly

the perfection of every Midnights track (in order)

Track 1: Lavender Haze

the fact that it opens with "meet me at midnight", the tagline for this era. the pounding beats with drowned out melodies that makes it feel like you're hearing the song through the bathroom wall at a party winding down at midnight. the line "you don't really read into my melancholia." the narrative of pushing through the chaos of popular gossip and sexist social commentary, to be wrapped up in the soft 'lavender gaze' of a love and to surrender to falling down the love spiral.

Track 2: Maroon

the entire song reads like a narrative of a romance story, seeing vignettes of her falling in love with one connecting factor: various hues of red (the most romantic and bold color) bleeding into maroon. silly mistakes like him spilling wine on her shirt, passionate love marks left on her collarbones, rust that grew from telephones in between long distance calls, the blush on her cheeks. by the time the song ends and so does the relationship, the colors of these memories have faded from rubies and scarlet (remarkably more bright and happy colors) to maroon.

Pretty sure that generation has been dead for awhile but ok, pretend one thing has something to do with another

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The end of Jim Crow laws was in the 1950′s. The first black student to attend a formerly all white school was Ruby Bridges in 1960. 

Here she is being walked to school under the protection of Federal Marshals because angry white people were ready to harm or kill her. 

Here she is in 2010, eight years ago. 

The generation that enforced segregation is not dead, fucko. They were our fuckin grandparents, and it was not that goddamn long ago. 

Google is free. 

Grandparents?!

I’m 31.

My MOM was born the year before school segregation ended.

She was NINE when MLK was shot.

She remembers race riots in her school over school segregation ending in our home state.

My MOTHER lived through this. She’s 61 years old–which means while her own health is shot, people from her generation will be around for another twenty to thirty years.

1956. This is not colorized. IT WAS SHOT IN COLOR. Look at that–segregation was still ongoing in the age of neon lights.

Same exhibit. 1956. Banana splits, poodle skirts, and the ability to get “colored” drinking water only from the white folks’ backwash. You can see the pipe connecting the white tank to the colored fountain behind the little girl in the light pink dress.

Less than ten years later. That’s Martin Luther King, Jr. in the middle. Have you ever seen him in a color photograph before? There are many, but for some reason … maybe because black-and-white makes things look old … nobody ever uses them.

Look at the bank logo in the back. Colored squares like that were a thing in the mid-to-late 1960s. The slicked-down hair on the Black girl in front says we’re not yet to the mid-1970s, and since these signs all say “Honor King” it’s quite likely this is 1969-1970. You know what else was happening in 1969? Not Woodstock, not the moon landing, although both of those things happened. No, something we think of as being much more recent.

THE INTERNET STARTED.

1969 was the launch of ARPANET, which would later become the Internet. BLACK PEOPLE WERE STILL MARCHING FOR BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS WHEN THE INTERNET WAS STARTED.

This picture was taken sometime between 1956 and 1958. I don’t have a precise date on it, but the sleeveless sundress says later 1950s, the hair on Orange Plai says this was after Elvis, and the stars on the flag say that’s not a modern 50-star flag, which was first used in 1959. (We had a single year, 1958, with 49 stars.)

Ah yes. It was so long ago. Let’s get some more perspective:

Donald Trump was eight years old when school segregation was declared illegal in 1954. He was nineteen when the police beat and shot at peaceful Black protest marchers in Selma, Alabama and twenty-two when MLK was assassinated by the FBI for trying to encourage desegregation.

Hillary Clinton was seven when school segregation was declared, eleven when it went into effect, and eighteen when Selma happened.

Bernie Sanders was thirteen when the integration ruling occurred, 19 when Ruby Bridges started going to a formerly all-white school, and twenty-four when Selma happened. Joe Biden is only a year younger than Bernie.

Elizabeth Warren was eleven when Ruby started her new school, fifteen when Selma happened, eighteen when MLK was shot.

You will notice that all of these people are running for President, or were rumored to be running for President, this year. They’re not just alive, they’re thriving. And they were all alive for desegregation–in fact Trump, Clinton, and Sanders were all old enough to either endorse or oppose what happened at Selma.

But let’s keep looking, because they’re probably outliers, right?

Hm. Three of MLK’s children are still alive. They’re between 56 and 62 years old. (His elder daughter died of unknown causes; her family suspects an undiagnosed heart condition.) In fact one of his siblings is still alive, and she was born before him! She’s 96.

Ruth Bader Ginsburg? Yeah, she was 21 when school integration was made the law of the land. And she’s still serving on the Supreme Court.

But tell me again how long ago it was.

I’m sure the people from those generations are all dead, after all.

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my father was graduated from high school when the civil rights act was passed and was in his last semester of college when MLK was killed. i was born in the 2000s

people who remember segregation are very well alive

My mom’s school district in Colorado was only actually FUNCTIONALLY desegregated when she was in high school, in the fucking 1970s.

