I hate psychiatry and love drugs

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Shout out to @ triplicata on tiktok for the funniest gddamn video ive seen in a bit

Is that the yeti rollercoaster at disney

Thinking a lot lately about the world where I identify as aromantic... It's a label that's been suggested(/pushed in some cases) to me several times over the years and I suppose it roughly fits as a way to briefly explain some sort of difference to people, but like...idk using a label like that seriously misses what I think the crux of my tension with normative romance is. I do not understand the label "romantic" enough to say IF it applies to ways I feel about people, so how can I say that I don't feel it?

Idk less "I don't feel romantic attraction" and more "romance is a social construct mapped onto a desire that is presumably common, but this construct assumes things like monogamy and to some extent heterosexuality and thus cissexism, all of which are in tension with the interpersonal relationship styles I prioritize, causing me to completely lose track of which feeling in the mix romance is supposed to refer to and making it a word I cannot particularly make use of"

& I still like. Say I'm in love with people or have crushes or something bc relationships are about communication and the types of relationships I want with different individuals are distinct and this is language that at least gestures at desired relationship features, except not always but y'know if there's one thing I've learned it's saying more words always helps (lies). Idk I feel very intensely about people and I am full of love and desire and craving generally and for specific individuals!! I just feel distant and very detached from the language that's available to describe those feelings in short, general words

...which is completely fine actually bc none of this hinders my ability to build and engage in intimacy and love and friendship in any way I can identify. Many of the ppl I'm closest to have expressed similar tensions with this language, even. It just makes it difficult to make those relationships legible to others demanding it be explained in normative shorthand 🤷 fuck if I care lol

I do think it’s a very good idea to make your actions explicit choices, like instead of thinking “my boyfriend forced me to watch the new Star Wars movie” you think “I agreed to watch the movie because of [reasons]”, which takes the resentment you might feel at your boyfriend for doing such an ungracious thing and redirects into a personal choice about what matters to you in your relationship – and maybe it turns out that the relationship is past saving at that point and if so that’s a realisation better had sooner than later.

similarly instead of “my boss forced me to work late” you think “I chose to work late as I find that less onerous than looking for a new job”, or maybe you don’t, and you tell the boss to shove it.

(now of course this is for introspecting on your own choices, you can’t use it to justify forcing other people to do stuff and then insisting that they chose it, a choice can still be unconscionable and making it doesn’t imply that you are happy with the set of choices on offer!)

falling into the habit of thinking that you can be forced into doing things builds up a sense of helplessness that can inhibit you from not making the choice, like if your boss asked you to hide the bodies or your mother told you to join a cult you might hopefully resist, but that requires you to have the concept that they cannot actually force you to do things, only present you with options, and chimp the fuck out is one option that is always on the table and nobody can ever take away from you.

[as always this advice is specific to certain particulars and some people may require the exact opposite advice depending on their life situation]

i love when people get up in arms about kink as like a "new perverted phenomenon" bc of their boogeyman obsession with porn. brother gay people have been slapping each other and pretending to be dogs while we fuck since the dawn of time. you're only just finding out now bc your hole is largely unremarkable and your manner unbecoming

Is the fish picture cute?

Rating: NO

This fish is clearly in distress. The fish is stationary, also known as the “freeze” response, indicating an enormous feeling of panic within the animal. The water is far too shallow for a fish of this size, and keeping a fish in a bathtub is unsanitary, both for you and the fish. This is not a healthy environment for a fish to be in, both physically and mentally, as the shock of the unfit living condition can severely lower a fish’s life expectancy - it is not cute, it is not trendy, and it is not worth the aesthetically pleasing instagram shots. Please stop treating animals like toys.

[Image ID: a photo of a corndog in a bathtub. End ID.]

romantising washington as a twin peaks fan the way anime fans romanticise japan

i want to study at the university of washington

i will call university way the ave and ride the link light rail. i would watch Twin Peaks on Paramount+ all night while drinking two cups of good, hot, black coffee with my toxic polycule. i'll have fish and chips every day that's worth 17 dollars. i would go to diners every night. i am also more likely to meet stoners, Will Toledo, Macklemore and Dale Cooper.

i wish i was from washington :(

Been thinking about antisemitism and Israel-Palestine discourse today so here's my favorite (kinda rad-lib and idpol-y but mostly in ways that are easy to ignore) 2007 zine primer on antisemitism within that context:

(cw general historical discussion of antisemitism + accounts of specific instances, some grief discussion of the occupation of Palestine)

A link to the author's website with the zine (The Past Didn't Go Anywhere) easily accessible if download links sketch you out:

‘Does the bicycle make women cruel?’ — American cartoon published in the Los Angeles Herald newspaper (13 June, 1897) showing a woman callously cycling over another. The cartoon illustrated an article about an alleged ‘new mania which is afflicting women who ride bicycles’, with the author reporting on several cases of the mania developing in France: ‘physicians found that the first known case of the mania developed last January … That it was cycling that brought the mania on there seems no question. Only wheelwomen have been afflicted with it, and oddly enough, in every instance, they have been over 30 years of age.’ The article concludes that the mania may be the ‘result of the effect upon the nervous system of the intense exhilaration rapid riding brings about’. Via Propagandopolis

i think a lot of people just do not get how being tall and fat makes doing anything socially abnormal infinitely harder and more punishing than if we were skinny

like kink amd paraphilia shit aside as a fat person i straight up cant show my body without it being labeled violence. as a fat person im supposed to hide my body from view. im supposed to be ashamed and disgusted. thats how fat people are supposed feel. so anything even remotely based on aesthetics is immediately gatekept from me. fat people are the exception. nobody will say it but most people feel this way. people will say theyre accepting of abnormal behavior but as soon as a fat person does it its too far. nobody wants to see a fat person doing weird things bc being fat is weird so now its too weird

spider? i barely saw her!

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i think people need to cede less ground to others when addressing "concerns" about public sex imo. like, i think people are overly-cautious in some regards? idk like if im fucking someone in a park at 11 pm and you stumble upon us it straight up is not my problem because the park after hours is for doing drugs and having sex

I love when dogs and cats just let you pat the shit out of them and they enjoy it so much. Like yeah dude real quick I just need to play you like a bongo and they’re like god yes I’ve been waiting for someone to play me like a bongo

i got wicked torn up bad & ripped up bad by coyotes last night looking for gold outside on the ground

one of them ripped my shoes off and started wearing them

frog k here, trans shitposter & weirdo. i hate to do this again but a bunch of bills came out at once and i'm broke and hungry and my car's brakes are going to shit, please help me if you can

cashapp - $asimplefrog ko-fi (paypal redirect) - frogk

thank you so much!!!

i have raised a little under two hundred so far and need about a hundred more to make it through the week. thank you so much to everyone who has helped so far!!!

i always forget obama has a brother who really fucking hates him until he does stuff like this