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Reblog if you use little space to cope with stress/trauma/depression etc., I want to show my therapist that it's normal

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“If you’re going to fall in love with me, here are some things you should know beforehand. I cry often. Whether it’s during a movie, a sad song on the radio, or a regular Sunday morning. I’ll cry when I speak of things that have hurt me, even if they no longer hurt anymore. I am afraid of being left. And I am afraid of not being good enough. I will tell you the ways in which I hate myself, and not believe a single word you say when you disagree with each and every reason. You can tell me you love me countless times, but I will still be afraid of you leaving me. Don’t blame yourself. I have to expect the worst, because I always get the worst. When I fall in love with you, I will love each crack in your skin and every freckle of light in your eyes. I will fall in love with the way you look while you’re sleeping, and the way your mouth curves when you say my name. I can be difficult to love, but for me loving you will always be so easy. All I ask is that you don’t give up on me, and in return I will never give up on you. And I will love you with my entire heart. And if one day you decide to leave, I will still think highly of you. I will still remember the kind hearted person you are.”

(via dancerwithwolves)

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could you please please please reblog this if!! you’re a baby girl / baby boy you’re a daddy / mommy you have a cute pink blog! or just post any kind of Little Space / DDLG stuff! :3

I really wanna follow more of these blogs!

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reblog if u are a little, daddy or kitten!!!

lets find more kitties daddies and little to talk to!!!!!

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- underagers and kink -

Written by a legal age little | Please reblog if you agree

So I’ve seen so so much controversy on this and most of y’all have probably seen my underage littles policy but i’ve seen some really concerning posts lately and I wanted to make a post about my understanding of kink and if you agree - please reblog to spread the word. I feel like our community is spreading a lot of hate and judgement and as a result, it’s giving the entire community a bad name, and I don’t think any of us want that.

So let’s lay down the basics when it comes to the law.

Firstly, in most places in the United States (that I am aware of), it is not illegal to have conversations of sexual nature with minors (online or otherwise). The laws that have attempted to ban such conversations have, for the most part, been struck down due to infringing upon the first amendment (our right to free speech). (Source) What is illegal, is an adult soliciting a minor - or specifically requesting that they meet up in person to perform sexual acts. (Source)

Secondly, it is not illegal for a minor to view porn or other sexual content online (Source), however, it is illegal for someone to provide sexual content online for a minor to view. And this is where things get messy. 

Because of the aforementioned laws, underagers are being pushed out of all communities that have any relation to kink even remotely. Which I do not think is fair for them, and I also do not like that the adults in the community are doing it in such an unkind way. Many of the minors you are calling “stupid” and sending hate to, will be your fellow 18-year-old kinkster in a few years. When their generation eventually becomes the majority of the legal kink community - you will want to have taught them (by example) to be kind and safe. It is not our responsibility to ‘babysit’ them, but it is our responsibility to set a good example for them.

If you’re an adult with an nsfw blog, flag it as 18+. Any minor that lies about their age in order to have access to your blog will be at fault themselves for disregarding lawful safety precautions. If a minor attempts to follow or interact with you, block them. It’s simple. There is no need to send unkind words to them, or attempt to push them out of the sfw communities on tumblr.

So there are three main categories when it comes to age-related habits (both kink and non-kink) that seem to be the basis of people’s confusion:

Kidcore Kidcore is an aesthetic. Just google it. It is defined on trendhunter as “the progression of millennial fashion to include nostalgic references to elementary colors and kiddie accessories. This shift can be seen as a response to the hypersexualization of the fashion world as well as the embracing of youth culture by older generations, forcing millennials to dive deeper into the realm of comfort, function and simple design.” It is primarily fashion, aesthetic, and occasionally a more basic/childlike mindset or way of thinking. It is a conscious choice, and it is not sexual.

Little Space Little space, also known as cgl, ddlg, or mdlg, is a lifestyle (full-time or part-time, depending on the person), and it is a coping mechanism for most. It is a mental and emotional aspect of a person. It is characterized by regressing to the mental and emotional state of a child younger than yourself, and acting accordingly. It can involve fashion, aesthetic, a childlike mental state, as well as children’s items like pacifiers and diapers, and children’s activities such as small chores, rules and bedtimes, colouring, and cartoons. Little space is often something that is a part of a person since they were much younger and is an effective coping mechanism that they most likely have been using subconsciously for a very long time. Little space is a coping mechanism that is realized, and then how one expresses their little space is a choice. Little space is not sexual.

Ageplay Ageplay is where things become sexual. Ageplay is where someone is turned on by playing a character of a younger age than their own, or their partner is turned on by it (or both). It involves a sexual attraction to the characteristics of a person with childlike behaviours. Ageplay is often confused with little space because some littles are also into ageplay - and the natural regression into little space can make it easier for them to assume the childlike role for their ageplay. Ageplay is a choice, but can be combined with natural habits for an easier transition. Ageplay is sexual.

What I have seen a lot of lately is adults trying to claim non-sexual things such as little space and kidcore as a kink. Which I think is selfish and unfair. We, as adult kinksters, have the entire BDSM and kink umbrella all to ourselves, AND we have the added benefit of also being able to participate in nonsexual little space and kidcore. Why on earth would we take little space and kidcore away from underagers when that is all they have? If they are being entirely non-sexual, and respectful of the adults in the community, then where is the problem? Why do we have to steal communities that are for all ages and make them into adult only communities? It makes no sense.

Some people claim that kidcore and little space are a part of bdsm even though they aren’t sexual. But the thing is, if you google bdsm, or look really anywhere, it’s pretty clear to see that bdsm is sexual. Wikipedia defines it as “a variety of erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other interpersonal dynamics”. 

Some people also claim that kinks aren’t always sexual. But again, if you google it, or look almost anywhere, you’ll see that kinks are sexual. The google definition of kinky is “involving or given to unusual sexual behavior”. Many people would argue “well asexuals can have kinks”. And you’re right!! But it’s not because kinks aren’t all sexual - it’s because asexuals don’t lack a libido! Asexuals can get turned on, asexuals can even enjoy sex! Being asexual means that you are not sexually attracted to any human being, regardless of gender. (Source)

So what I want to ask after all of this, is that, if you are so concerned with keeping underagers out of sexual spaces, why do you keep sexualizing safe-for-work spaces?

I adore this point. There are so many brilliant points here. I am a little of legal age, but I discovered little space when I was 15 years old. I was going through a horrible time in my life and little space was one of the only things that kept me going - knowing that no matter how horrible things got, I could still go up to my room, curl up with my binky and cuddle my stuffies. Getting excited with my other little friends to go to the Disney store. Telling my long-term boyfriend about little space and watching the adoration on his face. Not sexual excitement. It was love, and happiness. If in those times I had been pushed away, had abuse sent to me via tumblr, been “banned” essentially from the only thing that I truly felt comfortable with… I would have lost myself.

This is all so important honestly.