Standoff, DADT, and Judges Lawsuit
Good Morning...We begin our Holiday week with a little breaking news and plenty of controversy to end the year.I got tweaked again for calling the Girls...Girls.A woman called Friday to say she didn't want me to call Brooke and Jeriann "girls". She said she used to work as a nurse. She said when she was still working, the Nurses struggled to get the Docs to call them "Ladies"...and not "Girls". I've posted these thoughts before but here's my take.I have more than a professional relationship with Brooke and Jeriann. They are my friends and my colleagues. Just like a woman might say she is going to dinner with "the girls" when referring to her friends, I would say the same about my friends here.More to the point, wasn't the Nurse's request intended to change of behavior, not words? If I behave with respect toward you isn't that the desired outcome...actual equality?Sometimes I feel like we get caught up in debates like this and it overshadows actual issues of equality. At one time, these types of embedded culture were very important to debate. Those debated helped change culture. We'd all look sideways at someone in an office setting if they called a female colleague "sweetie". There is certainly still discrimination of all kids in the workplace, but if you ask younger workers, I think they'd tell you we enter the workplace on a largely equal footing. In saying this I'm intending no disrespect to the women who forwarded important issues and fought cultural stereotypes in the American workplace. The good news is their efforts are bearing fruit now.To the News:StandoffThanks to Roger Riley and Megan Reuther for putting together this overnight news. It looks like a domestic situation got out of control. A lot of us talk about Holiday stress...and it may be for us . There are a lot of people who have even more serious trouble with the Holidays and depression or stress. I'm not aware that was the situation here but it's a reminder of that possibility.DADTThis was a misguided law to begin with. It's long past time for it to be repealed. Now here's my question. A LOT of people are in favor of letting openly gay men and women serve in the Military. If they're willing to die for their country, the thinking goes, they should be able to do that.So why is it OK for these Men and Women to die for our freedom, yet it's not OK for them to enjoy the same freedoms and rights the rest of us do? Much like the issue of equality in the workplace this issue of the rights of gay men and women will become a non-issue as the years go by. Younger people don't care. They realize that now law, is going to change the facts. These people are gay. Ignoring that is not going to make them go away. Judge's LawsuitThis feels a little bit like sour grapes. If the law wasn't followed I guess they should vote again, but do we really think the outcome is going to be different? I would guess even more people would be mad about having to vote again. Worst of the BestI love Christmas music and agree with a lot of's hard to dislike any of it. That said, there are a lot of...less than desirable versions of Christmas songs. So do you have a "best of the worst"?Hope your Holiday week is beginning well.PWD