Reminders for the Anxious/Depressed Creatives

2023 Updates:

self-flagellation and self-bullying are all bad motivators for change BTW. it can be hard to escape from a spiral but genuinely u have to be nice to urself or nothing will change

you have to take care of yourself and not punch yourself down because you feel like you 'deserve it'. if you feel like the world is against you, you should at least be on your own side while you work through things.

hey now that it’s disability pride month can you please remember to include people with Down syndrome and other chromosomal defects into your activism. they’re so often left behind. I literally never see anyone spreading Down syndrome awareness that isn’t close family of someone with Down syndrome. They exist and they’re living breathing humans who deserve just as much activism as every other disabled person

positivity post for physically disabled people :] if you are/have:

i hope you have a very very good day :]

For Disability Pride Month this is your reminder to include all Mental Illnesses in your advocacy.

That means BPD, NPD, HPD, ASPD, and other Personality Disorders.

That means DID, PDID, UDD, & OSDD.

That means Schizophrenia and other Psychotic Disorders.

Speaking as one, shout out to all my fellow aromantic cluster b’s out there! You’re all doing amazing and I love you

I want to remind everyone that though it is disability pride month, people will observe this July in different ways and we should always be respectful of that.

There will be people who do not feel comfortable enough in themselves and/or their disability to enjoy this month, and there will be people who struggle to find a reason to be "prideful" and they shouldn't be pressured to.

And there will be people who will spread as much positivity and pride as they can, and that is okay too. They should not be made to feel as if they are wrong.

Just be mindful that not everyone feels the same and that is okay. You are allowed to feel amd celebrate however you wish so long as you are not harming anyone else.

happy disability pride/wrath month to all!

if you have any physical, mental, cognitive, or otherwise difficult or disabling conditions, take a moment this month to consider what helps you, and consider enforcing boundaries that help you.

if you aren't disabled - consider wishing the disabled people in your life a happy disability month, and check in with what they would like you to do better on. additionally, consider checking out a book on disability rights and history at your local public library, whether in person or via an app such as Libby.

Happy Disability Pride month to all the trans men and non-binary people out there with conditions that people typically associate with women. Endometriosis, PCOS, adenomyosis, vaginismus... you're all so much stronger than you get credit for and you're no less of a man/non-binary because of your condition

Happy disability pride month everyone <3

Shoutout to my fellow people who

Trying to remind myself that im allowed to take painkillers even if the pain is "my fault".

A migraine is a result of, not a punishment for forgetting to eat - take the painkillers.

Back pain is a result of, not a punishment for poor posture - take the painkillers.

Sore joints are a result of, not a punishment for overexertion - take the painkillers.

Pain is not a punishment for a mistake. Painkillers are there to ease suffering. There is no glory in misery. There is no virtue in agony.

here's to those who father's day is hard for, whether it be because of trauma or loss- i see you, your feelings are valid 💛

To Those Closeted This Pride Month...

• You do not have to come out

• Your pride is not "invalid" because you are still closeted

• Your safety and comfort are of the utmost priority

• You are not alone

• You are supported, and loved, and welcome, even if you are not out yet

big reminder to my alloaro, alloace, and aroace folks out there that you do not need to “make up” for your lack of romantic/+sexual attraction at all and you are more than enough as you are

If you have been through trauma, know this: You do not have to forgive them to heal. You do not have to forgive them to move on. You do not have to forgive them to be a good person. Insisting on the opposite is toxic positivity at best

i think one of the most important things you learn about making connections with others is that a significant portion of the time people just do not know theyre doing what theyre doing

sometimes someone is acting selfish because they just didnt think you had any interest in what theyre hogging. sometimes you dont get invited to the movies because your friend could have sworn that you said no. sometimes you think someone is mad at you because theyre bad at hiding how little sleep they got. we are all like little worlds that briefly crash into one another from time to time and we just arent physically capable of seeing the whole picture at once in those moments. and learning that really changed everything!

shout out to people who's family isnt entirely bad or entirely good, but something in between and you dont know how to feel about them. you feel angry but you also feel guilty, because you know they genuinely love and care about you, but sometimes they show it in a way you know its not okay. your feelings are valid, your anger and sadness and grief are valid, and you dont have to prove this to no one. bigger shout out to those with memory issues who know something isnt right but can't recall all of the bad events, only the feelings, which only increases the guilt.

It is never too late to work on healthier coping strategies and healthier ways of interacting with other people. it can definitely be harder when you are older and more established in your habits, but it is still not too late. If you are older, and just starting, I want you to know that you are very brave and I believe in you

With Mother’s Day coming up, I just want to give a shoutout to all of those who are low contact or no contact with their mother or mother figure. So many people say “but she’s your___!” and I’m sorry that they push that on you. You are completely valid if you need/want space from your mom and it doesn’t mean that you’re bad or anything like that. 

I also want to give a shoutout to those who have lost their mother/mother figure. Loss is hard and it can be traumatic and if Mother’s Day brings up bad feelings for you, you are so valid. 

If Mother’s Day is hard for you for whatever reason(s), you are completely valid and that’s okay.  

Shout out to the trans people whose transition won’t be straight forward. To those whose dysphoria can’t be fixed by transitioning one direction or the other. To the ones who have been debating going on hormones for months, or even years. To trans people whose genders make it hard for them to imagine ever feeling 100% satisfied with their appearance, or even 100% comfortable in their body. Never let anyone tell you that your transition, or lack thereof, is wrong.