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lol

@wip-in-pieces

porn bots begone

smoked a joint the sorcerer gave me and experienced life as a 1989 toyota tercel from assembly and production until i was left derelict in a junkyard in baker california oxidizing and rusting for 10,000 years. my favorite part was five hundred years in when a family of armadillos moved in for a few weeks

hey guys, i solved it! optimistic fiction and pessimistic fiction have the same moral value! we’ve done it! we’re free

like, ok

i’ll just pass this on to kurt vonnegut and fuckin…elie wiesel shall i

lmao YES like…whether you’re fourteen and creating characters who explode the preps with their brains or you’re an adult writing existentialist french novels…there are SO many reasons to engage with those ideas and emotions that aren’t “i am a rampaging asshole who hates hope” the way apparently some people assume??

like, it’s even reductive of who is experiencing the (fictional) cruelty. “dreaming of the battlefield” in dark fiction is just as likely (or more likely??) to mean “processing feelings of despair by imagining MYSELF as a cursed foot solider in an unending war” as it is “processing feelings of helplessness by imagining myself as powerful and unaffected by emotion”

or like. “hey guys, i actually WAS a cursed foot soldier in an unending war and it sucked shit.” if those guys are pessimists, fine, they earned it

So how do you tell which parts of your routine are load-bearing? I wish I knew, but some heuristics:

Things that are part of your access to food which you’ll reliably eat are often load-bearing. If you get a lot of your calories from the free food at work, you should expect changing jobs to one without free food will throw you off your game. If you rely on the corner store then you should expect that moving to a new place where you have to get in the car to get groceries will be a problem. Going vegetarian can screw up something load-bearing for a lot of people (and I say that as someone who believes that factory farming is morally horrible). Going on a diet is reasonably likely to fuck up something load bearing, and I suspect this is part of why statistically dieting doesn’t work at improving peoples’ lives or health.

Things that are part of the environments you spend the most time in are reasonably likely to be load-bearing.The length of your commute, the environment you work in, whether your bedroom is clean, well-ventilated, high-ceilinged, has natural light, whether you have any space that you don’t share with another person…. for some people ‘having a car’ is loadbearing because it’s a space that is theirs and will reliably have their stuff and get them places. For other people, living somewhere where they can get places without a car is load bearing. 

Cleanliness needs are often load-bearing. This one especially sucks because you can get into a trap where your space gets chaotic/cluttered/awful and this breaks your brain and makes it harder to keep your space clean.

Pets are often load-bearing.

This might be influenced by who I hang out with, but I think personal time when you’re alone and no one has any claims on you is load bearing for a lot of people. Some people have their own room and know they need their own room, but lots of other people make do with a long commute where they can quietly listen to the radio, and don’t even realize that this is filling their need for introvert time until it changes. 

I think people often have a particularly bad time if they have something load-bearing that’s considered ‘indulgent’ or a ‘luxury’, like ‘living in an apartment building with a pool’ or ‘having a big yard I can garden in’ or ‘having an ensuite bathroom with a tub’ or ‘having a soundproofed practice room’ or ‘having a grand piano’. But, like, having expensive load-bearing bits of your life does not say anything about you morally; it may mean that it’s harder for you to get your needs met, and it may not be a preferable situation, but it doesn’t make you selfish or greedy or bad. And, you know, trying to just not have things you need because you believe you’re bad for wanting them doesn’t often work out great.

stop equating femme lesbians to feminine lesbians challenge

and fucking stop treating us like them too

the amount of people that tell me that I should be happy because I have oh so much representation in media is ridiculous, because I have almost never seen femmes represented in media, what I see is feminine lesbians that are sanitized to appeal to cishets in the most boring way possible and if you think that's us femmes, you just might not understand us at all

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“available with premium subscription” “will be removed on the 31st” “available free with ads” “rent 4.99 buy 20.00″ “not available in your country” “not available on this device” what if every streaming service fucking killed itself and films ran around their fields free and organic in their natural state

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The flagship issue of "what about men," the argument that men aren't allowed to express emotion but women are, only makes sense if you ignore the entire history of psychiatry, the ways in which women are expected to coddle and tiptoe around men's emotions, and how higher positions and entire employment sectors are gatekept from women based on their alleged emotional tendencies. Aren't you embarrassed?

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i try not to judge people on their drink orders but a guy just paid £6.85 for the most disgusting beverage i have ever been forced to make. felt like i'd been complicit in a crime

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matcha powder mixed with decaf coffee, vanilla paste, black pepper, turmeric and sugar syrup. it was a revolting shade of puke green and smelled like a foot.

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I sent this post to my SO and they insisted on making it

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how was it?

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I refused to touch it with a 10 foot pole because I was scared, but SO says it was "horrendous", "so many layers of awful", and "the worst part is you can't get the flavor out of your mouth".

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yeah that checks out

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unfortunately i have to inform you that this guy is now a regular and forces me to recreate this beverage for him at least once a week. he calls it "the concoction".

I think that we should stop criminalizing pirating and I wish the government would give everyone $50,000 every month no matter what and I think that people should stop treating sex workers like they're scum of the earth and I wish that we all cared a little more about artists and musicians and dancers and writers and I think we should stop acting like gender and sexuality is the same for everybody and I think we should all steal a little more