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First, do no harm: Some thoughts on rules as a safety mechanism - More Than Two
Primum non nocere. It's a Latin phrase that means "first, do no harm." It's not part of the Hippocratic Oath, but it is a central tenet of bioethics in most of the world. It also, I think, makes a pretty good tenet for relationship ethics as well. A few weeks ago, I received an email from Dan Savage's personal assistant, asking if I was interested in helping craft a response to a person who'd written in to Mr. Savage with a poly problem.