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Gender Adventure Time

@truth-about-transition / truth-about-transition.tumblr.com

...with Jinn and Fake!
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I’ve been transitioning FTM for 6 years, on testosterone for a total of 3 years and 9 months, and testosterone completely damaged my body & life. While taking testosterone I experienced; - High blood pressure in hypertension stage one - Glaucoma developing from ocular hypertension (from hormone fluctuations) - Eye twitching/Dryness/Seeing spots & flashes - Intense back pain - Migraines (1-4 times a week) - Debilitating body aches - Sciatic leg pain that would wake me up - Chest pain/Shortness of breath/Heart flutters/Palpitations - Severe uterus cramping - Vaginal atrophy - Constant dizziness - Scalp soreness/tenderness from rapid hair loss - Face skin very oily - Sweating/Hot flash problems - Sleep apnea/Loud snoring/Choking in sleep - Difficulty swallowing/Choking when eating - Bladder retention with burning urination - Protein in my urine during pee tests - Rise in bad cholesterol on blood tests - Painful fibrocystic breast tissue - Full body paresthesia, especially in face/nose/arms/hands (this I hated most, as it caused extreme stress & fear) - Scary and upsetting dreams frequently - Huge increase in depression/suicidal urges and anxiety - Stopped being able to cry around 4 months on T - Had hard time feeling deep emotions/Felt very void/empty - Less emotional response towards situations and other people - Less inner dialogue/Shut off most internal chatter/thoughts - Aggressive (physically & verbally), assertive, argumentative personality (which is the opposite of me pre-T) - My personality and thought patterns changed uncontrollably *** My T levels were always perfect and spot on. I’ve had 72 hour heart monitor tests, breast ultrasounds, vaginal ultrasounds, MRI on my spine and brain, and many blood/urine/eye/full physical tests over the years to figure what is wrong with me. But everything has always come back saying I’m fine and its side effects from the testosterone. T was killing me, and desecrated my life. I literally couldn’t take it anymore. I’m 4 months off T at this point and I’m still suffering. This isn’t to discredit medical transition, but T was very dangerous to my body. It was hurting me in so many ways… ways I never imagined. More studies really need to be done on the side effects and harm that T can cause. I was always told, “testosterone won’t hurt you, it only raises your risks to a bio male level.” Well that was very untrue for me, as I’m sure AMAB people do no deal with all these issues, all at once. 

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supercodi

I haven’t seen a whole lot of information regarding how it feels to have a skin graft. I will admit it feels a lot different than I would have expected so I thought I would share how it feels physically. I am 11 weeks post-op phalloplasty with Dr. Chen in San Francisco CA. Thank you everyone for all the support!

Source: youtube.com
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STOP ASKING ME ABOUT MY PHALLO!!

Me: “After almost 10 years on T, I finally got my hysto!! I really love my body. I feel so comfortable now.” Everyone (trans or not): “That’s awesome! So when are you getting your phallo?” Me: *fantasizes about throat punching other person*

Seriously, more trans people than cis people have asked me about my phallo. It’s pretty fucking invalidating. I’ve always wanted a hysto, haven’t always wanted a dick. This was MY “bottom surgery”. Yeah, I’m a gorgeous balding, bearded, queer. Doesn’t mean I necessarily identify with a fucking cock, even if I’m an ftm.

Just be happy for your friend and their surgery, no matter what it is. Celebrate it, and focus on THAT surgery. I hate justifying my thoughts and identity, even to trans people.

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theoretically, ftm transformations on my dash should make me feel happy but it makes me feel like shit

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Vent

I hate this The further I get in my transition, the more it hurts when I feel dysphoric and like nothing has changed. One. Thing. Telling me my voice sounds feminine. That’s all it took and boom. In a singular second, I don’t want to leave my room. I don’t want interact or speak to anyone because of it. Even the people I’m staying with, who are the people I’m most comfortable around (that I get to see physically) I’ve lost all will to meet new people because now I’m absolutely terrified that my voice will give me away to the ones who don’t know I’m trans and then their view of me will change and I’ve put in SO much work to get here and it frustrates and terrifies me how easily that’s broken. How easily I’m broken. One little thing and it all comes crashing down around me. Before I started T, I felt hopeless when I was dysphoric, but in a different way. Like I’d never get here and I’d stay that way forever. But somehow, being on T and having a dysphoric episode, is worse. Because now it feels like all the work, all the fighting with people, the screaming, yelling, crying, all the anxiety attacks over appointments and all the work that I put into getting myself to this point, has been for nothing. I hope that my blood work says that my T levels are low, so that they boost my dose. I know everyone goes at a different pace, but it’s normally around 3 months that voices drop and mines done next to nothing. That has to be the problem. I can’t think of anything else. I can’t stand this

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persomnus

Things no one told me about life after top surgery

The first week afterwards will be a blur. You might not even remember it due to all the pain killers. 

