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Welcome, Have Some Tea! ☕️

@trans-and-loving-cats

Hi. My name is Ciel. I am a 18 year old enby. I have ADHD and maladaptive daydreaming disorder. I thought I was non binary, then I thought I was a trans guy, and now I realize I am non binary. I post mental health stuff, memes, and everything in between. I hope I am able to make you laugh, or at least smile.
I use they/them. I like girls romantically and sexually, but not sure what label to use right now, so I’ll just use NBLW. ESFP, if your interested in that kind of stuff.
My main blog is @empty-inside-but-feeling-fine

Name: Ciel Avery xxx

Gender: non binary, trans masc, they/them

Birthday: February 12, 2002

Personality: Extroverted, impulsive, tense, stubborn, sarcastic, assertive, competitive, proud, unmotivated, determined, defensive, independent, cheerful, creative, artistic, socially awkward, clumsy, childish, immature

ESFP

Appearance: 5’0”, light skin, hazel eyes, kinda chubby face, short medium brown hair that goes to my chin, messy bangs, wears black glasses, kinda chubby body shape. I describe my gender expression as ‘casual masculine’. I often wear tee shirts, hoodies, sweatpants, lose jeans, and sneakers.

Extra:

- I have a lot of cats

- I have dealt with a intense fear of needles for most of my life, starting at the age of four. At age 17, I gotten over the fear. Though needles still make me a bit nervous.

- I use humour to help cope with emotional pain and trauma, as well as stress and nervousness

- I am really sensitive to heat and I sweat very easily. Too much heat makes me uncomfortable.

Games I like:

- Pokémon

- Ace attorney

- Animal Crossing

Anime I like:

- Ouran High school host club

- Aggretsuko

- Cells at work

- Maid-sama

- K-on

- Kakeguri

- Carole and Tuesday

- Death Note

Evan was the first name I wanted to go by. I experimented with the name Chase for a bit, but I now know I like Evan more.

Shows I like:

- The Office

- Steven Universe

- BoJack Horseman

- Bob’s Burgers

- Black Mirror

I am quitting tumblr. I may not come back. There is no reason for this, I’m just bored with it and I need to do other stuff. Thank you for following and I hope you have a great day. I won’t delete my tumblr just incase I want to return.

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Me: *Removes my cat from my lap to do something else.*
My cat: Father is...evil? Father is unyielding? Father is incapable of love? I am running away. I am packing my little rucksack and going out to explore the world as a lone vagabond. I can no longer thrive in this household.

The spiritual successor to Miette

Might I also add

May i add the piece from artist Verbal Vomit

Glad to see we’re all in agreement that cats talk like disparaged victorian children

I am so incredibly glad we finally moved on from "i can has". Cats are clearly smart enough for advanced sentence structure and dumb enough to draw entirely incorrect conclusions about what they're talking about.

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My cat, banging the cabnet door over and over and over: bang bang bang

Me: you will not earn what you desire by banging the cabinet door.

My cat: This is a test of wills, is it not? We shall see if your ability to put up with my incessant banging outlasts my eternal lust for snackie treats. Years of conditioning have hardened me for this purpose. bang bang bang

Me: ksst!

My cat, throwing herself to the ground like she's been shot: Oh! Oh I have been assailed in my own home! Have mercy, have pity! Surely in the cruel darkness of your heart there is some mote of goodness that might stay your hand! Do not strike me, I pray you!

Me: ok

My cat, after waiting about 3 minutes: bang bang bang

Can haz snackytreat

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This post is the most reblogged post of the year! Congratulations!

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We did it Tommy!

Tommy!!!!! Tommy is the VIP!!!!!!

One thing that's kind of weird that being asexual has taught me.

NO 👏 MEANS 👏 NO 👏 MEANS 👏 NO 👏

Seems kind of obvious, right? Normally when people talk about "No means no" they're talking about sex.

However, being asexual (and trying to be an aromantic advocate) has taught me that "No means no" applies to all boundaries.

Don't want to be touched? No means no.

Don't want to go out for coffee wth the buds? No means no.

Don't want to go to dinner with the family? No means no.

As a kid (myself being a introverted and shy child) parents just assume you shove kids out of their boundaries even if they don't want to. They'll thank you later, right?

Then again in high school and college being the introvert with many health issues, I frequently declined events for varying reasons, and people stopped inviting me because they assumed I didn't want to hang out with them.

It really taught me "you have to say yes even if you don't want to".

Thanks to the help of the asexual and aro communities, I'm starting to learn, you can just say no.

This is generally applied to mean, "If I say no to a hug, it doesn't mean I don't like you. It just means I don't like hugs." In the ace and aro communities. However, this can apply to any situation. "If I say no to your party, it doesn't mean I don't want to hang with you. It just means I don't like large social gatherings."

Still working on applying it. A lot of people feel the need to pressure you when you say no. I say no to a dinner with friends because it's a pandemic, and I don't want to risk the health of my family, and they're all "Aww, come on! It's a closed room. Clean linens. Just remember to wash your hands!"

No.

The answer is no.

I don't owe you an explanation, but I already gave you one. No means no.

Sorry. Seems kind of off topic, but I thought I'd share some things I learn from the ace and aro communities that we should all know.

Like all mental illnesses, eating disorders can be illogical and difficult to tackle alone. It’s not your fault that you were drafted into this fight, but I know you have what it takes to win! You deserve to have a healthy relationship with food, and with the way you view yourself. You are incredible, you are strong, and you deserve to eat 💖 A BONUS SKETCH OF THE AFTERMATH

hey if you’re struggling today- I know food holidays are hard for folks who’ve had trouble with eating disorders- I’m thinking of you

oh hey, stealth and closeted trans people! i keep forgetting to mention this and idk if everyone already knows but there's this free app called transtracks (android + iOS) that acts as your standard transition tracking app (medical transition, social transition, surgical transition, whatever you're tracking) except it has a stealth mode!

just change your passwords settings to "train tracks"...

... and voila! the app has become for train schedules.

this is what the new decoy password screen pulls up:

it isn't exactly safe for me to be out IRL so i've been using this app for a while now! it's mostly helpful for my peace of mind and in case somebody needs to use my phone because i'm out to my family- but anybody living at home who isnt out or who has nosey/transphobic parents- maybe give it a shot!