Self care is not selfish
Who looks after the carer? We all hear about ‘taking me-time’, but what does this look like in reality? A massage, haircut, even a manicure, all take the time that can sometimes lead to the carer feeling guilty for indulging. But there are a few little things we can try and build into our daily routine, to help us feel just a little rejuvenated. Keep snacks and treats for you: These are just for you, you don’t have to share. They aren’t everyday snacks but treats for moments when you’re feeling especially stressed and need to take a quick break. Focus on your breathing in a mindful moment: Taking a moment to focus on your breathing. Deep belly breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth. Make positive connections with others: Positivity breeds happiness, so take a moment to call or write a note to other parents/guardians to tell them how awesome they are doing Keep a happy file: Collect the notes that praise you (and your child). Put them in a file folder in a special place. After a discouraging day, flip through the contents – it’s guaranteed to give you a smile. Drink water Put down the soda, coffee and energy drinks and hydrate. By the way, I know I am not the carer, but it is all just as relevant for me; I feel guilty if I ask to be driven and collected from medical appointments, so asking to be driven for a manicure or likewise feels even more like I’m disrupting my husband’s day ….. I know he would never refuse, but who can explain our emotions. Now I just need to practise what I preach :)