Empathy Vs. Sympathy - Joe Borders, MFT
A common problem that comes up in couples counseling is when one partner tries to "fix" the other person's problems rather than listening and providing accurate empathy. It is ok to want to help your partner in any way you can, but if you provide a solution without empathizing, your partner may be left feeling unheard, misunderstood, and unsupported. This can be confusing for the "fixer" who is only trying to help. Receiving accurate empathy from our partner makes us feel heard, supported, and understood. These feelings are a fundamental attachment need that each person needs in order to feel safe and secure in a relationship.