You might forget that you don’t need binders anymore and might panic when realizing you aren’t wearing one in public. 

While healing the nipple graft might itch, sometimes intensely. 

After the skin heals, part of the nipple tip may die and fall off. This is okay as long as it shrivels and doesn’t turn black or looks infected. 

The nipples might lose its ability to moisturize itself. You will need to periodically put strong moisturizers on them or they will turn yellow and shrivel up, which hurts and will start to fall off if ignored. 

Parts of your chest will go numb afterward. As the nerves heal you may experience periods of unexplained pain and itchiness even a year later. 

Sometimes small amounts of tissue are left behind, which will make one side flatter than the other. This is up to you whether you want a revision, but unless it’s severe it likely isn’t worth it.

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If you are a transman in the Kentucky area and you’re looking to get top surgery, PLEASE STAY FAR AWAY FROM DR. MARTIN FOX OF LOUISVILLE. He does not know what he is doing and he gives men the WRONG SURGERY. If you have no other options, then please put your surgery on hold and continue looking elsewhere. You will not be happy with your result.
I, like many others before me, had surgery with him and became disfigured as a result thereof. I am not the only one who has been ruined by him; there are dozens of others. I did not see anywhere online where people had come out about him, so I figured he was okay. But it turns out that the ones who were talking about him, were doing so in private groups where I, and others, could not see. I’m imploring you to take this as your signpost. Do not get surgery from him, you will be ruined.
I’m currently trying to find a way to bring him to justice for what he’s done, but it’s very hard as no one wants to take my case. You can read about my story here. I’m trying very hard to save up money for a revision from Dr. Garramone in addition to spreading the word about Dr. Fox so no one else falls victim to his cleaver. If you cannot donate, I ask that you spread my story so that people know to steer clear of him.
Thank you
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Toilet thoughts 2

We’re gonna get into some tmi territory!

So before I started T I never had any bladder issues (unless I was sick) like I do now. It seem a like every time I blink I piss myself. It’s never a lot but enough to notice. I wonder if any other guys have this issue. I feel like it’s something we’re all too embarrassed to talk about.

I’ve been off T for about a year after being on for 4 and I feel like that has something to do with it. I can’t recall if this was an issue while I was on or not. I think we need to have more open discussions about these issues.

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I need your love today guys. Today is my 20th transition related surgery. My body and mind are tired, and it shows–it fucking shows.

I’ve done everything in my power to heal. I’ve given it time (it’s been almost 2 years), I’ve done scrapings, sooo many rectal CT’s with contrast, and finally the big surgery–the gracilis muscle flap which was pretty much supposed to be the fix all. That was January 31,2017.

Today is March 10th, 2017 and I’m going under yet again due to my 3rd complication from that surgery. This abscess is just not healing.

I need to know that I didn’t go through all of this for nothing. I’m making him scope my ass to let me know if I’m healed or not. I need to know. I’m going insane not knowing.

Wish me mother fucking luck. (at Keck Medicine of USC)

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Anonymous asked:

How can I search your lawsuit? I was actually going to have a consult with your MD, but now I'm second guessing...

I legally can not comment on anything. At this point tho, my suit is public record and that is why I can give the link: 

search case number 554254

Go to the end of the page and choose the last one that says ‘view’, keep scrolling to hear the story I have never been able to legally tell. 

I’ve been holding onto this for a year now. I hope you guys see the value in my vulnerability and what I am trying to do for our community. 

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can someone who found it tell me how

I apologize, I could have and should have been clearer 

Click the link it will take you to a superior court house page. 

Click the first search engine labeled “case query” and push access now. 

That will then take you to a page to ask you input some random stuff to make sure you are not a robot. 

Once at the page with all the documents to view, go to the bottom one that has ‘view next to it’ and click. 

