God has forsaken me

Hey. Minors following me. Internet safety is key!! NEVER include these in your bio/byf:

In general: stay safe. If you're not comfortable with every stranger out there having access to this information, you shouldn't post it on the internet.

Play devil's advocate and ask yourself about what would happen if someone searched for your information with intent to hurt you. You do NOT owe anyone an explanation!

adding on to this post, i agree w all of OPs points, but i also highly advise against super young teens posting their face on the internet, its so easy to take peoples selfies + name and find stuff out like your school and then figure out the rough area in which you live. same with your phone number. be super careful about what you put out there. once you post it, it really is here forever.

OP already said this so I’m just reiterating to emphasize:

The golden rule of information sharing on the internet is: What would happen if someone saw this who wanted to hurt me?

If the answer is that it would make it easier to harass you, identify you, contact you, or god forbid find you, don’t put it online. You can’t fully control who does and does not see that information--not even with privacy settings.

I keep seeing fic with words censored in the body of the fic like so: c*nt, f*gg*t, q-slur (seriously, come on), r*pe, *nc*st. I even saw a fic where someone was described as “sitting next to his unalived body” which was so absurd it made me laugh.

I’ve seen this trend in tags as well, which would be ACTIVELY FUCKING DANGEROUS if AO3 tag wranglers weren’t literal, actual angels who make sure that “rape” and “r*pe” (and all such transpositions) are treated like the same tag.

AO3 isn’t TikTok. Tag accurately and completely for your fic themes so people can search AND filter. Use the correct words in your fic content so people who use blacklist extensions can actually benefit from the tools that protect them.

If you don’t feel comfortable using a word without censoring it, then don’t use that word at all. Maybe consider why you’re even writing something that contains that theme.

Sincerely,

An actual real life rape and incest survivor who has actual fucking PTSD and really doesn’t want to have to stop reading fic for my ship because people think a god damn asterisk is going to somehow save people like me from being triggered.

cat riding sheep

peace on planet fucking earth

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Reblogging because you never know who might need to read this, right now. 

Reblogging because

you never know who might need

to read this, right now.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

this is an incredibly helpful resource for transgender folks looking to get hrt!

people big ableist widespread ignore people talk hard. autism schizo others. taking lots effort word way people reblog. not asking need understand read know learn us. try

nobody tries get into head learn saying what saying. discouraging!!!!! tiring. lonely. big dark room fumbling tap walls nobody there keep tapping!!!!! tap tap tap nobody listens wants to TRIES understand

just asking stop ignore. pretend not exist please. blind eye lots always schizo autism violence hurt trauma. this perpetuates

listen when talk even if not understand. try please

please reblog

tl;dr: please make an effort to talk to and understand people with speech difficulties

now that my verbality is mostly back, i figured i’ll not only translate what i was saying last night when i posted this but also add on to it

a lot of people are pretty ableist in that they ignore people who have difficulty speaking, or who speak in alternative ways. some autistic people, schizospec people, people with learning disabilities, people with intellectual disabilities, mute people, and various others often face ableism from people who don’t want to put in the effort to listen to them and their alternative speech

when i was writing this original post, i was having a hard go of words. it was taking a lot of effort to sort out my words and my speech enough for people to even somewhat understand what i was saying. to be clear, what i’m asking isn’t that people force themselves to understand us. i’m asking that they try

nobody really tries to understand what people with language difficulties are saying. nobody tries to follow the thoughts of people with disorganized speech. it’s incredibly discouraging and exhausting for the people who are being ignored. we try, and try, and try again, only to find that people still ignore us and pretend like we’re not even there. we aren’t included in anything despite trying our best, and we eventually give up and succumb to depression and loneliness

i’m just asking that you stop ignoring us. stop pretending that we don’t exist. people always pay no attention to trauma and violence autistic people, schizospec people, and everybody else with speech difficulties face. when you ignore our attempts to reach out to you, it perpetuates this trauma and violence that we face, and it only leads to more hurt

even if you don’t understand us, please try and listen. please at least try

once again, please reblog this if you can. others may add on, but i don’t want fully verbal people to talk over us

this shit fucked me up

This is why I hate the like, casual ha ha aren’t men awful jokes that people like to casually throw around.

Like, men are victims of the patriarchy too, and loneliness and isolation is what brings out the worst in people.

I’m not saying you have to be nice to or defend wretched men, but don’t treat them as wretched just because they are men. Treat them as wretched because they are wretched.

still don’t really understand how some people have trouble just being nice

Oh my gosh you’re such a good person. Hey everybody come look at how much of a good person this is.

i literally cannot comprehend how you got offended by this but thanks for proving my point anyway

I don’t mean to distract from OP’s post but my dash won’t let me see what the second image is, it’s just showing me this:

And I am losing my goddam mind.