My mom. I’m only in my 30s. She was born in 1957.

Google is free. Also this is a perfect example of how the American education system is failing

My parents were born in 1943. My grandparents were born in the 1890s. I am only 3 generations removed from slavery and one from segregation.

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Sydney joins around the 30th minute. Some really great insights here, including into the Orlando situation, Jill, Sydneys background etc.

Syd also confirms what a lot of people have been saying for a long time- that the 2015 world cup team won in spite of her, that they coached themselves, could have won without a coach and that playing for her is bad for your mental health...

Casey Stoney: the woman, the myth, the legend

Stoney’s iconic legacy within the footballing community cam be outlined by many things, from her sporting prowess to her enormous success so far as Manchester United women’s first manager to her match punditry excursions. However within the LGBTQ+ community her icon status can primarily be defined within three points: her coming out in 2014 being the first England national team player to ever do so, her having the most adorable family with ex-teammate Megan Harris and their three kids, and her absolutely DESTROYING H*nkle on live television. Lets break this down

Coming out in an exclusive BBC interview in February 2014

"For the last 10 years I've always cared too much what other people think. I was frightened of the stereotypes, frightened of being judged, frightened of what other people might say, especially the abuse you can get through social media. But I think I'm in a place where I feel so comfortable in my own skin, I feel so loved by the person I'm with, that I feel I can face anything."

This was a step forward for not only her own acceptance but also the acceptance of gay people within the (British) footballing environment. Drawing on the massively positive response the diver Tom Daly got just a few month earlier she decided to take the plunge (of in her case, take a shot at it) and publicly come out. She immediately became the most high-profile out player in English football, and the only current out player at the time.

She raised an interesting point about why she was the first woman to do so too: “I could look at it two ways, is it because people don't feel like they need to come out and talk about it because it's never been an issue? Or is it because, like I have been for the last 10 years, people are frightened? Even in this day and age, frightened of being judged, frightened of what people might think of them, or what they might say? It doesn't change you as a person.” Either or, her coming out had a massive impact on the women’s footballing community. Seven months after she did another interview where she was shocked at the hugely positive response and support she received, also stating how much of coming out helped her become “more comfortable with myself, more happy with myself”. Ultimately what she achieved was wider visibility and discussions about the LGBTQ+ community, saying that “if you can raise the issue and get people talking about it then you can start to educate people.”

Happy family

“to anybody who ever questions why we've had children, I'd say: Well look at what we've been through to have them and look at how wanted they are."

In June 2015 both Stoney and Megan Harris spoke openly about both their relationship and their process with a fertility clinic, which was the start of the journey towards the family they have today. From the start of their relationship back in 2011 when Casey joined Megan’s team Lincoln Ladies in the WSL to the birth of twins Teddy and Tilly four years later to the more recent birth of their third child Willow they are the embodiment of what how a family with two mums can be every bit as much of a family as any other model. Their openness with their processes to have children such as through interviews about IVF treatment are also very noteworthy. The validity that comes with them living their lives normally, the acceptance that others get from seeing the way they all except each other is immense and more than worthy of icon status.

Destroying homophobes on national television

“voices in your head are never a good thing love”

The latest thing of gay icon worthy note she has done was when she was commentating an England match and, unbeknownst to her, a private conversation that she though was off air during half time was in fact broadcasted to the whole of the spectator audience. Highlights include [talking about when H*inkle turned down an uswnt place because God told her to] “mate, that’s called schizophrenia… that’s the start of something very disturbing… voices in your head are never a good thing love.” Wiser words have never been uttered. Also of note was when they went on to discuss a Luis Theroux cult documentary she watched where “they’re flicking through all these photos of like gay people and my face appears” “and they’re like no more f*ggots, they should all die and all that, I’m like ‘yeah that’s me! Claim to fame.” It does not get more iconic that that I’m telling ya.

She definitely doesn’t get enough credit. People go on and on about Diana modernising the monarchy- and she did in a lot of ways- but Anne was the one who didn’t want her husband to have a title so her kids could live a normal life. She’s the one who was in the Olympics and showed that royals could have talent and a profession (outside the army) as well as royal duties. She’s the one who handled her divorce gracefully and didn’t damage the monarchy. She’s the one who rides a damn horse in military uniform alongside her brothers because she isn’t going to stand on a balcony and watch everyone else. Her husband can do that. She’s a bad ass. I think she changed royalty for women in a big way. 

This is my kind of woman to admire 

This woman is a fucking legend. End of.

Trump racism poisons all his decisions. Trump can never acknowledge black excellence.

What’s his name and what’d he do? I wanna look him up

sharing to promote Mr Robinson <3

This is to you, Mr Robinson…