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Terry Real: 'I Side With the Woman' - Strong Women, Strong Love
In my last blog post, on emotional labor, I cited the work of renowned couple's therapist, speaker and author Terry Real. Real's work is important, and it has the potential to change your marriage, so I wanted to tell you more about him. A great starting point is the post "The Awful Truth: Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be Intimate" on Real's website. It's a case study about his work with a couple during a two-day therapy session aimed at saving their marriage. This is an intense read. The couple, Peter and Jenn, struggle with problems that affect a lot of marriages. Their early passion for each other has fizzled. She's tired of trying to build intimacy, while Peter seems incapable of it. He feels she's undercutting his authority with their children, while she worries about his toxic temper, especially with their son. To top it all off, Peter has also been unfaithful.