2018 be gone!
I always like to write these blog posts as it is a cathartic process to see the year out and to take stock of the previous twelve months (previous editions can be found here and here). It can be hard to write these articles without some air of self-indulgence but these are only lessons that I have picked up in my own consciousness and I can only write them from my own point of view, so obviously they will be tinged with my own bias. So even though this is essentially a form of self-therapy and closure on the year for me, until I can find a more appropriate platform for this style of blog post, here will have to do. Hopefully you can pick up something from it or at least be entertained for a few minutes. I have also mixed the lessons of the year with the gym highlights for no particular reason whatsoever. Finally, this post may have a more sombre or serious tone than previous ones and this has much to do with the aftermath of my past 4 weeks and even though my current disposition is ephemeral (I just wanted to use that word), I am already looking forward to a better 2019! Allow yourself to be you I am an emotional person. I have spent the best part of 38 years apologising for feeling a certain way about certain things or in certain circumstances. I have begun to realise that feelings are a natural and unique thing. They make us what we are and are nothing to apologise for. It does help to be objective and try to observe these feelings from the outside to understand them better. There may be ‘wrong’ reactions to certain feelings but the feelings themselves are not bad (until they are acted upon). This is something I am working on. Always be grateful to the people that helped get you where you are Bringing my Dad to a Man City game I grew up planning to bring him here to watch me play but my knees had other ideas. At least I could bring him to a game in some capacity. I need to do more of this. A cross to bear Mental health. This is one that I have been sitting on for a few years and one that will get me a lot of flack. Many times I have felt an urge to write about this but from a PR point of view it is a minefield. When it gets to the point that numerous people talk to me about this, I feel that I need to say something. Mental health is at the forefront of a tonne of platforms these days and especially in the fitness industry – depression is waved around like a badge of honour. I think people are too quick to use this label and also incredibly quick to hide behind it to demand excuses for terrible behaviour. Again this will get me in trouble and it is not to take anything away from people that do have depression but I feel that it needs to be said. I have grown up up around this – I used to visit my grandmother in psychiatric wards as a child, I have grown up with a close friend who suffered badly with depression in their teens and family members that suffer from this. I feel like a lot of people are going through hard times – and as an observation I see this on a sharp increase and I blame social media and technology generally as we are on call for work 24/7 and feel we need to be busy every moment of the day. People are feeling OVERWHELMED (I have to credit another close friend for this observation) and could deal with this better by seeking professional help. I am not belittling mental health matters in anyway – it is an incredibly sensitive topic but I detest people on social media that have a significant following and ability to ‘influence’ others and abuse their responsibility by cheapening this problem by using it as an excuse to negatively affect others and excuse their own bad behaviour. Some people will dislike you regardless Surely the above piece will bring some criticism but people that know me know how genuine I am and that the above is coming from a good place. I have spent most of my life trying to be liked by everyone or please people and have learnt that some people will just dislike you no matter what. This used to get to me. Accepting it is a relief in someway. But you can’t fake being at peace with this, you genuinely have to believe it. And fuck those people anyway. Men I see a terrible need for a lot of men to get help. I am lucky that I can talk to a lot of my guy friends and they are all well read and smart men that are in touch with their feelings and not afraid to express vulnerability. They are good men and it drives me nuts when I encounter women that harp on about how all men are bastards or have some sort of hidden agenda. I have had murmurings of this in the gym and nipped it in the bud very quickly – its just a lazy and jaded viewpoint and won’t change anything. In terms of the men, I don’t quite know how I can help with this as often times I feel like my life is in disarray but I would love to be able to do something. There is a strong need for something for men. Like it or not, roles are being blurred and a lot of men are feeling lost and without calling, unable to live up to old traditions and it is a real challenge to come to terms with this. I would really like to provide some sort of platform to help with this – suggestions on a postcard are welcome. This …
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