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Thoughts from the Sin Bin.

@wingedkiare / wingedkiare.tumblr.com

Whitney: bi writer/artist/creator, married to TheBoy, mother to the Kidlets. Living with Crohns & anxiety. Mermaid. Pirate. Rebel Scum. Hockey Fan. (She/her) 
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Oh shit. No. Shit. Thank you

Just gonna reblog this out of gratitude because I actually did forget…

Fffffffff let me get right on that. 

and then reblog for the next forgetful son of a bitch

I’m so great full for everyone that is reblogging this. I totally forgot to take mine

I think that there is some sort of unspoken fairy godparent thing where you see this, realize that you forgot your meds, and rebagel it because if you forgot someone else must have. And in our turn we all take care of each other, even if we don’t know it.

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YOU THINK I’M JOKING BUT I’M DEAD SERIOUS

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one day this comic will reach a million notes and then i’m going to quit my job and become a couch

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Huh? What’s this? I don’t remember ordering something that big.

Oh, it’s a sofa? I already have one, though…

Hang on, my job sent me this? Is this some sort of bonus or something?

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Huh??? It’s empty?? Then why was it so heavy…

Oh hang on what’s this?

I’m not sure I can reach it…

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Oh crap!!!!

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Everyone who isn’t reblogging this version is a coward and a villain

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life actually gets better when you leave the house consistently btw like im serious

if you don't know where to go, just wander! go to the store and don't buy anything, go to the library just to sit and do whatever you were going to do at home, go to a park and just walk around/sit outside for a bit (weather permitting, of course)

just put some headphones in and walk around the block a couple times if you really have nothing else to do, just getting a bit of air and change of scenery is so good for you

me the first few weeks of forcing myself to go on daily walks (it gets better tho)

i really need tumblr to learn the concept of “if you physically cannot do this then this post is not talking about you” because jesus christ.

Anonymous asked:

so its just like a fetish...?

Y'all see what I mean when I say I get crap for it?

No! It is not a fetish! It's this neat term called gender nonconforming. Y'see I'm a female, I was born as a female, but my ideal self would have a dick and no tits. I've had plenty of people tell me I'm confused, that I'm just trans, but they're all wrong. I tried that, went through that gender exploration and it just wasn't me, I'm not a guy.

It's not a fetish to present the way I am, who I am. You wouldn't call a nonbinary person fetishistic for wearing a binder right? I have a packer, a binder, an stp, these are things that aren't strictly for trans folk and people need to start realizing that.

I always hear gender (and the way you present) is a spectrum but people really treat it as if there's only three viable options. Cis, nb, and trans, while dressing accordingly to each. Stray from the image people have in their mind and suddenly your transphobic, your fetishizing other people for being who you are.

Basically, just fucking let people choose their own gender and present how they want. You're a cis dude who wants tits? A vagina? Or go on E? Fucking go for it. You're a cis girl who wants a dick? Doesn't want breasts? Maybe you even want to go on T? More power to you.

Fuck the people who say you can't be your ideal self. Fuck the people who say your body represents your gender. After all you wouldn't say that to a trans person right? So why would you say it about anyone else's gender?

If I gotta fight a million anons, make a million posts for people to understand they don't have to stick to the three options society has made popular than I will.

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If anyone wants to be shitty about this you can go through me first.

I hate that people call it transphobic to align this way, because, truthfully? What I see as transphobic is the insinuation that a flat chest and/or a penis is antithetical to femininity or womanhood. If you can't accept cis women that feel more comfortable with a flat chest, or having a penis, or whatever other instance of gender nonconformity you're gonna be shitty about, then not only is that real fucked up, but you're also a hair's breath from transmisogyny.

OP is absolutely right. People should be allowed to do whatever they want with their own bodies if it isn't harming anyone. That's just what bodily autonomy *is*.

Transphobia is an interesting term, because one of the core principals it revolves around is the destruction of bodily autonomy. So if you don't believe people like OP deserve that right to bodily autonomy, you're essentially stating that you only care about the fundamental bigotry that transphobia runs on if it has the "trans" prefix attached to it.

