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I will say that it's objectively ridiculous that people blow off midterm elections considering that one entire half of our legislative branch and 1/3 of the other half are up for election each time, to say nothing of the state and local races.

i will never forgive popular UT fanon for using chara as a scapegoat in the genocide run and making "sans recognizes them and attacks them on sight regardless of what run they're in" headcanons so pervasive.

mostly because "restless spirit of a long dead child who's obsessed with the concept of cosmic retribution and facing consequences for your actions" + "guy whose job is just that but he treats it on par with his hot dog sidegig" is potentially one of the most hysterical dynamics you could come up with

The reason so many people think it’s so much easier to raise boys than girls is because so many parents don’t actually raise their sons.

They love their sons, they coddle their sons, they spoil them as best as they can and shield them from consequences, but they don’t actually parent them or raise them. Don’t teach them manners or self control. Don’t do any of the actual hard parts of parenting like teaching manners and respect or enforcing boundaries or teaching them their words and actions actually have consequences and other people’s feelings and well being matter too.

They think it’s so much harder to raise daughters and make “ooff good luck with that haha” comments at parents expecting a girl because parents actually do all that shit for their daughters, and yeah what do you know it’s hard! Because being a parent is really hard when you actually do it right!

And this is why you get so many teenage boys and grown men out there in the world who perpetually behave like overgrown spoiled toddlers always throwing a big tantrum when they don’t get their way or GOD FORBID actually have consequences for their words or actions, because like a lot of boys they weren’t actually fucking raised at all, actually parented while they were growing up.

It has always been my firm belief that this is behind the mass radicalization of young men, not any neglect or punishment of men’s feelings.

Nah, their feelings are too catered to. When a boy is raised from birth to expect the world to defer to his superior intellect/capability/etc. and part before him like the Red Sea, eventually he’s gonna reach the age where he finds out the world he was promised as his birthright doesn’t exist, and boy will he be pissed. Add in never having to learn interpersonal skills or emotional regulation because all your conflicts were handled for you, all the consequences for your misdeeds waved off so you wouldn’t have to feel hard emotions, and suddenly the great mystery of the incel movement seems simple.

Really, “we’re not doing enough for our boys’ mental health” is a self-negating statement. When society’s reaction to mass killings is not to condemn the perpetrators, but to worry about their mental health, is that not the emotional coddling of men in action?