You know what this reminds me of, only in reverse? …

wait. shit. oh god. I can’t unsee it…

Can someone put this one in on the reverse? with the ‘no fear –> Be Kind to each other –> one fear’?

The original comic was about Simpsons porn?

This is possibly the most tumblr-y tumblr post I’ve ever seen.

Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances.

I'm pretty quiet about the fact I'm a transman usually, but holy shit I need to tell you about the culture shock I'm going through because it's blindsiding me.

There's a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. All strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me.

It made me realize that there is no inherent camaraderie in male socialization as there is in female socialization—unless, of course, it's in very specific environments. And the fact I don't amnbiently experience this mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling.

You know how badly this would have fucked my mind up if I had grown up with this?

It is 4:30am and I'm mourning the loss of a privilege I didn't even know I had.

Anyway, I'm going to figure out how to navigate this. Don't know how yet, but I'm gonna.

Absolutely, because it's an extremely sticky issue.

Frankly, this is something I would've never understood without living the experience.

It's now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition. They're deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously fuck with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it's happening and what's causing it.

It's like they're starving, but don't know this because they've always been served 3 meals...except those meals have never been big enough.

This deprivation comes from all sides of aisle, by the way.

In the case of women: When I'm out in public and interact with women, all of them come off as incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless. I have never experienced this before even though I know exactly what this composure is—the armor that keeps away creepy-ass men.

As someone who used to wear it myself, I know this armor is 100% impersonal. Nobody likes wearing it, and I can say with absolute certainty that women would dump the armor in favor of unconditional companionship with men if doing this didn't run the risk of actual assault. (Trust me when I say women aren't just being needlessly guarded.)

But I only have a complete understanding of this context because I've experienced female socialization. If I hadn't, I would've thought this coldness was a conspiracy against me devised by roughly half of the human population. Even now, with all that I know about navigating the world as a woman, I'm failing to convince my monkey-brain that this armor isn't social rejection.

And as for male socialization? Again, it seems taboo for a man to be platonically intimate with men for reasons I have yet to fully understand, but I think it boils down to a) the fact society teaches boys that it's not okay to be soft with each other, and b) garden-variety homophobia. Our media only shows men being intimate with one another when they're teamed up against a dire situation, and I'd bet real money it's a huge reason why men gravitate toward activities that simulate being teamed up against an opposing force.

But men are not machines of war. Yes, testosterone absolutely gives you Dumb Bastard Brain, but that just makes you want to skateboard a wagon down a hill or duct-tape your friend to the wall, not kill someone.

The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.

I can see how men might convince themselves that their feelings of emotional desperation is personal weakness as opposed to a symptom they're all experiencing from White Imperialism. Because this human connection, this frith, is as essential for our wellbeing as water is.

So sick. How sick. I want to destroy this garbage.

This is specific to modern US culture, and especially has gotten way worse in the last 50 years. I mean, possibly other "western" cultures? I don't know how far its range extends in contemporary space, but my main point of contrast for it is time.

read works of literature before the last 50-100 years and you will find yourself extremely culturally divided from those works' image of masculinity.

Honestly, this is a big part of a lot of the "homoeroticism" people often see in classic works of literature, not that it isn't there, but that our culture is so, so repressive about men showing affection to other men that affectionate behavior is seen as automatically homoerotic.

Discourse on this subject is brain-rotting simply because no one wants to acknowledge that there's a wide range of behaviors that are neither exclusively romantic/sexual nor exclusively platonic, and what specific behaviors "mean" is often only known to the people doing them. Two people can want to cuddle and hold each other as romantic lovers, and they can also want to cuddle and hold each other as friends, and the idea that platonic feelings/behaviors and romantic feelings/behaviors never overlap, or that there's no state of stable ambiguity between the two, is making everyone stupid.

I recently read the book Jesus and John Wayne which was about the American idol of hyper-masculinity and how it's intrinsically connected to the Christo-fascist evangelical faction dominating politics.

A "strong military" needs "strong men," and people who see the world as made of outsiders, enemies and hostile Others to be subdued have channeled their anxiety about America and/or Evangelicalism losing dominance into a gigantic panic about "sissy boys" and "effeminate" men.

The men in today's United States have mostly grown up in a world where "men" shouldn't have affection or tenderness, where "men" shouldn't cry, where "manhood" is about violence and aggression and "conquest," whether that's conquest of stolen land and territory or conquest of the literal physical bodies of women (these things have a weird cultural analogy between them). The depth of how horrible it gets is really shocking.

