the reason dating men sucks nowadays is because they're all too scared of being made a "sucker" or something by women, when the reality is that we are all suckers in this game called life. buy that pretty girl some drinks or venmo that hot woman $20. every experience adds to the tapestry of our lives. existence can be a dream and we love to have fun
"what if i pay for this woman's drink but then she tells me she has a boyfriend" did you bring joy into the world? did you make others smile? will you remember this as an unfinished transaction or will you remember the time you made a stranger's life a little easier
I'm a little confused why should a man just give a stranger $20 for the experience of giving someone $20. That experience is not the best time a man could have with $20 and when giving people charity money most people give to the homeless or otherwise in need
the men buying women drinks aspect of dating is transactional and while that is terrible in many ways I don't think the proposed solution "men keep buying women drinks but no longer expect anything" is going to be very popular
really the expectation of men paying for things creates the undue pressure and expectations on all parties as always happens when money enters into an interpersonal relationship.
john you've clearly never given a stranger anything except a feeling of mild to extreme discomfort so i don't know if this post is for you
