we need a universal grocery classification system like the dewey decimal to aid in shelving, so i don’t have to figure out whether you think maple syrup goes with the sauces, breakfast foods, jams, or condiments
Gee, Tumblr would probably really hate it if you shared and spread this damning article … To the surprise of absolutely none of Tumblr’s LGBTQ users, it turns out the independent NYC human rights agency Commission on Human Rights (CCHR) found that Tumblr’s ham-fisted adult content ban in December 2018 disproportionately targeted LGBTQ users. The CCHR’s investigation revealed Tumbler’s moderation algorithms is demonstrably biased against queer content. As part of the settlement, Tumblr was obligated to review their prejudicial anti-gay moderation policies. Even more mortifyingly, they’ve also had to hire an expert on sexual orientation and gender identity (SOGI) issues and provide unconscious bias training to their moderators. I frankly doubt Tumblr has learned a thing from this humbling experience. Just recently the Tumblr algorithm flagged three ancient posts of mine as violating their terms. All three “offenders” were vintage homoerotic beefcake images (softcore by modern standards) roughly 50 – 65-years-old by Bruce of Los Angeles, Bob Mizer and Tom of Finland. (These are of course pioneering queer artists who routinely faced censorship and imprisonment in the fifties and sixties. Plus ca change!). They've been visible on my page - corrupting viewers - for years at this point. I appealed all three immediately. Only the Tom of Finland one was approved. The other two are now hidden. So, they haven't learned much. Apparently, Tumblr – who loves to declare how hip, youthful, inclusive and progressive their values are - wants to restore trust with their queer users. I’d recommend we remember their hypocrisy when Pride rolls around and Tumblr splashes rainbow flags everywhere and attempts to pink wash their image.
In honour of Pride Month, this is worth a reblog! Don’t buy into Tumblr’s hypocritical “pink washing.”
If anyone was new to Tumblr and didn’t know the meme format they’d think that Balthazar was at it again.
💯🙏💛🟨👍
Worst part about this is I've only ever used that yellow square emoji once and it was just to see how it looked. This isn't who I am. However, in retrospect, I suppose it is
Reading through the notes is a surreal experience please keep adding more to fuel my effervescent consumption of non descriptive emojis
current note count: 295
I voted "yes", and I say that as a disabled person who can't physically work a regular job and hasn't worked a regular job for many years.
It's important, I think, with a question like this, to understand exactly what "work" is. Most of us looking at this poll would assume "work" to mean the kind of miserable shit that capitalist society forces us to spend 80% of our waking lives on, but that's not the only thing that is meant by "work".
Writing is work. Making art is work. Doing things in your community is work. That these things don't usually turn a profit for anybody does not disqualify them from being work! If I had enough money to do whatever I wanted for the rest of my life without having to worry about grappling with the DWP all the time, I'd write so many fucking books! Very few of us would genuinely just sit around and do nothing if we didn't have to worry about working for an income!
(And I mean, if someone finds that their needs are suddenly being met and they respond to that by falling off the face of the earth and doing fuck all for six months, they needed a break! I wouldn't judge anyone for that, honestly.)
Pilots of UBI all over the world have found the same thing, specifically that people don't stop working when their needs are met. They may work less, but the only people who tend to stop working entirely are students and new parents. Every other group usually continues to work, but with the added option of being able to choose the work they do and how much of their time they spend on it.
So yeah tl;dr more things count as "work" than you think.
As someone studying child psychology and wanting to specialise in queer children yes.
Yes because the more research done on why being queer and being introduced to queerness at a young age isn’t a bad thing will help the world be a better place.
Yes because queer children won’t stop existing and I want to help them find a home in a world that can seem to be against them at times.
Yes because I want to make Britain a country where access to trans healthcare doesn’t mean moving to another country just for surgeries.
Yes because, personally, if I didn’t work I’d be bored af and need something to occupy my time.
This pride remember that trans men exist and not every single trans pride thing should be only about trans women make some trans men are men and trans men are kings etc stuff for once please thank you we out here isolated in the lgbt community
another-exclus
Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.
lythelia-art
But queer is more inclusive
And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.
another-exclus
It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you
It’s called economía del lenguaje.
savethelesbians
It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.
Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.
Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.
“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”
Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?
I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.
queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid
every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.
