i google image searched a selfie and i got john cho harry styles and a some scene kid

i think i’m retired from tumblr but want this to top my blog before i go

RICH GUTIERREZ: A WARNING

Rich has a pattern of sexual assault, consent/boundary violations, emotional abuse and manipulation. This statement is based on the experiences of multiple women/nb people. He has victimized woc experiencing vulnerable or precarious life circumstances. Attempts to directly confront Rich on these matters has proven fruitless. This page will attempt to share helpful information in as clear and accessible a manner as possible.

WHO IS RICH?

Rich is from San Jose and currently lives in Chicago. He plays in Busted Outlook and Permanent Ruin.

https://www.richgutierrez.com/

http://landspeedrecord.tumblr.com/

https://twitter.com/_supremenothing

https://www.instagram.com/supreme_nothing/

https://www.facebook.com/SupremeNothing

http://www.supremenothingpress.com/

https://www.instagram.com/supremenothingpress/

https://mobile.twitter.com/SN_Press

https://www.facebook.com/supremenothingpress/

https://bustout.bandcamp.com/

https://permanentruin.bandcamp.com/

SPECIFIC BEHAVIORS (TW)

• Non-consensually and violently forcing oral penetration

• Restraining partners non-consensually during sex

• Removing condoms during sex without informing partners, non-consensually initiating unprotected penetrative sex

• Seeking out people who are emotionally or socially vulnerable and exploiting their trust in him - these behaviors are a form of predation that is best described as grooming* (see below)

• Positioning himself as a “victim” or as “vulnerable” in order to manipulate people he abuses into being dismissive of other people’s attempts to hold him accountable

• Gaslighting people who have attempted to hold him accountable for his abuse of them

• Enforcing power disparity in relationships by manipulating partners into being exclusive with him; while secretly having concurrent sexual relationships with other people

• Exploiting cultural access and labor from people who he has abused as well as appropriating their work/plans

• Failing to inform potential partners of his past behavior, despite being made aware of the above experiences and their impact.

* Resources on the concept of psychological grooming for people who haven’t encountered the term before:

http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/grooming

(we don’t mean to endorse everything on this website, but it is concise)

http://www.kbsolutions.com/Grooming.pdf

(starts on page 16)

WHY IS THIS JUST COMING OUT NOW?

Rich has successfully constructed an image of himself as a self aware feminist ally, especially using social media to aggressively reinforce this image. Additionally, Rich has social capital and a prominent/respected position. Finally, Rich has been shielded from the consequences of his actions by his friends, in particular Victoria Ruiz of Downtown Boys. When people who Rich has hurt have attempted to seek support from Rich’s friends, or just inform them of Rich’s actions, those friends have discredited the survivors’ experiences and intimidated them into silence.

WHO ARE WE? WHAT DO WE WANT?

This page was written collaboratively by a number of people, then passed along to others for review. We just are sharing this info at the specific request of survivors. This is not an “accountability process.” Over the years people Rich has hurt have made requests of him, and asked his friends to hold him accountable. These efforts have been futile, and only resulted in the further emotional abuse and ostracization of the survivors. We are presenting this information in the hopes of interrupting Rich’s pattern of abuse.

CONTACT

If you have questions, you can get in touch with us. If you have been hurt by Rich and want to connect with other survivors, at least one of them is actively interested in that. Please feel free to get in touch.

richmanpoorman@riseup.net

UPDATES

6/16/17 - We have been getting a lot of e-mails in response to this call out. At this point there are at least 7 women/nb people who have come forward with experiences of Rich’s abuse, coercion, assault, and intense manipulation. Additionally, many people have been e-mailing to share stories about how Rich’s pattern of behavior has been an open secret, particularly in San Jose. People describe trying to discuss Rich’s behavior and being dismissed, disbelieved, shut down. Being laughed at and made fun of by Rich’s friends is also a common theme emerging from these stories.

It’s important to note that NOBODY FEELS SAFE BEING OPEN ABOUT THIS.

Since this was initially posted, despite being publicly contrite, Rich and his friends still continue to attempt to discredit this call-out talking shit on survivors and people they suspect to be directly advocating for and supporting survivors. This has manifested as acting like survivors just have petty beef or using ableist slurs against survivors who are living with mental illnesses. Rich and his friends have also been suggesting that the potential role of white people in this process - as support or as survivors - discredits the call out itself. This is misdirection, and minimizes that Rich assaulted and preys on POC.

