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Thank less - Anna Rosenblum Palmer
It has been a crappy morning. I woke to a rejection letter that I sneakily read before my morning medihation (not a typo). I try to meditate before email so I have a fighting chance at clearing my mind, but obviously I failed. I spent my 12 minutes breathing and thinking about how thin my skin is. Then chastising myself for thinking that. Then judging myself for thinking anything at all during my 12 minutes. I somehow started the toothbrush before putting it in my mouth and sprayed toothpaste in my eye. This is no happy gentle Tom’s of Maine toothpaste either. It is full on chemical filled whitening crap that lightens my teeth about as well as meditation clears my mind. There is nothing actually wrong of course. The fix n shit went under contract last night. My boys are lovely and snuggly and the three of us enjoy our current book so much that we sneak in extra reading time. Stealing it from tech time no less. I try to remember these good things as I pack for my day. But instead I am in a muted rage. I ask Leo if he ever just feels mad for no reason (might as well turn my crap mood into a teachable moment) as he hugs me before leaving for school. He tells me I am not mad, just sad. And he says it with such compassion and love that I don’t yell at him that he is WRONG. Oliver skips out of the house chanting the five lines of gratitude that he will recite at this mornings school assembly. I say thank you when others help me or do something kind. I show my appreciation through my actions and words I appreciate the things in my life I know the Earth and its resources are a gift I show appreciation of my learning environment by keeping tidy and cleaning up after work and play When he showed me the sheet, vibrating with pride that he had been selected to stand on the stage I asked this series of questions: 1. Did you write this? 2. Are there any changes you would make if you could? 3. What do you think of the last line? What message is that sending? My dislike for institutional messaging seems to come out everywhere. I want the students to develop their own sense of gratitude. Beyond this I interpret the last line as a directive. Sure, be thankful for the earth and shit but you better keep your crayons in rainbow order. He leaves the house reciting this doctrine. Repeating the last line as he heads out the door. I arrive at the coffee shop to meet my accountability cousin. We have been writing across a wobbly two top from each other for three weeks. On a less grouchy day I would be happy to see him. Today I am buried in my spreadsheet, tracking the assignments I have given myself. When we take ...