I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.
baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit
every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.
terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.
we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.
I don’t know if this is just because I’m not American but I’ve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didn’t like was ‘soo gay’. Queer wasn’t even a word most of us knew back then.
It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.
The reason people are upset about the word queer is that it’s a unifying term. You can say you’re queer and all people will know is that you’re part of the community. But you can’t say you’re LGBT, you have to say you’re gay or trans or ace. They don’t want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other “gay” as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether “gay” is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.
They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
Words that have been shouted out car widows at me: “gay”
Words that concisely contain my identity and don’t give more information than I want to give or require me to jump through hoops to explain to the average person: “queer”
Yes, “queer"can be used AS a slur, and some people will never be comfortable personally identifying as queer because of it and that’s fine. But the same can be said of literally every identifier we have, and if you have a new, rare one that hasn’t been, literally just give the bigots time to hear about it and it will be. I have known queer people who identified as dykes or faggots exclusively, because the terms “lesbian” and “gay” had been the slurs they were tormented with and they weren’t comfortable identifying with them. But you didn’t catch them telling gay and lesbian people their identities were slurs and shouldn’t be used as community terms.
Any word we use for ourselves will be used as a weapon against us by bigots. We’ve pulled those weapons out of our flesh and brandished them as our own. You do NOT get to take any of those weapons and give them BACK to the bigots.
It is about endless pointed questions when, really, this is all none of your business. It is about the carelessness of people who have never had to fight this fight and lying awake in the night asking: “Am I queer enough?” as if there is a dotted line, somewhere in the sand. It is about finding a place to stand and becoming fierce, because I cannot be anything else if I want to get out alive. It is about infinite angry tears and a joyful will to survive, and learning myself through and through, which is why I’m not gay as in happy: I’m queer as in fuck you.
– Meredith Debonnaire, Queer as in Fuck You
another-exclus
Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.
lythelia-art
But queer is more inclusive
And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.
another-exclus
It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you
It’s called economía del lenguaje.
savethelesbians
It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.
Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.
Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.
“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”
Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?
I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.
queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid
every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.
I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.
baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit
every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.
terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.
we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.
I don’t know if this is just because I’m not American but I’ve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didn’t like was ‘soo gay’. Queer wasn’t even a word most of us knew back then.
It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.
The reason people are upset about the word queer is that it’s a unifying term. You can say you’re queer and all people will know is that you’re part of the community. But you can’t say you’re LGBT, you have to say you’re gay or trans or ace. They don’t want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other “gay” as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether “gay” is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.
They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
Words that have been shouted out car widows at me: “gay”
Words that concisely contain my identity and don’t give more information than I want to give or require me to jump through hoops to explain to the average person: “queer”
Yes, “queer"can be used AS a slur, and some people will never be comfortable personally identifying as queer because of it and that’s fine. But the same can be said of literally every identifier we have, and if you have a new, rare one that hasn’t been, literally just give the bigots time to hear about it and it will be. I have known queer people who identified as dykes or faggots exclusively, because the terms “lesbian” and “gay” had been the slurs they were tormented with and they weren’t comfortable identifying with them. But you didn’t catch them telling gay and lesbian people their identities were slurs and shouldn’t be used as community terms.
Any word we use for ourselves will be used as a weapon against us by bigots. We’ve pulled those weapons out of our flesh and brandished them as our own. You do NOT get to take any of those weapons and give them BACK to the bigots.
It is about endless pointed questions when, really, this is all none of your business. It is about the carelessness of people who have never had to fight this fight and lying awake in the night asking: “Am I queer enough?” as if there is a dotted line, somewhere in the sand. It is about finding a place to stand and becoming fierce, because I cannot be anything else if I want to get out alive. It is about infinite angry tears and a joyful will to survive, and learning myself through and through, which is why I’m not gay as in happy: I’m queer as in fuck you.
– Meredith Debonnaire, Queer as in Fuck You
another-exclus
Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.
lythelia-art
But queer is more inclusive
And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.
another-exclus
It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you
It’s called economía del lenguaje.
savethelesbians
It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.
Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.
Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.
“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”
Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?
I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.
queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid
every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.
I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.
baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit
every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.
terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.
we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.
I don’t know if this is just because I’m not American but I’ve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didn’t like was ‘soo gay’. Queer wasn’t even a word most of us knew back then.
