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How to 'Say' It So Your Children 'Do' It | MAMANUSHKA
We’ve all been there. A screaming tantrum at the supermarket. Bickering kids in the backseat. And my personal favourite, the day your lovely child refuses to cooperate with anything (naturally, this is also the day you have the most things to do). How is it possible that after years of daily reminders, attempts at building good habits and forever using our words and modelling how NOT to use our hands, our children still don’t seem to listen to us? Some days, I feel like a scratched CD that keeps repeating the same three chords. If any of this resonates with you, then read on, for you are not alone. Recently, while listening to an archived episode of one of my favourite podcasts, I came across a nugget of information about how to get your children to listen to what you say and learn to follow the right rules. Apparently, the technical term for this technique is Value Based Advice (as opposed to Rules Based Behaviour) and the thing to do is to teach the values upon which rules are based. So, instead of saying “don’t leave the table before everyone is finished”, say “we wait for everyone to finish as a …