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GodagglyFogaddly

@tradesecretsofawidow

23 y/o titled OSCILLA. My AI has an aggro range of -3 so you're fine probably. What's said is what's wanted. will eventually be a hub tumblr for the system. We're Autistic, likely OSDD but let's not act like we admit it lol

Neglected children will sometimes go ‘okay time to dangerously deteriorate to see if anyone cares about me’ and then if nobody does, they don’t know how to stop deteriorating on their own, they’ll need help to pick themselves back up.

 And if that help doesn’t arrive, they’ll conclude ‘I was right to destroy myself in a world where nobody cares for me anyway, why should I live at all’ and it sets them on a miserable life path where all they see is chances for self destruction and proof of nobody caring, and from the very start it’s not their fault at all.

Because someone should notice when a kid starts losing themselves and step up and help. Children are not meant to know how to take care of themselves in an environment where they’re neglected, ignored and uncared for. Putting them in such an environment then blaming them for deteriorating is absolutely ridiculous. It takes paying attention and realizing when something is wrong and pulling a kid out of the black hole they’re falling into, before they can no longer crawl their way out on their own. 

It’s not acceptable to let children deal with abandonment and neglect all on their own, and expect them to not grow up miserable, resentful, struggling, and doing harm to themselves. It’s the same harm we never stopped them from doing when they were kids, when they needed to know that someone would care if they’re hurt. If we want functional and healthy adults in the society, we have to notice what is going on with the kids and make sure they’re helped in time. 

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i was trying to collect more shitty ms paint doodles we all use and vibe with and then i realize i also have ms paint and can just MAKE some 

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i can’t decide if this is the single coolest girl in the world for making danger her middle name or the silliest for not seeing the raw power of “millipede danger” which is the greatest name i have ever heard

when the prey animal coded character kills the predator animal coded character.... oughhhhrghrhhrghagh

when the wolf has fangs but the sheep and deer have horns just as sharp. when the scorpion has its sting but the frog can swim while it drowns. when the fly tangles the spider in its own web. when fear and anger and desperation to survive are just as deadly as hunger.

YES. THINGS THAT FIGHT BACK AND KILL VICIOUSLY, NOT FOR SPORT OR FOR FOOD, BUT BECAUSE IT MUST. BECAUSE TO NOT KILL IS TO END YOUR BLOODLINE.

Dear Non-autistics:

If someone you know or love is having a meltdown, please do NOT

  • Tell us to "stop it"
  • Touch us without permission
  • Yell at us or talk over us
  • Ask for complicated tasks or answers
  • Leave us alone if it's obvious we're a danger to ourselves or others
  • Use restraints, either with your own body or with physical restraints
  • Panic
  • Shake us or manhandle us. We can hear you, we just can't respond well

Remember, we are not being a problem; we're having a problem!

So, things to do!

Do:

  • Make sure we're safe
  • Remove all stimuli including turning off lights if possible, giving stim toys, noise cancelling headphones etc
  • Remove us from the situation if possible
  • Talk softly and offer alternative forms of communication if possible
  • Sit with us if safe to do so
  • Offer a stuffed animal or comfort item
  • Set up a meltdown guide with us so everyone is on the same page
  • Understand we will be unable to do much post-meltdown. Water, snacks and quiet is required.
  • Reassurance helps. Guilt often sets in post-meltdown.
  • A period of inactivity (known as a shutdown) often occurs right after a meltdown. We won't respond or look at you, but we can hear you. Please let this happen naturally

Autistics please add on. What does and doesn't help you?

grounding questions work for some autistic people, but not everyone. talk to the autistic person beforehand if possible or after recuperating to figure out what helps them!

sometimes we need to be left alone, respect that