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10 Tips for Overcoming the Pain of the Past - Glen Guyton
We all handle trauma and abuse differently. We may even have different definitions of what abuse is, depending on our culture and context. As men, we have a tendency to bury our feelings and hold on to trauma. This behavior can be harmful to our emotional development and well-being. It can also affect our ability to develop meaningful relationships with others. At some point, we have to deal with our painful past and do whatever it takes to move forward. Here are few steps that can help you begin to let go of the past. Your Memories May Betray You We tend to think that memories are stored in our brains like data on a computer hard drive. Neuroscientists have shown that each time we remember something, we reconstruct the event, reassembling it from bits and pieces of data throughout the brain. “Psychologists have pointed out that we also suppress memories that are painful or damaging to self-esteem…, as a result, memory is unreliable.” Memory reshapes itself to accommodate new situations; it is an incomplete portrait of the past. You Can’t Undo the Past Life does not have an eraser. You can only shape your future. No matter how much anger …