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@whyugottabsorude

trophy husband and protagonist
in my outcast era | unaware of the protocol
certified bad bleep

when barbie said “im not pretty anymore” i really felt that except maybe more like “im not smart anymore”

So the mainstream take on straight women finding out their bae watches porn has shifted from jealousy and insecurity about their appearance, to shaming themselves about their ‘too vanilla’ sexual preferences and just.. wow, way to miss a point there by ignoring the elephant in the room, which is the fact that your man shamelessly consumes content from a misogynistic industry that’s based on dehumanising, torturing and exploiting women.

guys used to be ashamed of it, now they’re being told they can shame women for not being comfortable with it. women are being told to be comfortable with disrespect and the fact that their bf gets off on misogynistic content. 

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Now when a woman is alarmed and complains that her husband/boyfriend masturbates to filmed prostitution and violence against women she gets told : “all men do it”, “it’s normal”, “it has nothing to do with you”, “you should try it”, “try watching it with him and learn what he likes”, “I’m a woman and I watch filmed prostitution too haha” “I’m a woman and I watch more filmed prostitution that my boyfriend haha” etc. She is made to feel insane, overreacting and outdated. 

I wish I could tell every single teenage girl that she doesn’t have to be okay with porn, and it doesn’t have to be a normal part of life perpetually, and there is nothing wrong with her for not wanting anything to do with it.

Girls - if you find a (prospective or actual) boyfriend/husband views porn, tell him that you will break up with or not date him unless he unfollows all explicit channels on social media and abstains from porn for at least three days*. Tell him that any self-respecting woman wants full faithfulness, and doesn’t want to date a man who looks at things that degrade women.

If you’re married, I think this qualifies as sexual immorality, and thus divorce is in your right. But ultimately, follow the teaching of your church on this issue; I’m just some guy with a blog.

*It’s unrealistic to expect him to quit forever in an instant, but he has to start somewhere.

Love this ! <3