There has been a ton of anti-feminist sentiment in America that holds men to be inherently violent and aggressive and war-like, because testosterone or some innate quality of manhood, arguing that women need to be protected from men's dangerousness by sequestering them under the control of "good" men. And so-called "radical feminists" have picked that shit up without questioning it.

you guys will really see an american person make a post about their own life and be like "um op this is massively uscentric, maybe consider every country in the world and the experiences you've never even known about before you post on tumblr. Unbelievably selfish american behavior"

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Guys…. uncontacted tribes are not stupid. Most of them know about the modern world and simply choose not to engage with it. 

Its so fucked up that the ace community experienced so much (and I don't use this lightly) trauma at the hands of other lgbt people and no one fucking addresses it

And if you have the privilege to doubt if it was truly traumatic? If perhaps that's too strong a word? Maybe reflect on that. Because there truly is no other way of saying it.

The person who said I should have also mentioned the aro community you're 100% right aro folks were subject to this same horror and you deserve to have that acknowledged

All the aro and ace and aroace people leaving their stories in the tags of how scared they were or are to this day to come out TO OTHER QUEER PEOPLE know that I read them all.

Every day i think about those black musicians whose songs were made into covers by white people and now everyone thinks that these are the originals. Youtube comment sections are full of people like "is this what it feels like to find out you're adopted?" instead of celebrating and promoting the original creators of the songs.

Gloria Jones - Tainted Love

Little Eva - Loco-Motion

Martha & The Vandellas - Dancing in the Streets

James Ray - I've Got My Mind Set On You

Big Mama Thornton - Hound Dog

Robert Knight - Everlasting Love

Erma Franklin - Piece of My Heart

The Family - Nothing Compares 2 U (written by Prince)

The Supremes - You Can't Hurry Love

The Supremes - Keep Me Hanging On

The Top Notes - Twist and Shout

Lord Creator - Kingston Town

The Paragons - Tide is High

Commodores - Easy

And here's an entire playlist with songs by black artists covered by The Rolling Stones:

why is this so accurate? 💀 🐪 🏜

people on tumblr love adding "this is the funniest comment ive ever read" "every part of this image hits like a truck" "okay but can we talk about (lists all the things that make a joke funny)" in the comments. why dont you keep your voice down and let the posts wash over you in blissful silence

If you can, please donate to the Internet archive, links in the description. The loss of the archive would be devastating for dozens of reasons.

I know the Library of Alexandria comment sounds like an exaggeration. It absolutely is not. As of May 7, 2022, the Internet Archive holds over 35 million books and texts, 7.9 million movies, videos and TV shows, 842 thousand software programs, 14 million audio files, 4 million images, 2.4 million TV clips, 237 thousand concerts, and over 682 billion web pages in the Wayback Machine. It’s been operating since 1996, the loss of knowledge would be impossible to ever completely come back from.

The lawsuit from Hachette Book Group, HarperCollins, John Wiley Sons, and Penguin Random House alleges there have been significant revenue losses because of their controlled digital lending program. For context, most libraries in the US also use CDL to distribute books to their patrons wherever they are but those programs are run through for profit companies and the libraries are often paying a very high fee to so their patrons can have access to digital books. The Internet Archive’s program is completely free but they have a policy of not digitizing and lending anything less than 5 years old.

The lawsuit goes on to note that authors often own larger shares of their revenue of digital vs. print copies of their books. So the publishing companies, seeing that they’re underpaying their authors, are essentially blaming a library for being free instead of bumping up what authors earn on print copies. The Internet Archive’s 5 year policy is designed to protect authors anyway as that’s when books typically make the most money.

If you don't take your jaw joint for granted (by which I mean, you recognize how important it is in helping you chew, eat, breathe, swallow, and every other basic action that you do hundreds of times a day in order to survive), then I would suggest you donate what you can to a good man who lost one jaw joint due to trauma, and whose entire life's quality and betterment hints on one already paid-for surgery that he can't afford to take unless he has the money to survive while recuperating with a wired-shut jaw for a whole month. Literally all he needs is a month of expenses. Then his life is changed forever for the better.

And you could help change it, with a $1, $5, $10, $20, $50, or ANYTHING.

Think about how vital it is you can eat and swallow and chew without agonizing pain.

Now please do what you can to help make sure Kalen can too.

Help him avoid having to pay $800+ every month for another year until he can finally get his surgery. That's $800 he's saving and can help with his meds, rent, and literally everything. And all he needs is just ONE MONTH of expenses. Anything you can spare. Please.

Thank you.

PayPal.me/bigskydreaming

ko-fi.com/kalenp

It's nearing the end of the year and Kalen still really needs your help. Please donate what you can. Please reblog and signalboost. The surgery is already paid for, he just needs ONE month's worth of expenses so he can take the time off to recover after his surgery and not have to spend $800/month again for the next year. Please help him so he can get this surgery before year's end. That's just one month away. Please help.

Reblog if you wish you had little fangs and could bite people.