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Basically gay posts because girls | Safe space for all sapphics | non-sapphics welcome to reblog, but please don’t message me with romantic/inappropriate intentions
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Little Announcement:

From now on, I’m going to be making the first tag either ‘post’, ‘ask’, ‘reblog’, ‘rant’, ‘poll’, or’ announcement’

It’s just so everyone can navigate the posts on here easier.

I know I sometimes only want to see the blog’s posts, not asks, so this should help with that.

For those who aren’t super familiar with tumblr yet, all you do is tap on that specific tag and it will show you all the posts on my blog that have that tag.

Just so I’m not making any assumptions with understanding, #post will be my original posts, #ask will be asks submitted that I answered, #reblog are posts I reblogged from other blogs, #rant will just be me ranting about something, #poll will of course be polls, and #announcement is anything that doesn’t fall into the rest.

Feel free to click on one of the tags ⬇️

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Guys! I have unlocked the secret to meeting other queer women in public!

I started wearing rings, bracelets, eyeliner and mascara more often, and I HAVE BEEN SMILED AT AND FLIRTED WITH X100 MORE THAN NORMAL (no exaggeration). This works with femme clothing and masc clothing.

Guys 😫 I may not be single to entertain these women, but this is useful information!! And none of the rings/bracelets I’ve worn have had rainbows (helpful for those of us who aren’t out/don’t want to wear rainbows).

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Anonymous asked:

Hi! So i have a question how do i make a long distance relationship work. I just got a girlfriend last night and she’s states away from me and I feel like we aren’t really connecting? Because i don’t really know much about her but I’m trying to get to know her more but it’s hard because it’s just over text messages. I connect more in person so I was wondering how to connect and make this work out?

Also neither of us have dated before so we’re going in blind and our families aren’t accepting either.

I’ve had two long term long distance relationships, so I definitely know the struggle.

Some things you can do to help connect with each other:

• Communication is suuuuuper important. It’s important in normal relationships, but even more so in long distance.

• text each other throughout the day, telling each other random things you’ve been doing.

• find fun little questionnaires you can ask each other on call.

• watch movies together over video call

• have little dates. E.g. my ex girlfriend and I sometimes had ‘paint dated’ where we each had our painting things with us and just painted together and spoke while we did.

• calling fairly regularly is a must, even if it’s a two minute call to check in. My current partner calls me to check in and it makes my day.

• if you’re able, maybe send each other something through the post (it doesn’t have to be obviously romantic, especially since your parents aren’t accepting). My current partner and I send each other things through post (like a cap that you know they’ll like, or a necklace you thought would look pretty on them).

• there are fun little trivia videos on YouTube that you can do together over call. Just send each other the link and start the video at the same time :)

• being really flirty over text can also help with really making it feel more like a relationship and not just a close friendship

• be open with each other, especially as you become closer.

• make a concerted effort to talk to one another and spend time together online/on the phone or video call. Of all the points I’ve made, this one’s probably one of the most important.

Wishing you and your girlfriend the best, anon ❤️

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Anonymous asked:

a fellow sapphic here needs help lol. so, i have a crush on one of my friends, and she very much knows i'm bi and is perfectly fine with it. she doesn't use any labels for her sexuality, which in my opinion, is pretty queer. it's been going well, as i have been getting confident enough to compliment her and be kinda flirty about it. for example, i sometimes call her "milady" or "m'lady" and she just smiles and laughs every time, same with whenever i do finger guns.

i myself don't really care whether she likes me platonically, romantically, or otherwise because i love our friendship as is. however, i am autistic and struggle with people's feelings towards me, so i could be missing some signs. i wanna communicate my feelings without being Too Obvious about it and not make her uncomfortable and ruin our friendship, since she most likely has no idea that i'm into her, plus i wanna get these feelings off of my chest lmaooo.

The ‘milady’/‘m’lady’ is a good one. If she plays along, she could like you back, if she’s just laughing, she may just think you’re being funny and not flirting, just a smile and moving on fairly quickly with conversation can show her being uncomfortable.

