In Search of Family Time
Six years ago, when my husband David and I drove a different, couch-less U-Haul from New York City to a small town in Ohio, we had many thoughts about how marriage and family life ought to be, and we were concerned by the trends we saw among our soon-to-be neighbors: low marriage rates, high divorce rates, and high rates of children born outside of marriage. We were thinking a lot in those days about how beliefs shape behavior. For example, we noticed how flawed notions of love contributed to tenuous relationships and a merry-go-round of marriage and divorce. (“Love is effortless,” one woman told me, citing the hard work of their marriage as the reason she was divorcing her husband.)