We meet so seldom by stock or stone

Many lgbt teenagers and young adults growing up on the internet today have socially conservative beliefs that they voice at all times that they got from their conservative parents which they’ve never challenged because they think the life experience of being gay or trans makes them politically progressive

This is why I hate it when people say something homophobic and then go “so you’re really accusing me, a whole ass lesbian, of being homophobic 🙄” like yeah

There's a model of culture that I like to cite for this idea, called the Iceberg Model:

The LGBT youth (and young atheists, too) will cut off the stuff "above the water" but not really examine the stuff down below that line that they have as part of their upbringing.

So you get young LGBT people making comments like OP cited, or young atheists acting with an Evangelical persecution complex, and going, "Don't call me Culturally Christian!"

This is the sort of thing I keep talking about when I’m saying identity is not the same as ideology.

Who you identify as (who you are) says absolutely nothing about what you believe (your ideology). 

Same goes for any subcategory.

“I can’t be racist, I’m black.” If you're making “ching-chong” jokes about Asian people, you’re still racist.

“I’m can’t be misogynistic, I’m a trans woman.” If you’re slut-shaming sex workers, you’re misogynistic.

“I can’t be queerphobic, I’m non-binary.” If you’re saying bi/pan/trans people can’t bring their hetero partner to Pride, gueeeess what.

Punching down within your own culture is still punching down.

Also people disagreeing with you doesn’t mean they’re any kind of -phobic if the argument has nothing to do with your identity. You’d think this is obvious but some insecure/unhealed people really do use that attack against others as soon as they encounter any disagreement or conflict. And the tone of discourse these days encourages people to believe those accusations without questioning.

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how do you just get up and deal with the fact that there’s a last time for everything. there was a last time you sat on your dads shoulders and there was a last time your mom tucked you into bed. there’s going to be a last time you kiss your sister on the head and there’s going to be a last time you hug your best friend. there’s going to be a last time you feel exactly as you feel right now and there’s going to be a last time that person says i love you. i need to lay down

Iain Thomas, The Light That Shines When Things End

early autumn at an abandoned christian summer camp

something im noticing is the redditors are just commenting on everything via reblogs with reckless abandon. and its so funny bc thats how youre MEANT to use this fucking website but we've trained ourselves out of it somehow.

I feel like a fucking chimp raised in a lab let out into the wild and just doing shit without understanding wtf is going on because I was raised to click the button to get cookie

Honestly we could use an influx of people actually commenting. The hostility against speaking above a low mutter was starting to get kind of weird. Like yeah tag talk is great but so many of the "hello, newcomers!" posts straight up say to NEVER comment, like...what? It's making this place feel empty and quiet even though the userbase is climbing, and having that as a norm makes it so a disproportionate amount of comments are left by people who either actively want to be annoying or are socially oblivious, instead of people who...want to particulate in their community. I've definitely noticed an increase recently of people constricting discussion to tags in ways that pretty much deadend conversation, like by chattily responding to conversation starters from my tags in their own tags instead of by copying my tags and responding.

Between how super long posts don't get blockquote-constricted into invisibility anymore AND how the new site settings mean people see tags on their posts unless they go out of their way not to instead of the other way around... Why are we living like this. It's lonely! Let's talk to each other!

everything i do i do with playful and bisexual intent

Her lips drive me wild💋

So my mother recently got married (mashallah). And she set up this thing where guests were encouraged to take photos of the proceedings on their phones and text them in to a given number, after which they would be played as a slideshow on a screen at the front of the venue. I want you to take a minute to imagine how this went.

It began just about as you would expect. People taking photos of each other and the décor and taking selfies and having a good time. The slideshow was tasteful. Clearly not “professional,” but nice and personal.

And then people start getting a little drunk. A person who signs their work only as “Moo” posts this masterpiece:

[ID: a vertically oriented photo of a garbage can. A long table draped with lavender fabric at which the bride and groom are seated is in the background. The garbage can is centred in the frame, clearly the focus of the photo. End ID]

Someone at my table notices. “Is that... a photo of a garbage can? What?” We all express confusion and have a chuckle about it. Clearly someone is taking the prompt liberally. But the avant-garde approach to what is worthy of documenting does not end here, and our artist soon enters these submissions into the canon:

[ID: photos of a pendant fire sprinkler, a ceiling vent, a lightswitch, and a door handle. the photos show a casual, non-intensive approach to framing (neither perfectly even nor deliberately askew, &c.) end ID]

Meanwhile someone has uploaded this photo of the groom:

He is sitting at the bride and groom’s table alone with his hands clasped in front of him. I can’t show you his face but he has a bit of stubble and is wearing wire-framed rectangular glasses. I can best describe his vibe to you by saying that he wore this newsie cap to his wedding and this made perfect sense.

Using this photo, someone at our table makes their first few volleys:

[ID: the groom cut out of the photo from before and edited into an empty booth at an empty chain restaurant and an empty movie theatre, respectively. End ID]

At this point, basically everyone except the bride and groom have noticed, and are more or less following the evolution of this guérilla art project. Some people are trying to talk the instigators out of submitting their unworthy photos; others are riling them up.

