people who can graciously hide that they don’t like people are so terrifying. last year while working on tech for a play i asked my friend how he became friends with another guy on the crew and he got quiet, looked straight into my soul and said “he’s not my friend. i fucking hate him.” i lost 5 years of my life

A I R  S I G N S

I hate this post because I am an air sign and I don’t see how this stuff is terrifying. This is just, you know, how you do.

You’ve got something that needs to get done, it doesn’t really matter if you like a person, you can still treat them well and be kind to them in order to make things go smoothly. Just because I hate someone doesn’t mean they need to know it.

This just in, only air signs act like fucking adults

There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen. ~Rumi~

all good things are wild and free

hot take: ‘chivalry’ is fine as long as it’s adapted to 21st century values. if you are a male, you SHOULD be aware that your female friends face certain issues that you as a male dont. acting on that awareness in a way that keeps your female friends safe, isn’t a bad thing.

like… opening doors isn’t rly chivalrous when it’s just a thing you ought to do for everyone. but real 21st century chivalry might be, like, standing between your female friend and the guy that’s trying to get her drunk, or offering to walk her home when it’s late.

if the ‘chivalry’ inconveniences everyone involved and you’re just doing it for your over-inflated male ego — ie, “no you’re the girl here, you HAVE to let me hold this door for you and do all these things for you even when you can do it yourself and im just slowing you down” — then it’s just outdated misogyny.

Chivalry was literally designed to make nobles aware of their power and influence so they don’t unintentionally harm people when trying to do their job of leading and protecting people. Modern chivalry should carry on that sentiment of men and white people becoming aware of their own power of privilege and influence to help and protect the lives of their peers.

*Not to inflate their egos, but because it’s the good thing to do and makes the world a better place to be.

Chivalry, at its core, involves being helpful to people who don’t have your advantages. 

It involved generosity and protecting those weaker than oneself: including opening doors when doors were made of badly fit heavy wood and often got stuck,and women, especially undernourished exhausted-from-childcare women, had a harder time opening them. It involved not lying, and following through on your promises. (A guy who is consistently late with the accounting reports, which delays the whole team, is not dedicated to chivalry, no matter how polite he is on a date.) 

Chivalry is a code of ethics that involves dedicating one’s strength and skills in service to others; it’s not based on gender roles. 

Chivalry is a code of ethics that involves dedicating one’s strength and skills in service to others; it’s not based on gender roles.

quietly working together on your own projects in the same room as a form of intimacy.

Never forget that people younger than you have things to say that are just as important as what you have to say!!

Exciting News!

This fall, I published my FIRST CHAPBOOK called “In Full Bloom”. This is a compilation of my poetry/creative essays/fiction writing surrounding themes of love, growth, and healing from the past. I will be having a chapbook release party on January 18th at Hamline University’s campus where I will be reading parts of the book and telling stories while trying to make everyone laugh with some relatable humor😁 And you can buy the book there for only $7! Or if you can’t attend but would still like a copy, please DM me and we’ll get one to you! This was a long and stressful project, but it finally all came together, and I’m so thankful. Here’s to growth and blooming into our best selves💖🌷

hearing someone you love laugh is? easily one of the best things on earth

Iain Thomas; I Wrote This For You (via sunsetquotes)