when the going gets tough, you should shatter into a thousand pieces that will never go back together like they did before

I think parents don't understand how punishing a child isn't for when they make you upset, it's for when they do something wrong. Like, you don't just punish them for stress relief, it's so they can learn right from wrong.

So if your kid learns, for example, that helping mom make dinner = getting in the way, but not helping = being lazy, but asking if mom needs help = being annoying and asking stupid questions, then you have basically trained a person to see the only option that doesn't lead to scolding as 'hide and don't be thought of until dinner is done'. So now what relationship is your kid going to have with cooking or cleaning or chores in general? How is that going to affect them as an adult?

If there is no right answer regarding the things that bother a parent, then your kid is going to associate those things with being punished no matter what they do. If talking during a car ride is bad and annoying, but being quiet and staring out the window is bad and disrespectful, then what are they going to do every time they're in the car with you but count every word they say? If texting is suspicious, but why don't they have friends, but going out with people is irresponsible, but why don't they ever leave their room, but their friends are all bad influences, but why did they stop hanging out with them, they were nice kids, then what are you even doing?

If playing video games is lazy, going outside is unsafe, playing is ignoring chores and doing chores is being in the way, then YOU'VE CREATED A CHILD WHO'S LEARNED THE ONLY WAY TO AVOID BEING SCOLDED IS TO DISAPPEAR WHENEVER YOU'RE IN A BAD MOOD! You've created a person who is hardwired to feel guilty no matter what they choose to do. You turned them into a confrontation ninja, who can vanish as soon as a hard conversation enters the picture. You've trained a person to disregard why rules exist and instead focus on who they can placate and suck up to in order to make the rules change. Because to them, rules and punishments are just who gets on the bosses nerves at the wrong time.

OR you've trained an enemy.

There is more than one type of defensive response - Fight can work as well as Flight when ultimately neither really works.

& then you've created someone who struggles to adjust & learn to deescalate in other interpersonal dynamics.

The damage is deep & long reaching, no matter how it manifests.

Generally I think there are three main aspects to transphobia:

Transgender people are affected by all three of these aspects in various ways, no matter what type of transgender person they are. The specific ways in which these aspects affect different types of transgender people differ, but no transgender person is exempt from oppression through any of these aspects, no matter how much they perceive themselves (or others) to be.

In a transphobic society, transgender people are perceived through all three of these lenses at the same time or different times, depending on what is convenient for the transphobe.

Understanding transphobia through this framework is instrumental for predicting the ways that transphobes behave.

Generally I

think there are three main aspects

to transphobia:

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

why do boobs have to be covered what secrets do they hold

Victoria’s if I remember properly

No, Victoria's secrets hold them.

soooo today i learned that back in the early 90s, coca cola tried making this thing called “ok soda” as a marketing stunt to beat out pepsi since they had way more of a hold on the “younger/rebellious” generation at the time, and their way of doing that was naming it “ok soda” so that they could copyright the word “ok”, the most popular word in the world, and at the same time brand it as an…ironic soda??? like the whole thing with it was that they tried to brand ok soda as a counterculture soda but instead of making it about typical 90s RADICAL EXTREME!!! fodder the theme of it was uh. unsettling capitalist brutalist dystopia. instead of being bright and colorful the color scheme was only stark whites, grays and reds and the cans looked like this. bold shapes and labels stating ominous, robotic things with a figure always staring dead into you on the front, no coca cola branding on it at all.

sometimes there would be “prize cans” of this stuff where instead of having soda inside it there would be hats. and they didn’t sell this option in boxes by the way they just put prize cans in random vending machines. and put like 25 cents in it so hey. you could get an actual soda that isn’t just hats. maybe.

did i mention that this soda also had a fucking MANIFESTO??? because yeah it sure had that printed on some cans and it goes as follows

and there’s these things called “coincidences”, which… yeah it doesn’t make it sound any less ominous

and you might be wondering how the soda itself tastes like does it taste good? ok? well apparently it was just a regular “citric” tasting soda but somehow they fucked it up so bad that it was compared to “carbonated tree sap”, and instead of trying to make the drink taste better they included that it tasted like shit, INTO THE ADVERTISING SCHEME ITSELF. they would literally advertise that it tasted like ass as a part of the ironic marketing, no i am not kidding.

but if you thought that’s where it ended there’s one more curveball and without any exaggeration, you will not expect what i am about to tell you.

take a look at this guy.

this guy is the “face” of ok soda, as in he was printed on the most cans and technically served as a mascot of sorts for the entire thing. his face was a major part of the branding, and this design for the cans was one of if not the most common.

okay. cool. no issue there right?

take a guess on who this guy is based off of.

the artist’s coworker? a generic guy? the artist himself? a relative? some random reference model they hired?

