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People Judge You Based on These Two Things When They First Meet You, According to Harvard Psychologist
People decide how they feel about you within seconds of introduction, but what exactly are they evaluating you on? Harvard Psychologist Amy Cuddy has been studying the science of first impressions alongside fellow psychologists Susan Fiske and Peter Glick for over 15 years. In her latest book, "Presence," Cuddy explains that people quickly answer two specific questions when they first meet you. Can I respect this person? Can I trust this person? Psychologists refer to these dimensions as competence and warmth respectively, ideally you want to come across as having both. Cuddy says that most people, especially in a professional context, believe that competence is the most important factor. At the end of the day, they want to prove that you are smart and capable enough to handle your business. But in actuality, warmth, or trustworthiness, is the most important factor in how people evaluate you as a person. "If you look at it from an evolutionary perspective," Cuddy says, "It"s far more