Other case numbers to search for: 

550630

556743

556713

557327

557363

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Anonymous asked:

How can I search your lawsuit? I was actually going to have a consult with your MD, but now I'm second guessing...

I legally can not comment on anything. At this point tho, my suit is public record and that is why I can give the link: 

search case number 554254

Go to the end of the page and choose the last one that says ‘view’, keep scrolling to hear the story I have never been able to legally tell. 

I’ve been holding onto this for a year now. I hope you guys see the value in my vulnerability and what I am trying to do for our community. 

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Anonymous asked:

I read your lawsuit. Couple of questions; You've always stood by Dr Crane and now you're suing him? As all transman are aware, Phallos come with a lot of complications. So since a complication happened now you're suing your "hero". What's up with that.. Another question, It says in the lawsuit that if you were "aware of the complications the procedure held" you wouldn't have gotten the surgery. But you're constantly talking about having no regrets.. so which is it?

Patients are forced and coerced into backing surgeons and people they may not want to or believe in–SOLELY in belief and hopes that those are the only surgeons that can fix you. If you have 3 people in the world that can ‘fix’ a broken dick, you tell me what you do and don’t want to say online. 

I’m not upset regarding complications as a future surgeon, i know shit happens. If you read the suit, it says we are suing for MALPRACTICE–the means the care that was put forward despite my complaints of pain, feces, and who knows going through my body. 

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We need to talk about lower surgery after care

On the 12th Jan 2016 I was admitted to The hospital of St Johns and Elizabeth in London for RA Phalloplasty stage 3, the following day, under the care of Mr Garaffa. This surgical stage was set to be the final stage, where I would have the erectile device fitted, I opted for the inflatable device, and would have the pump as the second testicle in completing my scrotum.

I awoke from surgery in recovery to be told they had been unable to insert the erectile device due to finding an issue in my urethra. I cant remember the exact details as I was still very much under the influence of the anaesthesia.

I am of course hugely disappointed, however I do understand that issues needed to be fixed first and I am very glad they were found now rather than later. What makes the disappointment worse though is the shocking level of inadequate care and information that followed in the hours to come that led to me being discharged without any clear instructions as to what surgery had actually been performed, what wounds I had, or what after care was needed for wound care or for the catheter l had fitted which l would apparently need for 3 weeks.

I wont repeat the exact details of what happened in written form here just yet, I am in the middle of drafting a letter of complaint and will publish that here so you can read the full account but for now if you like you can watch a video I made the morning after discharge.- https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1215516308562154&id=6705294

The day following discharge, I spent all day making calls, leaving messages and sending emails in attempt to discover the details as to what exactly I  had done and to get some clear post operative advice. By the end of the day l had not managed to gather much information at all, just a few pieces of the puzzle and l was exhausted. After giving up in the early evening, l finally received a message from Mr Garaffa. Although not clearly answering my questions, he did at least provide basic information as to what had been performed. Apparently, once under anesthetic  he tried to catheterisation me and couldn’t and so performed a cystoscopy (a camera into the bladder) to see what the problem was. He then found “a widening” which needed to be fixed, answering the question as to why l have a wound on my scrotum where he went in to fix the issue. Mr Garaffa informed me that although I was asymptomatic now, issues could arise later and so it was best to get it fixed now before fitting the erectile device. He went on to say that once healed l will be able to have the  device fitted. I am a little confused, a widening would surely not stop the catheter, so l presume he means a narrowing, i.e. that the urethral pipe needed widening. I didn’t email back to get it clarified, I’ve just had enough of chasing this now and l need to put my energy into healing.

It seems utterly ridiculous that it’s taken this long to get a full explanation, and actually not even a completely clear one.  This simply could have been put on my notes and saved me a huge amount of stress, nursing staff surely should have been informed of what had happened, and surely they need to be so as to take care of me properly. Just having access to my vital statistics such as temperature and blood pressure is not enough to take proper care of me. I just do not  understand this at all. What is worse than this really, is that I am not the only one to have been subject to such neglect from nursing teams involved with lower surgery care. Lower surgery outcomes are improving greatly but it seems that nursing care is not.

