Are you asking for what you want?
Sometimes I don’t ask for what I want and then I end up tolerating things I don’t need to. Recently, I received a jury duty summons. The summons was sitting on my desk for a while and I was resigned to going, but as the date approached I felt more and more squeezed by the time commitment. I don’t know if it is ever convenient, but at this moment in my life, it truly isn’t convenient. So, this morning when I picked up the summons to look at the details AGAIN, (as if I could wish my way out of going), I decided to see if I could postpone for 6 months. I called the number and found out that I was calling too late… For a moment I thought, oh well, I guess it was meant to be. Then I decided to call the number that they said you could call if there were extenuating circumstances. I wasn’t sure I qualified, but I thought, “why not try?” They can only say no. So, I called. The woman asked me a few questions. I wondered to myself, “Are my answers ok? “. I knew she was the gatekeeper of my jury fate. Then she said, “How about January 19th, then you will only have to do 4 days? WHAAT??? I couldn’t believe my ears... 4 days versus 5 days AND with the date in my calendar, I could plan for that time. I hung up the phone and felt RELIEF. Then I thought, WOW, so why don’t we ask? Here are a few reasons: Fear of rejection Fear of judgment Complacency And yet, there is a price of tolerating, it is called resentment and powerlessness that is unnecessary. So, I invite you to push back on something that you are tolerating and ask yourself, is there something you can do about it? Is there a request you can make of yourself in the form of an action or of another person? You never know, just asking, the answer may surprise you. It may be a gift you are waiting for.