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1. Control the orgasm, and you control the male.

2. To make any fantasy work, you must build suspense in your submissive.

3. Stimulation plus frustration equals service and submission.

4. Every submissive will try to test the limits of your Rule.  Never let him get away with anything.  He needs you to be both firm and consistent.

5. Physical pain alone cannot satisfy a submissive (a masochist, yes).

6. The more aroused your submissive is, the more pain he can take.

7. The more effective your psychological Dominance, the less pain you will need to inflict to control and satisfy your submissive.

8. All punishment is a balance between intensity and duration.  More intense pain should last less time.  If you want to prolong the punishment, the less intense the stimulation.

9. Submission increases with time.  As long as you maintain firm control, the longer a session lasts, the more thoroughly submissive your male will become.

10. Your control and pleasure are inextricably intertwined with the submission and pleasure

Build a sissy with these ingredients:

Who wants?

Break Him Carefully

Halfway there!  A month and a half ago, my amazing 36 year old sexy husband agreed to three months of - routine and habitual - tease and denial, without sexual release (Orgasm)…  Since then, almost every night, 7 nights a week (and sometimes in the morning, too!), we cuddle, snuggle and leisurely fondle each other - he makes me cum - by going down on me as much as I want - Then as I recover, I’ll continue to slowly and meticulously “edge” him, over and over again, to my sadistic heart’s content..  Sometimes however we’re quick – half an hour of play and off to sleep… Sometimes we linger – time flies when you’re having fun. {Grin} - But the key is that we make time to do it every night, with only a few (very few!) missed nights.  I’ve never slept better in my life…  

After 5 years of carefully easing my doting stud muffin into the mindset of a female led marriage, I find that we BOTH sleep best NOW…, if I HOLD his healthy virile erection in my gentle hand, as we lovingly fall asleep together (hugging)… His Pulsing, Fully Erect Manhood has become - a sort of - security blanket for me… As I fall asleep and wake up each morning Now - With his strong (rock hard) erection in my hand… Security COCK …

Yup, I Adore My Precious Healthy Man…  He’s trusting his most intimate, primal, involuntary sexual reflex - To My Personal Care and “Governance” – knowing, full well, that I intended to break him…  I promised to ultimately reduce him to a sweaty, leaky, quivering, begging “mess of a man”… I warned him that I planned to make it difficult – that I was going to truly challenge him over the weeks, just to see how much he could handle – to prove, once and for all, that his powerful virile healthy muscular (athletic body) could physically endure so much more for me -  than his mind ever imagined…  

When we started eight weeks ago, I had an honest, open conversation with him about what was about to happen – what I was about to do to him psychologically, subliminally and sexually… (though I had him high on pot at the time)  Am I Bad?  Anyways, We discussed sexual limits and set a safe word…  Agreeing that if it ever stopped being fun, for either of us, we would stop…  During that intimate open conversation, he admitted his doubt about two things:

First, he doubted I would make it this far.  He doubted my will  and commitment to Routinely Denying Him.  His words, “There will be a night when things get so hot, when my throbbing joystick just feels So Good, you won’t be able to resist making me explode - Inside Of You…  I know You My Love…  You won’t make it three months having deep passionate intercourse with me - and not wanting to feel me “Erupt” inside of you - But it’ll be fun to try.”  My reply, “Challenge accepted!”  And so far, So Good.  Sooo Fucking GOOD!  Our New Slow and Unhurried Sexual Intercourse - Has wonderful side effects - Preventing “Accidents” … To my husband’s total amazement and slight alarm, I haven’t even Ruined Him…  YET… And My Helpless, Sublime Orgasms - When He’s Incarcerated - Motionless - Balls Deep - Have Become So Much More Fulfilling for Me Now… It’s True about Female Led Relationships - Intercourse is Now Becoming - ALL About Me Now and My Pleasure, Not Him or His Larger Healthier Cock…  

Anyways, I almost lost myself here - The Second, he doubted Was - That I could truly Break Him…  Break his mind, that is - Not his World-Class (Sublime) 9 Inches Of Pure Vein Filled Perfection!.    I Adore and NEED That !  -  I’m just Delicately Re-Programming His Compliant Receptive Psyche about Orgasm and Bliss… When I promised to send him into the deepest, darkest, most desperate, mind-scrambling frenzy of lust he’s ever experienced, he honestly doubted that such a mindspace existed…  He knows how it feels to be relentlessly edged - Incarcerated Balls Deep - Teased and Deftly Denied by my sublime femininity for Days at a time.  He knows the Beautiful Frustration of being Milked and Ruined, over and over again - through the last few years.  He’s begged – literally begged – for climax and orgasm before and heard me firmly say “NO!”  He’s been there…  He survived those things without ever truly losing his mind, and he figured this would “just” be more of the same…  Three months of intense fun, but he figured - nothing truly new. 