Leave people like OP alone.

When are we gonna get to the point where we stop looking for an "acceptable" queer target to bully? Cause this happened with bi people, then trans people, then pan people, then ace people, then aro people, then poly people, so on, so forth, and im sick of it.

I'm a non-op binary transgender man. I have a vagina! Given all the money in the world, I would still have a vagina. I'm a binary man who likes having a vagina. It's not a fetish, it's just a male vagina. Sometimes men have vaginas. Sometimes men *want* to have vaginas, and they are still men. Sometimes women *want* to have a penis, and they are still women. People should have access to whatever gender-affirming care that damn well pleases them.

This might be a hot take but also if it was a fetish, I don't think that should matter in the slightest. It's not like having a fetish is a big boogeyman that makes someone wrong. You can be trans or cis or kinky or vanilla or whatever about gender and it doesn't matter.

There's something deeply entertaining about Elon lying about why he's rate limiting accounts (if you think about it for more than a minute, his "scraped content" theory makes no sense).

If you've missed it all, it's come out that Elon wasn't paying Google Cloud and their contract was set to renew.... July 1st. So the best theory is that Google cut him off and he lacks the devs to easily adapt to the change. So instead, they tried to rate limit users so that they could make their fix on the site.

Of course, Elon had made it so Twitter constantly refreshes, leading to people being rate limited quickly. But also leading to Twitter DDOSing itself.

He also made it so you have to be logged in to see tweets.

And basically made it unreasonable to pay for a verified account, even if they give you more tweets to be able to read. "Verified" refers to Twitter Blue accounts, and they were promised better amplification. How can you get amplified if most of Twitter gets locked out after scrolling their feed once?)

Advertisers also don't like having ads behind registration, and probably won't like that Elon's cut off the number of impressions they can get. Leading to them pulling their spends to take elsewhere.

the difference between how link does gender and how zelda does gender is that link decides what pronouns he’ll use that day based entirely on what outfit he’d like to wear, and zelda has a calendar up on the wall with five months blocked out weeks ahead of time and labeled “boy time”.

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When I was a kid, I regularly lost reading privileges for "having an attitude" and "acting out".

It wasn't as simple as being told not to read during other activities- one of the first times it happened, I remember being six years old, watching my stepfather pull fistfuls of books off my bookshelf and throw them to the floor in a heaping mess while I cried and asked him to stop.

It was weird. Every other adult I knew described me as exceptionally well-behaved, but at home, it was the opposite, and it was blamed on "learning bad habits from that shit you're reading".

Because I couldn't read at home, I spent all my free time at school in the library, reading with my friends.

When I grew up and moved away, I realized that my family life was toxic and abusive, and the "attitudes" I was being punished for were standing up for myself, standing up for my younger siblings, and resisting actual, real-life psychological abuse. Because I'd learned from what I'd read that my family wasn't normal, not like my parents said it was, and in my stories, the heroes were the people who spoke out when it was hard to.

It is insane to me that there are students right now who can't access books. It is insane that books are being outlawed. It is perverse that we are stealing away an entire generation's ability to contextualize their lives, to learn about the world around them, to develop critical thinking skills and express themselves and feel connected to the world or escape from it, whatever and whenever and however they need.

That is not how you raise a compassionate, thoughtful, powerful society.

That's how you process cattle.

It's fucking disgusting.

It's patriarchal fascism. If children don't have a frame of reference for "normal" beyond what the Authority chooses to give them, they won't object when the Authority does something abnormal (or fascist)

I don't know if I ever posted this shot from the desert in February 2018 of Michael and David (he's getting mic'ed up, not mugged). It was the kind of panoramic shot that decides that Michael is a big floating giant head.

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I started playing Breath of the Wild, and my therapist approves. She never played the game, but she asks me what I did in the game. "I beat a monster on a giant eagle, basically. And then I spent a few hours trying to run errands for this bird's little babies, because how could I not?"

"Does it relax you?"

"I mean, in the moment, their problems are my biggest problems, so yeah." "Then keep playing."