The flirting you should do (to test the waters and potentially see if she likes you back) should, of course, be light. Compliments, especially a bit more frequent compliments, can communicate to her how you feel. How she responds can tell you a lot. If she blushes/sends 😊, 🥰, or ☺️, she probably likes you back. If she doesn’t like you, she’ll probably just say thank you and not compliment you back. If she compliments you back, there’s a chance she likes you back. The way she compliments back can be telling, though. If there are flirty undertones, maybe calling you prettier, then she likes you back. If it’s more ‘you’re pretty too’, it’s less likely.

I hope this is helpful.

Also, let me just apologize 😭 I accidentally saved this to drafts and just found it there now.

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Anonymous asked:

I'm sorry maybe this isn't gonna be entertaining. Can I have an advice? I met this person online, we chat sometimes mostly in groups but this time I adventure to chat one on one a little more. Days goes by and we talk a little more, nothing serious, just two strangers sharing thoughts. one day she had a problem and said I was the only one talking with her and she needed to let that out,we talked, she calmed down, we were fine. Since then we started talking a little more and more, about our day, jobs, family, share videos, say gm and gn. She had all my attention and I think I had hers. Until one day I said gm and there were no answer until hours later, strange, I ask later if she was busy and her answer was no. Days go by and we talked less, hours went by without answer, no gm texts, nothing about her day, after a couple weeks I ask her if something happened, I feel her distance, she said no, it's that sometimes she needs attention and sometimes she fixated in other thing but that I don't have nothing to worry about. But nothing changed, more weeks and more distance, a little worse, I noticed she wasnt sharing anything with me anymore, not her day, thoughs, plans, videos, pictures, we talked everyday but much less and hours apart when it used to be minutes, it was like she forgets my message or she didn't wanna answer me, bc I knew she talk on the group and with others but not me. I approached again and ask if she wanted this, if she didn't want to talk to me I would understand but please tell me. She said yes and no, yes because she felt a connection with me and no bc she wasn't good mentally and didn't want to connect emotionally and she knew she wasn't a good friend rn. I said she hasn't to be perfect but I needed to know that she still care for us, she said yes. I wanted to talk about a way that she felt okay not talking with me if she doesn't want to but letting me know she was okay or at least think about me, she said later. We talked two more days with the same answer after hours, you could tell it was when she didn't have anything else to do or talk with. And then.. we didn't talk for three weeks. We were chatting and I did a comment about something, I answered and she never replied, she didn't even open the chat, until weeks later. This group where we met, I keep my distance from, I don't talk there anymore for various reasons, but she's still there and talk with everyone at any time, actually it appears she had a gf there now. I don't know if I love her like more than a friend, I care deeply for her. I don't know if I'm overreacting or shouldn't feel like trash. I've been months crying waiting for her, wondering what I did wrong. I don't know what to do anymore . I'm sorry this is too long, can someone advise or k*ll me. .?

I’m so sorry this happened to you. If she’s moved on, just know it isn’t your fault. And just because she wasn’t in a good mental space doesn’t mean you can’t be upset about how all of this has made you feel. You didn’t do anything wrong and it sounds like she just didn’t have the capacity at that moment to maintain anything. I can’t say much about her since I don’t know her, but I can say that you don’t need to blame yourself for how things went.

Allow yourself to be sad. Process everything that has happened and how you’re feeling about everything. It’s really important that you process your feelings and allow yourself to feel. Be kind to yourself as you heal, and when you’re ready, move on from her. Because, while she may be struggling mentally, you don’t need to allow her to make you feel bad.

Wishing you the best ❤️

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Anonymous asked:

hi, so i might have my first date with a girl on monday, and i might be *slightly* panicking!! for context, i’ve known i’m queer for a while, but im still struggling with a lot of stuff (thank you to internalized homophobia), but im working on it. and i think i want this to work, but i have no experience at all, like in general. and im really stressed about how it’s going to go, im scared i might be too platonic, or just too in my head in general since i tend to be like that anyways. and yeah. im worried it’s all gonna turn sour for some reason

First date’s exciting!