We read Rich’s response to this call-out. It was posted on his Facebook. We found it deeply, viscerally upsetting. It is riddled with the same manipulative maneuvers and styles that he used to abuse people. It minimized his acts of abuse. It completely erased the reality that many many people have tried to bring this to his (and his friends) attention for a long time. In his response he even uses almost direct quotes from a woman who he hurt when she confronted him about it. We are disgusted by the amount of space his response takes up, we are disgusted by the accolades and credibility he is garnering from a few people for ~courageously~ apologizing. His flamboyant remorse seems artificial and disingenuous. Rich is integrated within the restorative justice and activist communities in Chicago and The Bay Area. Because of this, he is well versed in the rhetoric of accountability. This is one of the reasons he has been able to dodge accountability for so long.

To all the people who have written in bravely entrusting us with their stories, thank you. Please be patient with us in terms of response time, we are trying to respond to these messages with the care and attention they deserve, and it’s a slow process.

6/6/17 - Since this was posted, so far 2 additional women have come forward with stories of abuse by Rich that involve the behaviors listed above. Also, women/nb people have also come forward with accounts of harassment from him, involving him harassing them about their experiences of abuse at the hands of his friends. We recognize this call out is complex since it also names Victoria, though this is not primarily about her. Since posting this call out, two people have come forward with accounts of her harmful actions, specifically about her intimidation and silencing of people who come to her with accounts of being abused/assaulted by her friends.

important update as of today, 6/16. remember that nearly everyone in the bay, in a social circle rich shares close ties with remained friends with nick haynes after he was outed as a rapist/abuser. 

UPDATE: 6/20/17

We are aware of a video about Rich that is making the rounds and forcefully attaching itself to this blog. We want everyone to know we (survivors and support) have nothing to do with this video. We find it a disgusting display of what passes for “support” in this community. It is violent, triggering, and incredibly racist. We will not link to this video or this blog but if you find it please feel free to report it. If you made this video please take it down immediately out of respect for the survivors and their healing. If anyone is interested in actually supporting the survivors please feel free to boost/re-post the call out and/or email us richmanpoorman@riseup.net 

Also signal boost the post above ^^^^^

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“We Are Still Here” is a Gorgeous Book Capturing the Queer-Inclusive Evolution of East LA’s Chicanx Identity

We come from a long line of resistance.

“Kimiko Nishimoto learned how to use a camera for the first time at the age of 71 and even furthered her skills by taking courses on digital editing to manipulate her images. While she mostly focuses on still life and nature photography, she has a series of hilarious self-portraits involving random costumes and staged falls.” (x)

@yellowxperil <3 <3 

@gayndn <3 <3

Also circumstance - iranian women. 

The Chinese Botanist’s Daughter is a French/ Canadian movie but stars two Chinese protagonists.

Fire is a really good Indian movie.

Butterfly also has Chinese protagonists. The ending is semi-happy as in the original couple doesn’t stay together. I thought it was really good, though.

Spider Lilies has Taiwanese women and it’s directed by a Taiwanese lesbian. It’s an emotional movie but it has a happy ending!

Sancharram (The Journey) stars Indian women. Also really good.

Alles Wird Gut is a German movie about two Afro German women that fall in love. (One is lesbian and one is bi and there’s a happy ending)

How’d y’all forget The Handmaiden? The Korean lesbian heist movie/ erotic psychological thriller by Park Chan-Wook.

this is going around again what a coincidence! @gayndn

RIP America ( July 4, 1776 - Nov. 8, 2016)

i don’t get why people on fb and tumblr are mourning america’s death, even in jest? as if u.s. america would continue its merry journey if clinton had won. y’all are delusional and i don’t appreciate it. fuck america. trump didn’t come out of nowhere. as if from 1776 to 2016 there has been nothing as monstrous as a trump presidency? please. america’s very foundation is rooted in genocide and slavery and continues to deal out of these same structures to this day. this is nothing new

but also, like YEAH, i fucking WISH america would die. it’s a poisonous empire that has overstayed its welcome by at least 240 years

rosi and i made little succulent boutonnières for her moms memorial and she would have loved them and i thought tumblr would too