CHARLES MANSON. YES, THIS IS REAL. MEANING FOR A BRIEF MOMENT IN TIME, CHARLES MANSON’S FACE WAS USED AS A MEANS TO SELL COCA COLA.

the lead artist himself has even come forward to say this is the case. and now you may be asking wait. how’d he do this? how’d he possibly get away with this, years after the crimes had been committed?

well according to him, it was simple. apparently none of the contracts he signed said anything against putting a mass murderer on the can. so. there’s THAT.

unfortunately or fortunately depending on how you look at it, ok soda never really caught on since *surprise surprise!* teens really don’t want to buy soda that looks like a brutalist art museum, and it never had a wide release so it was only a thing for like two years between 1993 and 1995. but from what i’ve heard there’s still people who are giving this soda a small modern following, collecting all the cans and merchandise and even coming up with stand in recipes for the soda formula itself.

so yeah! that was ok soda.

what the fuck

On top of that, look at the caption near the bottom of every can:

CARBONATED "BEVERAGE"

I'm 100% sure the designer wasn't just "eh, why the fuck not" about this project, he was actively trolling from start to finish. That the quote marks underscore just how awful the drink was just drives home that there are no coincidences.

Guy who transforms into a swarm of locusts when shaken vigorously: hey can you turn the music down it's resonating kind of hard and shaking the ground and I don't want to endanger anyone

DJ Loudmusic: SORRY I CAN'T HEAR YOU OVER THESE SICK JAMS! HERE'S MY NEXT SONG, "EPIC JUNGLE BEAT THAT GIVES LOCUSTS THE DESIRE TO KILL HUMAN BEINGS"

OH, TO PERSIST DESPITE YOUR SELF

One acre is huge when your only concern is mowing the lawn and keeping your grass nice.

One acre is laughably, lethally tiny when you're actually trying to live off the land (not just having a hobby garden) ESPECIALLY if you're keeping any livestock bigger than a few fowl.

That's why you hear about homesteading families in the Olden Days owning 200, 300, 600, 2,000 acres of land. They HAD to have that much or they'd go hungry and/or broke.

Depending on the size of your stock, quality of the grazing, and your husbandry practices, cows and horses need anywhere between 1 and 6 acres PER ANIMAL PER GRAZING CYCLE. You should have at least 2 grazing cycles a year.

Whoever runs theselfsufficienthomeacre dot com has clearly never actually worked the land for longer than a year.

Historically speaking, the typical subsistence farming household in the Mediterranean and Han China is 8 people and 3-5 acres. And those don't typically have cattle. And modern horses? In addition to what's mentioned above, AIUI most modern breeds are too big to subsist entirely off grazing. You'll still need feed.

The start of FFIX is so funny, see this princess? Not yet. Thief band, yay! Actually not yet. You're a little kid, would you like to become a slave?

And then the second chapter is like "By 'little kid' we meant 'failed combat doll.'"

I have to finish reformatting everything and adding an updated conclusion, but I'm working on getting this posted as a free guide on my Patreon page. I'm busy as hell today so I won't say exactly when it's going live, but I'm aiming to have it up by the end of the week. Patreon's text editor doesn't like it when I paste in big blocks of text, so everybody cross your fingers it doesn't keep freezing on me.

It took me longer than I meant it to, but this guide has officially been posted and is free for all to read! It also includes that NPD Jams playlist I was talking about in another post. 😀

Creating Characters With Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A Sensitivity Guide

If you like it or get anything out of it, I would be super stoked if you could reblog this post and help share it around. Thanks! <3

People have been so nice in response to this, omg??? Thank you all SO MUCH. I spent a long time on this and I'm so glad people are already finding it helpful. 💜

A quick summary of the last 16 months

It's been two more years

hey man everyone loved how convenient and easily forgettable you were on earth. u were the least inconvenient person out there. my buddy told me you were super helpful and nice and didn't take up any space and just slid away from their mind as soon as they stopped looking at you. it was really impressive how little of an impression you made on anyone. sucks that it didn't save you man.

WHY IS THIS POST GETTING NOTES

As someone who has lived in both countries - Canada's racism is just different than America's racism. Although not having dealt with it from a First Nations or Inuit perspective I wouln't be able to give it that lens, but it's just ... different. They're both wrong. But they're differently flavo(u)red wrong. Like do you want your ice cream in seagull flavour or wallaby flavour. Both are wrong.

For future reference: What they did there is an Actual Crime, and so is selling it to them after they said that. I say this not to criticize you, Nonny, but to tell you that you are not only within your rights but on extremely solid legal ground to refuse the sale at that point. Bigots can get fucked.

