Blessed be the person who invented mehendi designing
it's about the small acts of intimacy... forehead kisses, putting jewelry on you, rubbing your hand with their thumb, putting a jacket on you, touching your necklace, running your hands through their hair, wiping away their tears, peeling them an orange, un/zipping their dress, tying their shoelaces, holding hands, removing an eyelash from their cheek, washing their hair, putting an anklet on them, tucking their hair behind their ear, sorting out their collar, untangling their necklaces, drinking out of a cup in their hands
you can't hate yourself into a version someone will love
This is for all the people who are struggling but just keep getting up and trying. The ones who keep showing up, day after day, even when they don’t want to. The ones who stare at the fridge, willing themselves to cook food even though they want to skip. The ones who get up and get water even when they’d prefer to ignore their own needs. The ones who keep on breathing, even when they don’t really want to, because they trust the day will come when the tightness around their hearts has eased.
this is for everyone, because everyone here today has kept on being. even on the days when they didn’t particularly want to. the hard days and the sad ones and the hurt ones, too. You are still here, trying, and this is a moment of recognition for all the beautiful work you’ve done.
Keep going, love. The light comes back.
Remember that you are Water
Cry. Cleanse. Flow. Let go.
Remember that you are Fire.
Burn. Tame. Adapt. Ignite.
Remember that you are Air.
Observe. Breath. Focus. Decide.
Remember that you are Earth.
Ground. Give. Build. Heal.
Remember that you are Spirit.
Connect. Listen. Know. Be still.
forgive yourself again and again and again and again and again
Maybe recovering doesn’t necessarily mean you come back to who you were, but you become someone new. Maybe you find a new sense of self. Maybe you like this version better. Maybe you feel like you improved as a person, in a new direction that you didn’t expect to go. Healing comes in different ways, but I hope it works out for you, and that you feel comfortable in your own skin and that you can cope better with any challenges that may come.
Anonymous asked:
hey i could use some help, I communicated to my bf something that he did a few months ago that’s been bothering me and causes me severe anxiety to the point i feel sick and when i did he blew up on me and told me he’s done talking about it and said if i feel like that i should just block him and leave??
hi friend,
from what i read i see significant problems in communication. if the relationship has become really incompatible, please communicate that and then carry out the breaking up part if that's what you want. i know this can be hard. but it's only fair we do our job while taking such drastic decisions. blocking and cutting off without any notice can have unpredictable results for you or them. i hope everything goes well.
Anonymous asked:
i feel like i’m falling in love with my best friend… i am currently in a almost 2 year relationship and he is as well and even though it’s been going better than ever in my current relationship, i’ve had dreams of me and my best friend kissing which triggered those feelings i had before. the reason i love him in such a special way is because i can trust him and because he has showed me that trough 16 years of friendship. he is my everything. my current partner has done many bad things to me (emotionally, not physically) at the beginning of our relationship that have left me traumatized and even though they have truly changed for the better i can’t see past that. those hurt feelings from the beginning still linger in me. i don’t know what to do. i don’t want to break up because i truly love them. but then i also have these pure and true feelings for my best friend. is it love or is it just escapism? anon butterfly 🦋
hi 🦋,
i am in no way capable of providing good insight on this situation because i have 0 personal experiences to relate or analyse. nevertheless i hear you my love.
it is completely okay to be attracted to others when you are in a relationship. but i know infatuation and love are entirely different things. i personally have such a black and white concept on feelings so i really don't know how to support you. if you could talk to a professional that'd be great. i advise you not to disclose this feeling to either of those people atm. because a lot of feelings and emotions will override any logic that can be applied to such conversations.
i know i was of little to no help. i hope u find clarity soon my love. i know this confusion is nerve wrecking. i wish you all the best.
Anonymous asked:
hi! i'm sorry to bother you, but you always seems to be able to listen, if you don't feel like awnsering either don't worry! i just needed to let it out ig. it's been weird lately, getting older, it seems like my friends aren't the same, maybe i'm not even the same, but still, it hurts so much? i get that feeling that everyone's doing their own thing, getting what they want, it's usually such important stuff, and i'm stuck here, with some silly hobbys that im not that great at but it just makes me feel so alive? idk, growing up is so fucked
hi love,
i am so sorry for this very very very late reply. i didn't make time for my tumblr for a few months and answering everything in my inbox is long overdue. of course you are not a bother! let me just dissect parts of your ask and answer them.
growing up is a crazy crazy thing. sometimes the pain of getting into adulthood can seem bigger than us. it is utterly confusing and it might feel like we don't have enough tools to get through everything, especially with people in our lives. suddenly the "forever" or people we see in our dreams start to fade and it's this bittersweet thing you can't stop. it's completely valid to feel confused, lost, and hurt by such experiences and i hope you have the strength to go through them, move past all of this and shed and evolve into more authentic experiences, goals, and people.
we attract people based on our value at that instant in time. and when values change, people who cannot either catch up or accept them will fall out. it's a sad thing. but that also means that new people are out there for newer versions of yourself!
