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Seneca, On the Benefits of Friends and Keeping Score | Reflections on Theology and Moral Philosophy
The wise, on the other hand, are gracious, the wise look for the good, the wise are forgiving. Those who are evil find fault with their neighbor but find excuses for their own faults, while those who seek to love their neighbor seek to see the good in their neighbor's heart, excusing their faults, while searching their hearts and repenting of their shortcomings. Seneca agrees, saying "wisdom lends grace to every benefit, and delights her soul by recollecting the benefit." But the wise man "takes delight not so much from receiving the gift as in having received it, and this joy never perishes, abiding always. Though the wise man may despise the wrongs done to him, he forgets them, not accidentally, but voluntarily. The wise man does not put a wrong construction upon everything, or seek someone to blame, but rather he ascribes even the sins of men to chance. The wise man will not misinterpret a word or a look, he makes light of all mishaps by interpreting them in a generous way. He does not remember the injury, rather, the wise man remembers the earlier and better deed," except when the bad deeds totally overwhelm the good deeds. The wise man lives a life of purposeful naivety.