I can give some tips on not being too platonic.

• when you give compliments, your wording is important. Example: ‘omg you’re so pretty!’=platonic, ‘you look really beautiful’= more romantic

• if you feel comfortable at any point in the date and you guys are walking, offer her your hand. You don’t have to straight up ask, ‘do you want to hold hands’. I know I personally don’t like asking out loud, so I just offer my hand and it’s up to them if they want to hold or not. If she doesn’t take your hand, don’t worry, she might just not be there yet, but it’s not the end of the world. Shrug it off and move on with the conversation, she’ll feel more comfortable. It’ll help if you keep the convo light here.

• if you guys have been talking for a while, maybe consider buying something small/making something small (simple bracelet or something) and on the date, say something along the lines of, ‘this would look pretty on you’ and put it on her. Or you can say you made/bought it for her. But iwl, I like ‘forgetting’ to ask for it back at the end of the date 😂 then telling her she can keep it because it looks pretty on her.

• try to do things on the date that will let you talk more (not movies). This is a personal preference, but can help with getting to know each other and not awkwardly glancing at each other in the cinema.

I could go on and on with more specific things, but I think the best thing to do is just be honest with each other while you’re getting to know one another, and slowly navigate more intense topics (probably best for later dates 🤞).

Just go with the flow as much as possible and maybe be transparent about your feelings with her. Tell her you’re nervous for the date, but really excited for it as well. Who knows, maybe she feels the same and can be an icebreaker for the two of you.

On your internalized homophobia, I’ve been there, and I really hope for the best for you. I actually used this blog in the beginning to help with my internalized homophobia, and used the space as a validation for the attraction I had for women and to let myself know that it was alright.

I hope this was helpful, my thoughts have been a bit all over the place lately, so hopefully this came out somewhat coherent 😂❤️ all the best to you, anon

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Anonymous asked:

My girlfriend recently told me that she's pan which is great because while she was nervous to tell me that I was nervous to tell her that I don't identify as a girl (agender) but now neither of us cares about my gender which is so great. I still label myself as a lesbian but I love that we have enough openness and trust to have that conversation and I love her so much

Excuse me while I go sob 🥹 this is literally my favorite type of story 😭 changing and growing, but unknowingly together 🫶

Much love to you two ❤️

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Anonymous asked:

hai!! i'm really sorry if this might sound invalidating and all over the place 🥹 i genuinely don't have the intention to invalidate both sexualities at all, i really badly need to get this off my chest and maybe i'm also seeking for a sort of an enlightment because i have been questioning my sexuality for as long as i can remember, i used to label myself as a bisexual but recently i feel more comfortable with calling myself with the label sapphic, also because i'm not sure i can label myself as a lesbian due to my past relationship with a couple of men.

before this, as a bisexual i always thought that i'm just a bisexual with a stronger lean towards women, non binary and woman aligned people, so i just settled with labelling myself as a bisexual sapphic. when i learnt about comphet i started to wonder if i was experiencing comphet when i dated men and my past relationships with men was never really that special? and kinda suck? 😭 and while i know i dated men before i never really saw myself being committed to them for a very long time.

compared to now which i'm currently in a long term sapphic relationship, i am very much happier and i can see myself being committed to my girlfriend for a very long time >< i know how this might seem like i'm only questioning myself again just because i'm in a sapphic relationship, if that makes sense, it's also one of the reasons why i'm hesitant to label myself as a lesbian

I’ll start off by saying that past relationships don’t define our current sexualities. You could’ve dated 100 men in the past and discovered tomorrow that you’re only really attracted to women and identify as a lesbian.

The thing is, we’re constantly learning about ourselves. Take away the influence of other people and how you think others will respond, and think about yourself right now. Whatever you’re feeling, go with it. If you feel like you’re a lesbian and your past attraction to men was due to Comphet, then you’re a lesbian. If tomorrow, next week, in a year’s time, or even ten years’ time, you find that you don’t feel you fit into the category of lesbian, then that’s okay. Don’t feel pressured to conform to the expectations of whatever label you choose (if you end up using a label at all).