It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.
The reason people are upset about the word queer is that it’s a unifying term. You can say you’re queer and all people will know is that you’re part of the community. But you can’t say you’re LGBT, you have to say you’re gay or trans or ace. They don’t want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other “gay” as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether “gay” is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.
They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
Words that have been shouted out car widows at me: “gay”
Words that concisely contain my identity and don’t give more information than I want to give or require me to jump through hoops to explain to the average person: “queer”
Yes, “queer"can be used AS a slur, and some people will never be comfortable personally identifying as queer because of it and that’s fine. But the same can be said of literally every identifier we have, and if you have a new, rare one that hasn’t been, literally just give the bigots time to hear about it and it will be. I have known queer people who identified as dykes or faggots exclusively, because the terms “lesbian” and “gay” had been the slurs they were tormented with and they weren’t comfortable identifying with them. But you didn’t catch them telling gay and lesbian people their identities were slurs and shouldn’t be used as community terms.
Any word we use for ourselves will be used as a weapon against us by bigots. We’ve pulled those weapons out of our flesh and brandished them as our own. You do NOT get to take any of those weapons and give them BACK to the bigots.
It is about endless pointed questions when, really, this is all none of your business. It is about the carelessness of people who have never had to fight this fight and lying awake in the night asking: “Am I queer enough?” as if there is a dotted line, somewhere in the sand. It is about finding a place to stand and becoming fierce, because I cannot be anything else if I want to get out alive. It is about infinite angry tears and a joyful will to survive, and learning myself through and through, which is why I’m not gay as in happy: I’m queer as in fuck you.
– Meredith Debonnaire, Queer as in Fuck You
another-exclus
Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.
lythelia-art
But queer is more inclusive
And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.
another-exclus
It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you
It’s called economía del lenguaje.
savethelesbians
It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.
Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.
Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.
“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”
Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?
I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.
queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid
every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.
I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.
baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit
every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.
terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.
we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.
I don’t know if this is just because I’m not American but I’ve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didn’t like was ‘soo gay’. Queer wasn’t even a word most of us knew back then.
It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.
The reason people are upset about the word queer is that it’s a unifying term. You can say you’re queer and all people will know is that you’re part of the community. But you can’t say you’re LGBT, you have to say you’re gay or trans or ace. They don’t want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other “gay” as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether “gay” is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.
They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
Words that have been shouted out car widows at me: “gay”
Words that concisely contain my identity and don’t give more information than I want to give or require me to jump through hoops to explain to the average person: “queer”
Yes, “queer"can be used AS a slur, and some people will never be comfortable personally identifying as queer because of it and that’s fine. But the same can be said of literally every identifier we have, and if you have a new, rare one that hasn’t been, literally just give the bigots time to hear about it and it will be. I have known queer people who identified as dykes or faggots exclusively, because the terms “lesbian” and “gay” had been the slurs they were tormented with and they weren’t comfortable identifying with them. But you didn’t catch them telling gay and lesbian people their identities were slurs and shouldn’t be used as community terms.
Any word we use for ourselves will be used as a weapon against us by bigots. We’ve pulled those weapons out of our flesh and brandished them as our own. You do NOT get to take any of those weapons and give them BACK to the bigots.
It is about endless pointed questions when, really, this is all none of your business. It is about the carelessness of people who have never had to fight this fight and lying awake in the night asking: “Am I queer enough?” as if there is a dotted line, somewhere in the sand. It is about finding a place to stand and becoming fierce, because I cannot be anything else if I want to get out alive. It is about infinite angry tears and a joyful will to survive, and learning myself through and through, which is why I’m not gay as in happy: I’m queer as in fuck you.
– Meredith Debonnaire, Queer as in Fuck You
another-exclus
Everything is like “QUEER history” and “List of QUEER young adult books” or “Top 10 QUEER movies” and queer this and queer that and for the love of god please just say LGBT.
lythelia-art
But queer is more inclusive
And faster to pronounce if you are talking instead of writing.
another-exclus
It’s not more inclusive, and if your excuse of using a slur as a blanket term is “it’s faster to say”, GENUINELY what is wrong with you
It’s called economía del lenguaje.
savethelesbians
It’s also the respected academic term?? The acronym isn’t static and it’s usage is varied by things like generational difference, location, and knowledge of the community. Even just in the U.S. in the last few decades the common usage gone from GLBT to LGBT to LGBTQ, to LGBTQA/LGBTQIA/LGBTQIAP/etc (Which, let me tell you as someone who has given presentations in the past using these updated acronyms, are all real mouthfulls), to LGBT+.
