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What 2015 taught me
So here we are, another year down. I haven’t taken much time to go through this post, so I will apologise in advance as it will probably be me vomiting random thoughts onto my computer. For me, the years are wracking up and I feel none the wiser but I know I will only have an opportunity to become wise if I take the time to sit down, take stock and learn from what has happened. I am going to get old regardless. There will most likely be no consistency to these revelations and musings and the tone can be serious to stupid in the blink of an eye but again, in being genuine, this is how my brain works. I have sustained quite a few scars this year – unfortunately almost all psychological, the physical ones are easy to recover from. But as above, if I can learn from them, it hasn’t been in vain. And although not all of the lessons make sense right now, I certaintly feel as though I know myself a lot better. So here it goes, lessons life has inflicted on me in 2015… Things change Nothing in life is guaranteed and when you get too comfortable you get knocked on your ass. You don’t have to have a contingency plan for every conceivable outcome or expect the worst but just enjoy what you have and try not to take the good things for granted. Live a life in line with your values and beliefs I’m not going to go all Tony Robbins on you but this is really something I learnt the hard way. Take the time to step back and establish what those values are and then live by them. This won’t be a very difficult thing to do because if you are not living by your values, your body – and life will have some subtle ways of trying to nudge you in a different direction. These nudges may come in the form of short term unhappiness, longer term ‘depression’ or just general feelings of angst, frustration, malaise or a ‘gut’ feeling that you are not on the right path. Do yourself a favour if you are going through these feelings, do something about it because if you don’t life has a way of eventually forcing you to make a u-turn, and the further down the road you travel ignoring these signs, the more catastrophic the change in direction will be. I have not only seen this in my own life but in friends, families and clients lives. Cut negative people out of your life This should be a no-brainer, but it isn’t and I can’t stress it enough. It can be like an itch or death by 1000 cuts, it is easy to ignore at first and before you know it you feel like shit and lose all self worth completely. Which conveniently ties into the next lesson… Surround yourself with positive people It may seem very mechanical, but sit down and make a list of people that make you laugh, energise you or make you happy to be around. Then commit to spend more time around them. You really are the average of the people you spend the most time with. Also bring something to the friendship too – a coffee or free food is always good. WOWBURGER gives Bunsen a serious run for its money Five Guys is also very good but at almost 16 sterling for a meal, it is a bit pricey when you can get 2 Bunsen meals for that. First world problems. Drink more water I have been so inconsistent over the years with this but I have made a bigger effort to get on top of it this year and I am not sure if it coincidental but when I am hammering the water out of it, people tell me I look better and more rested. Just get on it. KNOW YOUR WORTH This is something I have always struggled with, especially as someone with low self-confidence but unfortunately as I age, I see this ‘bashfulness’ / low self confidence as a bit of an excuse or cop out. The unfortunate reality is if you don’t know your own self worth, someone else will establish it for you and it will always be less than what you are and this will create another downward slope and people will treat you like shit if you let them – even ones you love. Take time to get to know yourself, know what you want in life – and just as importantly know what you DON’T want. Don’t settle for anything less. Tattoos don’t hurt as much as people say they do I may actually like Dogs as much as Cats I never thought I would say this. It is early days but the slingshot may be the answer to my benching problems My last bench PR was 3 years ago. I haven’t topped that number yet but I will soon and I really feel like this piece of kit is going to be a big factor in doing so – I will confirm or scoff at this in 12 months time. I drink a lot of Coffee When an American informs me of this fact, I probably need to stop and reassess my life choices. Listen to the compliments There are probably some of you out there that have no problem doing this whatsoever but the majority of folks are so concerned with what everyone else thinks of them that they don’t hear the good stuff, only the negative. Just open your ears and take the damn compliment. And then say thank you. Generally people that are at the top of what they do or are successful in their field have no ‘balance’ in their life I mean, I know this…we all know this. It is an all or nothing deal …