Experiences vary greatly between people and between hospital. I have had good experiences in The Spire Thames Valley hospital  where I had stages 1  and 2 , whereas others have had awful experience’s there. Conversely, people have had wonderful experiences in the hospital I have just been discharged from. It doesn’t seem attached to one surgeon either. I have only had Mr Christopher before, and he has always been very professional, always visited me after to tell me what he did , how it went and how to care for myself post operatively. Other people speak as highly of Mr Garaffa. It seems an entirely hit and miss event where you never can tell if you are going to be one of the unfortunate people on the end of inadequate care.

So what is going on? Something is clearly failing somewhere. I wonder if this is due to the fact that the amount of guys opting for lower surgery now has increased so much that there just isn’t enough correctly informed medical staff to do the after care. The blame cannot lie solely with the nursing team however, they have to have adequate instructions from the surgical team so in the cases of inadequate care this must be what is happening, a breakdown in communication between the surgical team and the medical team. Whatever the issue is its inexcusable, we shouldn’t have to be fearful of going in for operations, not knowing if we are going to be properly cared for. Currently most of our information is obtained within our social support circle, if it wasn’t the Phalloplasty support forums I personally would be lost.

I know and understand the fear people have in making a complaint. Access to gender affirming treatment surgery for transgender people in the UK is tentative, with the NHS in crisis and views of trans people still misrepresented we often face the view that our treatment is a waste of money. I believe this has lead to a culture of just grinning and bearing it, because we feel we should just be grateful for what we have and put up with it. That and of course we only have one lower surgery team available here in the UK, we have no alternative choice and so there is a fear that if we complain, we may upset our only team of surgeon’s available to meet our lower surgery needs. This is just not on. We are not asking for special treatment, just the basic standards of care, correct information and post operative advice . This should be a right not a privilege

Surgeons surely want this too? With Phalloplasty techniques improving everyday, surely they want to protect these good statistics by making sure their hard work is properly looked after post operatively?

I believe whole heartedly in the success of lower surgery procedures in giving trans men a greater quality of life, this is why l share my own lower surgery journey so openly, to dispel the myths that still surround it and to show just how much more successful it is in current times. I am not happy that l am promoting something which then people have such horrendously experiences of post operatively. Therefore I feel a responsibility to speak out

I too am fearful of the consequences of speaking publicly but I cannot sit in silence after this. I’ve heard too many horror stories and now finding myself as the protagonist within one and truly understanding the trauma such an experience leaves you with I just cannot let this slide. By speaking out I’m not setting out to place blame on a particular hospital or on a particular surgeon because l simply don’t think it’s as straight forward as this, neither am l setting out to complain just for the sake of it, I am speaking out because I believe in this surgery and the surgeons abilities and l don’t want to see poor care and incorrect post operative advice  give it a bad reputation and loose the forward motion that lower surgery has seen over recent years.

My hope is that in speaking out, the surgical team will be more aware of issues that they may not currently be aware of and will then work together with us and with those involved in our aftercare, to ensure better experiences and ultimately better outcomes, for all those who chose to undergo any type of lower surgery.

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Surgery Diaries

January 31, 2017

I can’t sleep. There have been so many attempts to try and fix me, but here I am, still with an ileostomy a1.5 years now. Although its done routinely, I will forever be scared and scarred of surgery. ‘\

Gracilis muscle flap in a nutshell: they are going to take the Gracilis muscle (planning on my left leg) and use that to fill the sinus tract that is left in my perineal area, the cavity preventing me from getting the ileostomy take down. 

I think I may actually be hopeful for the first time in a long time. Its a more aggressive surgery, but at this point I just want my life back. 

I went to therapy today for the first time in  a while. As soon as I walked out the door I told my mom that I didn’t like her (you know, you gotta find the right therapist that works), and then on our drive home I just start busting out in tears. Whatever she did, she opened me, she forced me to be vulnerable and let out tears that have been a long time coming. ‘

I’m first of the day, which means shower at 4 am with special soap, 4:45 leave the house 5:15 check into the hospital. And at 7:15 the magic happens. The surgery is done by a plastic surgery and a colorectal surgeon. The plastic surgeon will deliver the gracilis flap to the colorectal surgeon. 

Cross for your fingers for my guys. I go under the knife in 5 hours. 

Seriously tho–shout out to mom’s. I know one day she’s gonna check my page and see this. And mom, if he surgery works or not, thank you for just trying. Thank you for willing and wanting to sleep with me at the hospital and for allowing me to put my decisions: emotional an physical in your hands. I’m scared mom. Its 2:26 am and I wonder if you’re tossing and turning like I am.