There's no going back after a tragedy, or a death, or a loss, or a change. Why would we diminish growth? We grow into something else that's more than what we were before the tragedy happened. We can never become less than what we've ever been-- we can only grow. And resistance, trying to go backwards, is only going to lead to stagnation, to frustration, and to heartache. That's exactly what happened to me in 2018.