Aspec-adjacent Reblogs & Ramblings

look me in the eyes. you are aware some asexual people have sex, right. you are aware some asexuals aren’t sex repulsed. you do not need to baby asexuals and act like the slightest mention of anything sexual will cause them to die of a heart attack 

Addition: you also don’t need to baby asexuals who don’t have sex. I dont have sex. Sex jokes do not bother me. Sex education does not bother me. Reproductive body parts do not bother me. Sex repulsed aces will also not have a heart attack at the slightest mention of sex.

I find it so strange when allos are horrified at the concept of being alone forever. I don’t think anyone can be a healthy, fully-functioning adult if their happiness depends entirely on another person. Learning to enjoy time spent alone is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health because, whether or not you’re in a romantic relationship, you will spend a lot of time alone in your life. If you can’t be happy alone, it’s going to be very hard to be happy at all.

just wanna say that aspec (aspec ≠ acespec) and aroacespec don't mean the same!! aspec further than just aromantic and asexual identities. Aplatonic, afamilial, anaesthetic, asensual and anattractional identities are all part of aspec, so when you use that term please please keep in mind that it goes far beyond aroace!

stay groovy and cherish an aspec person today!

not caring about romance is constantly framed as bad and evil. even if you're not hurting anyone. even if you're just living your life and focusing on other things that bring you fulfilment. even if you didn't ask for someone to fall for you and don't have any control over your inability to reciprocate. it's exhausting

Now the aro version lawl

Romance repulsed

Romance indifferent

Romance averse

Romance ambivalent

Romance positive

remember kids! love isn't everything! you can live a perfectly happy life without it! you don't need platonic love NOR romantic love!! not having one or the other doesn't make you a "monster" or a "freak". you are perfectly fine the way you are! don't let anyone tell you other wise!

daily reminder that aplatonicism is a queer identity, and cishet aplatonics can call themselves queer if they want

Ace and aro dragons, wyverns, and drakes

Shout out to my disabled transmascs who can't bind even if you want to. Who want to, maybe even used to, but who's bodies won't let them. For those where it will cause pain, it will cause breathing issues, it will trigger sensory issues, it will be unbearable. Toughest dudes out there.

Shout out to gnc genderfluid people

To genderfluid people who present very masculine when they're a girl

To genderfluid people who present very feminine when they're a guy

To genderfluid people who don't present androgynous when their gender isn't aligned

To genderfluid people whose gender is partially static too, so they present as what is gnc for that gender

To genderfluid people whose gender is heavily fluid so what's gnc for their gender changes regularly

Just. Shout out to gnc genderfluid people of all kinds

The thing about how when I tell people offline I’m aroace they usually go “Oh, I didn’t know that was a thing!” is like. It’s a good response, it’s good that the response I get generally isn’t outright aphobic, but it reminds me just how much they don’t know. Like. The sheer range of the aro and ace spectrums and the experiences relating to attraction that I see people in those communities talk about, the amount of breaking down of attraction and relationships, the amount of discussion about ALLLLLLLLL the hecking nuance both of those can have, and like. So many people literally Do Not Know that even the words “aromantic” and “asexual” exist. And just “doesn’t feel attraction” is the easiest and most basic thing here to understand. It’s the tip of the iceberg. It’s the tip of a really really freaking huge iceberg. And plenty of allos have a hard time wrapping their heads around even that, let alone all the many more identities and many many more kinds of experiences on these spectrums. So many people literally do not know that not feeling attraction the way they do is a thing. So many people, like, the VAST majority of the population, are entirely confined to this incredibly freaking limited ONE standard concept of how attraction and relationships can work that seems mandated for everycreature. So many people don’t even know that anything outside of that exists. And SO MUCH outside of that can exist. It’s some straight-up allegory of the cave junk.

My two cents is that... As a gay man. I understand why love is so important to a lot of people in the lgbtq community. I just also think, as an aromantic person, that we should recognize that it isn't the *only* measure of queerness outside of gender

I am queer because I love men. I am queer because the way I experience / process those emotions is fundamentally different from most people. These ideas are not contradictory, and there is really no reason for there to be as much tension between these communities as there is

[ID: A screenshot of hashtags reading as follows-

#i really think that the wider queer community should listen to aro's ideas about love because there is such a huge spectrum of experiences

#specifically referencing the post about aro being a political identity too and how it shapes our worldview

#I'm too tired to properly elaborate but I think it would do a world of good if our ideas weren't just confined to the aro community

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Ace frogs! 💜🤍🖤 stickers

aromantic flag cat stack doodle

The concept of 'love'

The feeling of affection and devotion towards someone or something does not have to be described using the word 'love.'