(Criminal Code s.88, Possession of a Weapon for a Dangerous Purpose, and s.99, Weapon Trafficking. Bear spray intended for use on people is also a prohibited weapon.)

A collection

Y'all.

Y'all.

What the fuck.

He what now.

Wait. Waitwaitwaitwait.

THAT James Somerton!?!?!?!?!

No words exist to cover how badly I want to see this whole thing now

May he plow the Lord’s fields in heaven

Dave Brandt was probably the longest running no-till farmer in the state; he'd been running his land no-till since 1971. He experimented with fertilizers, cover crops, and different irrigation techniques and he'd been doing all of that for a very long time.

The guy was an institution all on his own; look at this.

I know I've said it before, but--that first point, there, about the "A" profile of his soil? Every time I think of it, I am taken aback with genuine awe.

So this is a picture of the soil horizons. The O profile/O horizon is stuff like fallen leaves, sticks, and so on, which are biodegrading into the A profile. A fair amount of soils might have no O profile at all.

If you are a gardener, the A profile is what you're concerned with most of the time; it's what we also call "topsoil." Your seeds germinate into it, and shallower plants might root into it alone without ever reaching the B profile. Worms and other small delvers live in it. It's what you're amending, what you're testing, what you're tilling, what you're trying to fill up with good microorganisms to work with your plants and provide you with food or flowers or cover.

I see this quote around sometimes, attributed to radioman Paul Harvey: Man — despite his artistic pretensions, his sophistication, and his many accomplishments — owes his existence to a six inch layer of topsoil and the fact that it rains.

Without the topsoil, bluntly, we starve. And there are other problems, in places with a lack of it; without the topsoil, when the rains come, the water strikes hard soil. Hard soil doesn't accept water easily, so instead it pools and runs downhill. That action makes flooding, makes flash floods, makes standing water that carries disease, it contaminates the water table. Cholera is a huge problem in places with a low A profile that receive too much water at once.

We are seeing topsoil depletion across the US. I can't speak for other countries, but the heavy-tilling agricultural habits we've adopted here have obliterated inch after inch of our topsoil; in the 1800s the average depth was fourteen inches! Today it is six. Many suburban lawns have even less. This has knock-on effects we don't even consider on the day-to-day (for instance, there's some suggestion that the lower amounts of various minerals in vegetables and fruits today in comparison with earlier decades might be because of the lower amount of minerals in the soil for the plants to take up into themselves).

And this gentleman took soil that had been that abused and not only returned it to what it had been before the aggressive, destructive European agricultural policy had its way, but trebled that earlier depth.

His land protects the land around it from flooding. His land grows plants less susceptible to disease, because of all the various stressors and pressures those plants aren't confronted with. His land almost certainly has a considerably higher concentration of microorganisms and it would follow that we'd also see greater diversity of macroorganisms thereby.

Honestly, it just takes my breath away.

it’s honest work, and by god he did a lot

i’d reblog this even if it was a still image

I know it’s a sesame street clip but seriously, who is the target audience for this?

Parents watching it with their kids, I guess?

literally everyone

Everyone. No, really… everyone.

For adults, the appeal is Sir Patrick Stewart doing a kid’s educational bit in full Shakespearean dress and style; there’s a delightful cognitive dissonance between the very serious presentation and the very simple content.

For very small children, it’s educational: this is the letter “B”; here’s how it’s shaped; here’s some words you know that start with it. Oh, and here’s a word you may not be familiar with that starts with it, so you can recognize that it’s the sound that matters, and not whatever other connection you made between the other two words.

For older kids: you’ve probably heard that “to be or not to be?” speech, or at least part of it, so you can enjoy some of the parody the adults are watching. Also, here’s how to describe how a letter is made - how to teach young siblings who don’t read yet, how to explain both the shape and the sound.

For kids with dyslexia: here’s how you differentiate a “B” from a P or D or E. You may have to go slowly and look carefully at the exact shapes that make up the whole, but there are differences and you can learn to recognize them. 

For teens or young college students: In addition to whichever parts of those are relevant to you, here’s what Shakespearean acting sounds like. Here’s how to enunciate clearly and slowly, so your audience can understand terms they may not recognize and still follow the gist of what you’re saying. If you’re reading Shakespeare in school, try sounding it out like this and see if that helps it make sense.

For new RenFaire workers: Here’s how to pronounce “zounds.” 

One of the most glorious things in the world is Shakespearean actors doing stuff like this.

He’s taking this performance as seriously as he does when he’s doing actual Shakespeare 🥺

This is how I learned to pronounce “zounds”

happy first week of august to those who celebrate