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HOW TO DEAL WITH Toxic Relatives this Christmas -
Toxic relatives – Relatives that affect your emotional and mental well-being, i.e. gas lighting, verbal abuse, etc. Emotionally Draining – people/ circumstances that drain your energy and damage your mental health. Gas lighting – blatant lies intended to distort your reality and make you susceptible to their control. Often times the Holiday Season is stressful and can be uncomfortable for young adults to process. I’m not talking about the annoying household chores, or helicopter parents. Relatives, friends and family, biological or otherwise, who lie to your face or make comments that affect your self-esteem; those with draining characteristics. Some people dress up for holiday family meals, but if you’re a college student like me, you may not have the funds to compete with the Uncle Gucci and Auntie Chanel. Don’t allow bullying from family members, or anyone else! Or maybe, the freshman fifteen carried into fifty and fatphobic relatives enjoy making you feel uncomfortable with their stares and comments. ‘Friends of the family’ give you a few extra sidelong glances; or a lingering hug- all of these things may contribute to your mental health. If you’re made to feel uncomfortable, please, expose the situation and then leave. When confronting your toxic relatives…after you have attempted to explain your boundaries and what makes you uncomfortable, you may be met with criticism, or more derogatory comments about you. Often times, it’s better to protect your energy, and mental health by way of distance. If there is no change in behavior it is not worth your energy. Tips to Avoid Toxic Relatives Find less toxic relatives to lodge with, or pay in advance for an AIRBNB or hotel. Feel no shame in avoiding physical and verbal communication with toxic relatives. I speak to everyone at once, “HEY everyone Merry Christmas,” then hug my…