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Lesbi-honest

@used2wearasnapback

valentine’s day asks!

  1. do you have a crush on anyone?
  2. what’s your favorite candy?
  3. favorite love song?
  4. what was your first kiss like?
  5. what was your last kiss like?
  6. sexual/romantic orientation?
  7. do you prefer poems or love letters?
  8. favorite fanfic trope?
  9. have you ever been in love?
  10. favorite milkshake flavor?
  11. dinner dates or brunch dates?
  12. favorite flowers?
  13. favorite perfume/cologne?
  14. favorite candle scent?
  15. what’s your ideal first date?
  16. favorite love story?
  17. what’s the most attractive thing a person could wear?
  18. chocolate, vanilla, or red velvet?
  19. snow, rain, or sun?
  20. sweetest romantic memory?
  21. favorite dating sim (and favorite character)?
  22. fictional crushes?
  23. what’s your dream wedding like?
  24. what makes you blush?
  25. do you believe in love at first sight?
  26. do you believe in soulmates?
  27. denim jackets, leather jackets, or bomber jackets?
  28. what’s your sign?
  29. are you single?
  30. do you prefer to charm, or be charmed?
  31. guitar or piano?
  32. favorite romcom (or any romantic movie)?
  33. do you fall in love easily?
  34. valentine’s decorations: yay or nay?
  35. would you prefer to propose or be proposed to? what’s your dream proposal?
  36. cloud gazing or star gazing?
  37. do you like to dance?
  38. what’s your OTP?
  39. kittens or puppies?
  40. coffee, hot chocolate, or tea?
  41. favorite soda?
  42. do you prefer gazing wistfully out the window or lying dramatically over the sofa?
  43. favorite ABBA song?
  44. fuck/marry/kill? (anons name 3 people of your choice)
  45. favorite pajamas?
  46. favorite liquor?
  47. do you think about love a lot?
  48. a walk in the park or a walk on the beach?
  49. hand kisses or nose kisses?
  50. what’s your dreamhouse?

It’s one thing when you love someone but they don’t love you back. It is another when you both love each other and you aren’t right for each other. No matter what you do or say, sometimes life isn’t enough. You can love someone so goddamn much it hurts, but eventually you’ll realize you can’t keep them. It is so much worse than never trying with them. You have memories and experiences that get washed away by the end. That kind of love tears apart every part of your heart. That kind of love is so much worse than unreciprocated love.

My favorite thing about the movie Happiest Season is that it shows you can be in a lesbian relationship and when a new lesbian comes into the picture, you can be friends with them and have good chemistry but not flipping cheat!!!

Neither of the main characters even came close to something considerably “wrong” or “cheating IMO. The ex boyfriend was respectful, and on his side of things Harper wasn’t dating anyone so he still maintained a distance that was kind but was curious about getting back together with her.

Riley never once indicated flirting or even jealousy while with Abby. She spoke the truth about her history with Riley but it was always respectful and never once did I see her cross that line of trying to get with Abby, regardless of how Harper treated her.

We witnessed Abby and Harper at their worst because they were in a stressful (although comical) point in their relationship that was due to the holidays, the family and the exes being present. We only got to see them at their best at the start and end of the movie. Couples fight, holidays suck, that doesn’t mean that they are bad for each other.

I think the movie did a great job showing us a normal lesbian relationship and especially did an AMAZING job showing that other people can be in your lives and you can have history or good chemistry with them and it doesn’t mean you break off your solid relationship with your GF/BF and go for them just cause you hit a rough patch.

-(And they did a great job at showing someone who was in the closet and struggling to come out)

So I finally got the chance to see The Happiest Season and can I just what the ever loving fuck!? You people freaked me out with your negativity . I fully assumed that this would have a bad ending or even worse a goddamn cheating storyline with Riley ! Instead we got a sweet tender movie with some drama but with a very happy ending and there was absolutely nothing but friendship between Abby and Riley .

It absolutely blows my mind to see people going on about what an awful and toxic person Harper is because she reacted very badly to a few days full of intense family pressure which brought up huge painful issues for her . Something which the movie made quite clear is extremely unusual for her and something which she took responsibility for and apologised .

Don’t get me wrong everybody is absolutely in their right to criticise anything but when I see people calling Harper toxic and going on about how she is an awful person and then go to these people blogs and see that they ship Catra aka a woman who spent YEARS abusing and terrorising Adora , shipping Swan Queen with freaking Regina aka a goddamn rapist and mass murderer who spent years abusing and trying to destroy Emma’s life... like girl please . Spare your rants. You don’t care about toxic behaviour . Just say you were not into the chemistry

And if your response to my post is going to be a list of reasons why Catra and Regina were misunderstood characters and then try to excuse their actions then wow did you miss the point

I’ve absolutely resented the hate Harper’s character got in the Happiest Season. I personally know what it is like to be terrified to come out to your judgemental family. I think Abby/Harper is actually a common story that was told extremely well by the movie. I do not think Harper is toxic but she literally explained why she couldn’t come out just yet. It is torture to love someone your family may not accept. It’s a lot harder than being simply proud of who you are. You can be proud of who you are while still being scared of losing your own fucking family. I loved this movie and it’s so sad to see the butchering of it by the “fan base”.