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My son hung out with Hitlr  - Anna Rosenblum Palmer
Leo hung out with Adolf Htlr in the lobby of his Roblox game. When he told me this I was uncharacteristically quiet for a minute. “What?” Was my eventual nuanced response. “Yeah. I told him I was offended by his user name and he asked if I was a Jew. Then I said yes and also said that I thought other people would be offended. So then he said “burn all Jews” and someone else joined in.” He is telling me this in a matter of fact tone. Next to him Oliver is nodding his blond head in support. “It was horrible” Oliver adds. Turning back to Leo I continued “What did you do next?” “I asked him to go to another lobby and when he wouldn’t I took a screen shot of our conversation and then I left.” This sounded like a good start to me. “Then I reported his user name to Roblox…but I didn’t get a screen shot of the part when they were talking about the gas chambers.” So there it was. Threatening hate speech targeted at my kid and possibly worse, a second voice chiming in (his?) support for Adolf Htlr. This is how it builds from one person to the next. This is how 12 year olds find their voices. And sometimes the voices say horrible bigoted things. We are looking at each other across the table. My boys are calm. I think that my ten year old has handled it well. He stood up for himself. When that didn’t work he documented the problem, went to an authority figure (the game moderator) and then left the area. The only thing I wish he had done differently was talk to me in real time about what was going on. He agrees to do this in the future and turns back to his plate as if things are all tidied up. I realize that Leo isn’t taking this any more personally than he would have someone who told him his voice sounded like a baby. This attack has happened 20 times to every 1 time he was told he should die because of his religion. I think we need to review the difference between bigotry and trolling. So together we sit down and I watch him compose a second letter to the moderators of Roblox. Dear Roblox, I am ten year old boy who happens to be Jewish. I was playing Phantom Forces and I came across a player whose name was xXAdolf_Htlrxx. Now I said to him. “That name is sort of offensive do you think you could leave this lobby?” He told me no and asked if I was Jewish. I told him I thought a lot of people would be offended by that user name. Then Saintsrow3rdfan said “gas all j3ws” and then Adolf said “burn all J3ws!!!!!!!” And slayer32xx345 said “it’s only offensive to certain people” I said it was offensive to me and they told me to leave. So I ...