To all the people who have had to give up on something they thought they wanted to do because it wasn't right for them and didn't actually make them happy: Well done! I'm proud of you for staying true to your limits and needs in a society which often expects you to disregard both.
saying no, ending a relationship, leaving it behind — all these can be the right thing to do
~To the daydreamers~
–Edgar Allan Poe
please know you are doing your best. if you feel like you’re struggling, like you’re not doing enough, not being enough, not getting anywhere. if you feel unhappy, unmotivated, unproductive. it’s hard. and that is ok. you are doing your best. it’ll look different to what everyone else is doing but that doesn’t matter. you are doing amazing because you are being you.
i’m gonna be cheesy for a minute but god i love those type of shows you can re-watch and they make you feel like you’re coming back home
Hey anxiety, I see you. You're trying so hard to protect me, I really appreciate that. Though, right now there is no real danger. You don't have to be on guard. But, if you want to stay for a while that's fine too. Nonetheless, you are safe. We are safe.
“Over thinking can be dangerous as it tends to create problems that aren’t really there.”
— Unknown (via perfeqt)
I crave warmth everywhere. In the morning sun or in sunsets or in music, art, places, just warm energy. When people recommend you songs or movies or tell you how much you mean to them, when people say I love you out of the blue, or a smile from random strangers, people going on walks with you or a picnic date with friends, when somebody talks about the person they love or the times when you are laughing uncontrollably with a group of people you love, I crave that warmth.
As you continue shifting your focus from force to flow, life happens more easily for you. All that you need finds you.
shout out to everybody who’s unlearning the old habits that won’t serve them in their next chapter of life. letting go is difficult, counterintuitive, and disorienting. it’s also worth it.
It's okay to have had enough of a situation. It's okay to have had enough tolerating toxic people, of places that don't make you happy, of doing things that you used to like but feel too tired of. It is okay to change your mind. What matters is that you don't stay stuck on a state of chronic unhappiness by feeling unfulfilled, so you won't risk becoming depressed. You must keep going, moving forward, looking for things you'd like to do, people you'd like to meet, things that make you feel more complete. You don't have to stick to one choice you've made when younger for the rest of your life. Find new things to get excited about, to pursue, to be happy with. You don't need to live with a single purpose for life. You don't have to tolerate something just because you wanted it before. You are allowed to leave and to move on in pursue of new things that make you happier.
There'll be a moment when you realise you're 27 when yesterday you were just 17; and you wouldn't be able to tell how a decade passed away and your life got divided into before and afters. The fury of youth will subdue and nothing will really change but everything will feel different when you look at old photographs and blurry videos taken on cheap mobile phones. Scents will remind you of childhood and certain friends you don't talk to anymore, hangouts will become reunions and mom's burnt pie will become the best food you ever had. And I know on some days you won't be able to show anything of those 10 years but I hope you remember to breathe, and let go of the knot in your chest. I hope you go out in the sun and live a little, because tomorrow is 37.
Edit- I added the visualizer for this piece on my YT, check it out here
-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The Flesh I Burned
If you have a big, emotional, self hating meltdown every time someone tells you that you hurt them or crossed a boundary of theirs, then that means you're not a safe person to say no to - and that's something you need to work on. Even if you're genuinely just really upset that you hurt someone, if every attempt at communicating a boundary to you results in the person you hurt having to repeatedly reassure you that you're not actually a bad person, then you need to work on controlling yourself and taking constructive criticism.
I love when I see girls completely rebrand themselves and transform into a better more refined version of themselves
Sometimes you will need professional help to heal. And that is okay.
