OKAY SO FOR ANYONE THAT FEELS LIKE THEY SHOULD SHAME PEOPLE FOR HAVING STRONG FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVEN’T KNOWN THEM FOR THE LONGEST TIME, I GOT A STORY! I have recently gotten out of a relationship of 8 month. Which isn’t that long, of course. But long enough. The guy I was with was emotionally abusive. I like to pin myself as independent, strong, and a tough bitch in general. But being with this guy made me feel powerless. He was controlling. I felt like an idiot. I couldn’t express my insecurities. And that the medical issues was just something he “dealt” with. I felt that I was always doing something wrong. I finally got out of that, and my friend introduced me to one of her friends.
This was a little over two weeks ago.
In those two weeks? I found this guy who has so much in common with me, it’s insane. We get along so well. He’s gentle. And kind. And very caring.
Whenever my medical problems were acting up, he put on his car so I can cool off, he bought me something to eat and drink. He is also an emergency response, so he was taking my pulse, watching my breathing. Making sure I was okay.
I feel like I can tell him anything and I trust him. He told me about this girl he slept with before he even knew I liked him back, because he said he felt guilty. Honestly, with people I have dated before, I didn’t think people like this were out there anymore.
He bought me freaking tator tots even when I said I didn’t want anything because he knows I like them.
For my birthday, I told him how I felt. I’ve known this guy for a short time, and he got me a present. He was taking awhile to get it together and I had no idea why. When he finally came, it was in a small blue box. Inside was some bowties (because I love them) and cowbell for an inside joke we have. But, I noticed something on the bottom of the lid. Every time I tried to read it, he’d take it and close the box. I didn’t think much of it until I got home and read this. (The photo really sucks because my camera is cracked. But you can pretty much read it)
Because even though I’ve barely known this guy, this was the sweetest thing anybody has ever done for me. I’ve had more compassion with a guy I’ve known for two weeks than someone I was with for 8 months.
It’s not about timing, it’s about the person.