Also yes, queer is more inclusive! Especially coming at it from an academic standpoint, people didn’t always use or identify with the terms we use now and you can’t always try to cram them into our modern perceptions of sexuality. We can argue for years about whether a famous historical figure was gay or bisexual or straight and trans or whatever, but if we can all agree that they were somehow queer then using that term allows us to move past the debate and into productive discussion. And not everybody everywhere shares the same terms for sexual and gender identity, or even the same concepts of those things, so queer really is a more inclusive term in a lot of cases.
Like yeah if you’re talking specifically about gay or trans people you can just say gay or transgender, but if you’re talking about more than one identity or someone who doesn’t conform to our perceptions of ‘LGBT,’ or a person or people whose identity you don’t know, queer is just the better word.
“That’s SO gay”, “Oh my god, you’re not a LESBIAN, are you?”
Your words are slurs, too. Why do you get your words, but I don’t get mine? What makes you so special?
I’m here, I’m queer, go fuck yourself.
queer is not a slur, stop drinking the TERF koolaid
every time one of you fools spout about ‘queer is a slur’ a terf laughs because their fucking plan to make that word ‘taboo’ is fucking working you dipshit.
I did not get my degree in queer literature for you all to keep pulling this bullshit.
baby gays,,,, i beg of you to learn your queer history and stop listening to terf bullshit
every single one of our labels has been used as a slur against us.
terfs and -phobes are always going to try and hurt us with what we identify as. but the fact remains these are OUR labels and always have been.
we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it.
I don’t know if this is just because I’m not American but I’ve never heard queer used as a slur. Ever. Meanwhile gay was the insult in the 2000s here. Everything you didn’t like was ‘soo gay’. Queer wasn’t even a word most of us knew back then.
It just baffled me that people would think an identifier is automatically a slur just because someone uses it to mock someone. If we did that gay would be a slur. Stupid would be a slur. Autistic would be a slur.
The reason people are upset about the word queer is that it’s a unifying term. You can say you’re queer and all people will know is that you’re part of the community. But you can’t say you’re LGBT, you have to say you’re gay or trans or ace. They don’t want you to be ambiguously queer. They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
yeah in the 90s and early 2000s kids would call each other “gay” as an insult. But no one ties themselves in knots over whether “gay” is a slur. So yeah, please ffs learn your history.
They want you to say which kind of queer you are so they can decide whether you’re undesirable.
Words that have been shouted out car widows at me: “gay”
Words that concisely contain my identity and don’t give more information than I want to give or require me to jump through hoops to explain to the average person: “queer”
Yes, “queer"can be used AS a slur, and some people will never be comfortable personally identifying as queer because of it and that’s fine. But the same can be said of literally every identifier we have, and if you have a new, rare one that hasn’t been, literally just give the bigots time to hear about it and it will be. I have known queer people who identified as dykes or faggots exclusively, because the terms “lesbian” and “gay” had been the slurs they were tormented with and they weren’t comfortable identifying with them. But you didn’t catch them telling gay and lesbian people their identities were slurs and shouldn’t be used as community terms.
Any word we use for ourselves will be used as a weapon against us by bigots. We’ve pulled those weapons out of our flesh and brandished them as our own. You do NOT get to take any of those weapons and give them BACK to the bigots.
It is about endless pointed questions when, really, this is all none of your business. It is about the carelessness of people who have never had to fight this fight and lying awake in the night asking: “Am I queer enough?” as if there is a dotted line, somewhere in the sand. It is about finding a place to stand and becoming fierce, because I cannot be anything else if I want to get out alive. It is about infinite angry tears and a joyful will to survive, and learning myself through and through, which is why I’m not gay as in happy: I’m queer as in fuck you.
– Meredith Debonnaire, Queer as in Fuck You
Not my girlfriend watching SPN with me (on S8) and I’m telling her that Sam and Dean end after doing TedTalks and then retiring to Brazil.
