The Punishment Spiral (and how to get out of it) | Erik Young Counseling LLC
courtesy of How it starts… a familiar story? Your child does something you've told him not to do. In fact, you've him not to do this thing many times before. Frustrated, you snap at your child "how many times do I have to tell you?! Cut that out!!" Maybe you ground them for a year… because time out and losing video game privileges hasn't helped. Maybe you start ranting like a crazy person about how the child is irresponsible, disrespectful, etc. Maybe you even engage in corporal punishment with a spanking. Then, you look at yourself and how you are acting. You realize that should things go any further, there's going to be a visit from child protective services in your near future. Your kid is in all likelihood experiencing a full on meltdown by this stage. You are too. You feel helpless to get your child to listen and you don't know what else to do. Welcome to the punishment spiral. As a parent, I've been there…. more than once. In fact, it's at this