Moo makes several more of their found object entries:

[ID: a cleaning schedule sign on a bathroom wall; a bathroom sign reading “men”; a digital thermostat; a framed photo of a smiling man, the sign for the men’s bathroom reflected in its glass. end ID]

And it goes back and forth like this for a while, Moo submitting objects (a close-up on the tines of their fork; a mop bucket; a framed fish head) and their nameless collaborator, not be to undone, putting the groom into more situations:

[ID: the groom's head edited onto the body of a cast member in the Broadway musical Newsies, his cap causing him to blend in perfectly; the groom's head edited onto Jamie's head from Mythbusters as he poses next to Adam, his cap causing this edit to be perfectly seamless. end ID]

A further development in the form of these submissions occurs when The Editor invents reappropriation and collage, beginning to edit the groom into photos that other people have uploaded:

[ID: the photo of the groom at the table from earlier, edited so that there are two identical grooms sitting side-by-side: text over their heads reads "Just Married!"; another photo of the groom standing and smiling with a drink in his hand, apparently talking to another groom who is holding his stomach, throwing his head back and laughing aloud. end ID]

Meanwhile, Moo has taken his aesthetic ethos to its only possible logical conclusion:

A photo of a urinal. “Fountain,” Moo, iPhone camera, 2023.

People are now watching the screen even more actively, laughing each time a new silly photo arrives in the stream of genuine submissions. Moo submits a photo of a dented Pringles can seen through a grate in the street outside and a photo of a bag of road-salting ice. The photo of the groom at the table is edited so that he sports a towering Cat-in-the-Hat hat instead of the newsie cap; the groom is edited into an astronaut suit on the moon; he and the bride wearing her fur stole are edited as Jackie O. and JFK in the limo (this last The Editor wisely did not upload but sent only to me).

Not content, however, with editing the groom into non-wedding photos or with sabotaging earnest submissions to the photo album, The Editor proceeds to bring us full circle by reappropriating Moo's recontextualisations, Sherrie Levine-like:

[ID: 1. the photo of the garbage can from earlier, with the groom edited onto the flap that you push garbage through; 2. the groom edited into the photo of the framed photograph from earlier; he has been made greyscale to match the photograph; 3. the photo of the urinal from above, with the groom edited into its bowl. end ID]

The people at Moo’s table (groom’s family) love this last submission ("Urine a Urinal," Anonymous, iPhone camera, 2023). They watch the screen waiting for it to come up again, and when it does, they shout “there it is!” and laugh and clap.

Alas, our destabilisation of what constitutes artistic merit was not allowed to persist. Like the Society of Independent Artists sticking Duchamp’s “Fountain” behind a partition, the bride and groom silently deleted all of the unworthy submissions from the publicly shared album. Luckily, I saw this coming and was able to document the proceedings.

In conclusion, I recommend not crowdsourcing your wedding photos unless you have a very well-developed sense of humour.

I love how like 5+ years ago people on here were all about astrology and now everyone talks about it being cringe lol

But tumblr astrology in its heyday was things like “the signs as Nicki Minaj’s dresses” or “the signs as superwholock quotes.” Gonna go out on a limb here and say that the majority of people were goofing for the joy of goofing.

Highlight examples of yesteryear:

The rest was aesthetic posts and sign x sign gifsets sourced from Lana del Rey music videos, as far as I remember.

It may have been cringe. It was definitely fun. But I don’t think it was serious.

i think it's fucked up that we've made death, an inevitable thing that happens to everyone, into such a taboo subject that enjoying spending time in places where dead people exist is offensive and sinister to you

those paths are clearly for the ghosts and zombies only stop appropriating corpse culture ugh

I love how like 5+ years ago people on here were all about astrology and now everyone talks about it being cringe lol

But tumblr astrology in its heyday was things like “the signs as Nicki Minaj’s dresses” or “the signs as superwholock quotes.” Gonna go out on a limb here and say that the majority of people were goofing for the joy of goofing.

from what i understand this was basically the movement right

The true scourge of Reddit users coming to tumblr is that these bitches think reposting art is ok if you add a funny caption

It’s something that isn’t exclusive to Reddit (I see people do it occasionally and it makes me see red every time) but since the Reddit migration I’ve been seeing it WAY more. Killing and exploding everyone who doesn’t source their fucking art with my mind

actually i'm adding this directly instead of in tags: please get permission before you repost even with a source!!! don't just assume it's okay!!! many artists DO NOT ALLOW REPOSTS AT ALL, even with credit, and i've regularly seen art reposted on reddit from artists who have it right in their twitter bios (often in english even if they don't speak the language themselves) that they don't allow reposting

if the artist is on tumblr themselves, reblog their original post. if not, please check their own social media (pixiv/twitter/etc) to see if they say anything about reposting, and if they don't outright forbid it, ask for permission before reposting! (and if they say no, don't do it!)

if manners and not being an ass isn't enough reason: reposting anything is in violation of the community guidelines. if you repost and get reported enough times you will get your account suspended or full on banned for doing it.

also artists: if you see your stuff reposted don't message the reposter until after you have filled out and submitted the form, you need the link to the base post to file it. This shit should not be tolerated at all. and because of the way Tumblr works if op deletes the base post off their blog it Does Not delete reblogs of that base post from other peoples blogs. Make them scared to repost in the first place.

Tumblr has a Very small staff in comparison to other platforms that don't have mass amounts of volunteer moderators to review these sorts of things. so it may take a few days to get anything done about it depending on what the queue looks like when you submit. if you don't hear back within the week check the automated email you received when you filed the report to see if you should reply to the email to get it unburied or if you should submit again. do not spam support.

To be fair, it’s not just Reddit users: this website has always had an infestation of lame whiny little dipshits who repost art because they don’t want to do the hard work of making anything on their own (even a text shitpost) but nevertheless still need the attention of a few random likes to finish