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I’m seeing a lot of people saying this post changed their brain chemistry, and as a neuroscientist I wanted to say yes!!! Yes it does!

Wanting something requires dopamine signaling, but liking something doesn’t.

If you have a mental illness/disorder that affects dopamine, you might feel that you don’t want to do the things that you like. You do still like them. You will appreciate having done them.

Let your likes guide you.

(If you want to read more, here’s one experimental paper about it. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5171207/ This theory called the incentive-sensitization theory was originally created to explain behaviors in addiction but can be applied elsewhere as well)

Liking, Wanting and the Incentive-Sensitization Theory of Addiction - PMC
Rewards are both ‘liked’ and ‘wanted’, and those two words seem almost interchangeable. However, the brain circuitry that mediates the psych
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#this is what happened to me when i started lifting weights
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Quote of the day

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I’m seeing a lot of people saying this post changed their brain chemistry, and as a neuroscientist I wanted to say yes!!! Yes it does!

Wanting something requires dopamine signaling, but liking something doesn’t.

If you have a mental illness/disorder that affects dopamine, you might feel that you don’t want to do the things that you like. You do still like them. You will appreciate having done them.

Let your likes guide you.

(If you want to read more, here’s one experimental paper about it. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5171207/ This theory called the incentive-sensitization theory was originally created to explain behaviors in addiction but can be applied elsewhere as well)

Liking, Wanting and the Incentive-Sensitization Theory of Addiction - PMC
Rewards are both ‘liked’ and ‘wanted’, and those two words seem almost interchangeable. However, the brain circuitry that mediates the psych
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
#this is what happened to me when i started lifting weights
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potentially real lesbian showmance on survivor australia vs world. shaking in my boots

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I’m going to give it to you as an image of a little child. […] They sit on your lap, or they hold you, or they rest on your shoulder or your chest. They are nested. They need nothing at that moment, they are just kind of completely at ease. Or, they are trying to console themselves. But they are drawing from you their sense of comfort and consolation. And at some point, they’re done. It’s all fine. And they get up, and they begin by crawling, or they run — they basically leave you, to go and be in their own world. To go to play. To go to do their thing. They are now experiencing freedom. They have just experienced safety, and security, and attachment, and nesting, and now they’re moving into the world. They’re playing, they’re in their own imaginary realm. And in order to play they have to be free and unselfconscious and free of worry, otherwise you can’t play.
To be secure in a relationship is to have both of those things. It is to be able to come back to the harbour, to anchor yourself, to feel rooted, and then to get up, to leave, and to go and play without having to worry. Now what is it you don’t have to worry about? You don’t have to worry about the fact that when you go, you’re leaving somebody there who is suddenly bewildered, and anxious, and depressed, and angry, but actually somebody who is totally at ease letting you go. Or, that you worry that when you come back they won’t be there. And that “hide and seek” — that’s why that game is so important — is to know that even when I’m gone, I live inside of you. Even when I’m gone, when I come back you’ll be there. Even when I’m gone, I take you with me. And so I experience freedom and connection at the same time. That is security in a relationship. For adults, and for children.

Esther Perel when asked, “What does it mean to be secure in a relationship?”

#so glad someone just reblogged this from me... good reminder
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feeling judged by some of my friends for getting back with her... i know they're looking out for me but it feels bad! especially since things are going really well and i feel stable and emotionally responsible. we're taking it slow but she asked me to be exclusive yesterday which feels really positive. even if it turns out that she's not the right person for me being monogamous while we're exploring this makes me feel safe and secure. it means a lot that she was the one to ask. i sense a general shift in myself going into this where i'm figuring out whether i want to be with her, whereas last time i was all in and waiting to see if she wanted to be with me. i feel different in my body around her too. i'd always get too nervous to eat and i wouldn't sleep well with her. but that hasn't been happening, i've been really calm. i say all of this to my friends but i don't think they believe me... and if things do go poorly i'm going to be dissuaded from talking to them about it :\

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aubrey plaza pierced nipples in honey don't 😵💥

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there's literally a tempestuous lesbian relationship happening on survivor australia vs the world and we're only 3 episodes in

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