And just because you’re questioning again because you’re in a sapphic relationship, doesn’t make your questioning any less valid/important. I’d argue that you’re gaining more perspective and you’re able to analyse how the different relationships (with men and with women) have made you feel and where you truly feel comfortable.

Go with your gut, anon ♡ don’t let anyone dictate how you label yourself. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you choose. Only you truly know you. Trust your judgement.

Wishing you the best of luck ❤️

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Anonymous asked:

I'm sorry if this comes as too personal or uncomfortable for you

But im starting to think my gf doesn't want to be with me anymore, we had a fight almost a week ago and we haven't talked since then, i don't know if I should start a conversation because I don't want to act like the problem isn't still there and i know she would try to ignore it but it really hurts me and makes me feel kind of abandoned that she can't just stop talking to me; especially because I have been ghosted before and it really affects me the silent treatment

Again, sorry if this is too personal but i have seen you answer these asks for a while and i thought I would give it a shot.

I love your blog btw it's one of the first wlw blogs i started following on tumblr and i think your content it's lovely,

It isn’t too personal :)

I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to start a conversation, but tell her that you really need to talk to her, that it’s important to you. From there, be honest with her. The best thing we can do in any relationship is communicate, and be honest and open with one another.

If you feel comfortable with it, tell her how the silent treatment made you feel. Communicating your feelings about her actions is important.

If she brushes you off, pushes your concerns to the side, I think that it you should maybe be straightforward with her and ask (subtly or bluntly, that’s your decision) where she sees your relationship at the moment and what she’s feeling about it.

I’m sorry things aren’t going great right now, anon. Genuinely wishing you the best and plenty of support ❤️ don’t be scared to reach out again.

And I’m glad you like my blog 😊

If anyone has any other advice, please comment ♡

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Tell me why I went into the shops with the intention of buying tank tops so that I look like the masciest masc to ever masc this summer, only to come out of the shops with tanks and bohemian pants and skirts so now I’m walking around looking like an earthy girlie

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dank-meme-legend asked:

This’ll just be me being very sappy and in love but it’s a very happy thing!! My girlfriend and I’s six month anniversary is today!!

It’s the longest relationship either of us have been it, same goes for the healthiest. So, we’ve learned together how to break out of patterns of bad communication and mistreatment and we have worked together a lot to be better for each other.

And, man, there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for her. I feel bad every time I have to hang up the phone because I just want to keep talking to her! She’s the sweetest person ever and she’s so warm, her soul is warm and loving. She’s so kind to not only me (obviously) but also my family!! My younger sister loves her and jokes that she’s already her sister in-law.

I love her so much. I have a strong self of wanting to do sweet things for her just for the hell of it, when I never had that in my previous relationship. Like, I literally scroll on Pinterest for a little bit everyday just to find cute pictures to send her to make her smile, or pictures that remind me of her or us as a couple.

Long-post-short, I’m full of love for her all the time but I’m also, understandably, filled with more today! I’m so proud of us as a couple for sticking together and growing together. I’m excited as hell for the months ahead! ❤️🥹

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Happy 6 months to you two!!! ❤️

That’s so great and sounds so amazing 😭🥹 sending you guys lots of happiness, growth together, love, and a strong, healthy relationship further 🫶

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Anonymous asked:

the sapphic urge to compare hand sizes with your crush

This.

Then I usually casually lace our fingers together so we’re now holding hands. (Obviously if they’re comfortable with it ;) ).

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Anonymous asked:

my girlfriend saying that i’d feel even more worst if i saw her face (they wanted to send me selfies) because i was having a bad day, which is not true at all, hurts me a little too much, idk how i should react to this

I find that what works for me is telling them that they might not be their own type, but they’re sure as heck my [your] type. And then tell them things about their appearance you find beautiful/attractive. After that, maybe ask if they’ll please send the pictures because you love seeing their face and it will indeed make your day better.

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