i know you might have already heard that all adults are struggling in some way, no matter how proficient, capable, talented, and organized one seems, we are all in this massive maze of adulting, everyone trying their own strategies to find a path. it's true my love. i know it's hard to accept and the bad part seems that you can't possibly force yourself to accept something as well. you just have to let time make sense to you.
milestones, achievements, goals, the next best thing out there, everything and anything might scare you when you think long enough. especially like you said, seeing our once close friends making waves where you haven't reached yet. a gentle reminder that it doesn't decrease your worth, capacity for success, or your ability to any amount.
please don't disregard whatever is your silly hobby. please don't disown them just because there is no monetary benefit. society's chant of being good at your hobbies has instilled in us to make us hate the act of creation. do not let go of your craft, no matter how insignificant it seems to you or the world. if it makes you happy, it doesn't have to make any sense furthermore.
i know it feels tiring. i really want to insist on i know. and all of this feeling is valid. you will get there in time. make peace with this uncertainty and cultivate the belief that you'll handle whatever life has for you because my love you survived all bad days and every setback 100% by yourself and you can do it still. i am routing for you!
Anonymous asked:
Sometimes i feel like it's hard to open up to my friends especially to the people i trust the most, I am afraid that one day they will leave me because they think i am too antisocial, weak, etc. And I couldn't help but think what you say to them can be use against you. People would also accuse you for being stupid enough because your always dramatic, knowing that mental health isn't a joke. I am afraid that In the end of the day you will bottle up your feelings until you can no longer hold it and blame everything to the world.
I love your advices by the way, it comforts me everytime..♡
hi dear,
apologies for this very late reply. first of all sending you a big bear hug ♡
it is so difficult to keep your heart soft and your hopes high when world has been continuously evil to you. i see that you might have a group of friends which aren't ideal because needing reassurance once in a while and receiving compliments are something that you absolute deserve and i promise you such people do exist in this world. so right now let me be the one to tell you, i am so proud of you love. and i think you are absolutely amazing of a person.
even if you are struggling to find self love or practicing positive talk towards self, it does not mean that another person has the right to treat you poorly. there might be times when we are easily convinced that it's what i deserve but no love. no matter where you are on your mental health journey, absolutely no other person has the right to cause harm or provide lesser treatment and respect. you are worthy of healthy friendships now. not when you are finally healed, not when you finally start accepting yourself completely, and not when you meet people's expectations.
i know that it's scary to keep being raw with your emotions and character when people take advantage of such things too quickly. but i hope you keep going and avoid the decision to bottle up your feelings to fit in. you already are a precious addition to this world love. and soon enough you will meet people who cherish that as well. i know this might feel like a fantasy we like to dwell in to escape reality, but i hope you take this very tumblr post as a sign that everything is working out for you, just you know...for the sake of it.
love you my friend <3
Anonymous asked:
i think you’re a really beautiful person, judging by your blog. you might not perfect, but you’re something to every person that comes across one of your posts on their dashboard. thank you friend
— a person far too shy to come off of anon
aww love that is so sweet of you :( tysm for stopping by to let me know <3
I love you and I hope we both get everything we want and for everything we want to come to us miraculously and we live the life we desire
claiming bestie ☆ love u 2 <3
Oh I love the woman I'm becoming. So present, tender, capable, self-compassionate, inspired and inspiring, committed to growing and healing. I am at a stage where I regularly express so much admiration and gratitude for the fact that I am who I am. And I love knowing that I both am and am becoming. It keeps me grounded in the present moment while also very engaged in and enthralled by my process of evolving. I know full well that throughout this journey I have determined to be tender with myself. I have made love my highest goal and so I return to it always. This is what has allowed me to feel at home with myself again and I love that for me.
anyway literally everyone is going through something all the time!!! everyone is wounded!!! everyone is human & no one makes it out of this life unscathed!! maybe try approaching people in good faith instead of always defaulting to the worst possible interpretations of each other
please please please when something good happens, let yourself feel good! be proud of yourself, revel in that joy, bask in the happiness. you deserve it! you deserve to feel good!!
I hate thinking "okay let me show less love, let me not care so much" | hate that feeling. I should never have to feel that way. My purest form is caring hard and loving unconditionally
Could I just say something real quick?
It’s all coming. Whatever you’re starving for, whatever that ache is that stings your bones, it’s coming. The love, the happiness, the adventures, and the creativity that you are seeking, it is all coming for you. Here’s the thing, don’t let your right now get away. The things you find mundane, keep them. Store them in the pocket of your favorite coat like found pennies. They aren’t futile. Do not let them cause you to feel empty and hollow. They are going to be worthwhile. Keep the hunger for what is coming, but please, keep a tight grip on these little ordinary moments that are happening right now, because they – these tiny pieces of this ordinary affair you find yourself in – are the foundation to your extraordinary. And I promise you, if you begin to recognize your right now, you’ll see your extraordinary coming.
It’s about how gentle you can be; with the rain that you’re touching, the grass you’re running on, the sunset you’re watching, the hands you’re holding, the flower you’re picking, the heart you’re feeling, the breath you’re taking; it’s about how gentle are