And… to be honest… I wondered if he might be right.  His doubt however motivated me “greatly” to find out what I was made of.  It made me “edge” him harder - for longer… I Was on a Sacred Mission… Which made me stop and suddenly let go of his Joystick for recovery breaks, every time my feminine instinct screamed at me “He’s a man!!  Have Mercy!  Let him Cum!!”  It’s also why I insisted on sexual playtime (and cuddling) every night, no matter what’s happening in our daily lives or how tired we felt.  I wanted to know… to genuinely know… Could I break him?  Was it even possible?

Well…

Last night, I’m proud to say, I finally… carefully… definitely broke him!

After eight weeks of daily edging, teasing and denying him a cherished male climax, we started off the evening “routinely” enough. We played, cuddled and snuggled to warm up, He hungrily went down on me (he’s gotten so good) and when I couldn’t take any more, I pounced on him… Getting him onto his back for a quick 69, I then tied his wrists to the headboard of our bed.  He was already wonderfully hypersensitive, and his magnificent robust joystick was leaking and crying endless tears of joy (I was extremely wet and aroused), so I shrewdly decided to mount him very slowly and carefully - avoiding any sudden motion that might resemble a thrust… (Remember Our New Slow and Unhurried Sexual Intercourse?)  We kissed slowly, deeply and passionately as I took my Sweet Time, easing him inch by delectable inch, into the depths of my drenched slippery Vagina. Thoroughly relishing the sensations of him throbbing and pulsating - I finally incarcerated him Balls Deep UP inside me - Right Where he Belonged…  Eventually I moved, Reaching out and got my favorite toy from the nightstand and delicately vibed myself to a glorious rapturous full body climax - Fully Impaled on My Mans Glorious Captive Subjugated “Denied” Rock Hard 9 Inch Joystick…  A perfect start… By the glazed look in his doting eyes, I Fully Realized - Just How Much - He Loved Feeling ME Climax and Cum - All Over His Powerful - Incarcerated - Hyper Sensitive COCK…

After a Brief Intuitional “ Restorative” Rest Break - I Slowly Dismounted My Desperately HARD Stud - Licked my juices from his Balls and Mighty Erection - Then retired to languish (and snuggle) at his side - in a blissfully relaxed haze - alternately vibing, tickling, stroking and teasing his raging Joystick - through a string of easy “edges”… Easy for me, that is… My head was resting on his muscular chest, my long silky soft black hair spilling over his body, my leg hooked with his… It was so Incredibly Serene - Holding his Monster (Hypnotic) Throbbing Cock in my Tender Hand, I almost fell asleep.

I didn’t even notice the time…  I didn’t even notice an hour had slipped by - And Then Two Hours…  I was in a warm, post-orgasmic serene trance… Perfectly Comfortable… Feeling his magical alluring, magnificent manhood straining so sweetly and desperately - in my tender, nurturing, adroit hand… Lost in my own little world of Mastering Him… It was just so easy…  And, as silly and  nonsensical as it sounds, I cherished and adored him for it.  I loved that he found me so beautiful, so irresistible, so sensual and sovereign that he couldn’t stop himself from Submitting…. It made me feel like the most amazing woman in the world.

So I almost didn’t notice as his grunts faded and his quivers started.  He actually startled me with a raspy, crackling whisper, “Baby, Please… Pleeease!…”

It was the most earnest plea  I’d ever heard from him in my life.  Something in his tone, beyond the words alone… A moment purely between us, when all facades of masculine dignity crumbled.  He was breaking…  Finally breaking… This is how it starts…   His… Subservience, Subordination, Servility!

I immediately “perked up”…This was angelic music to my ears…  I needed to see his face, to confirm it for myself.  Yup… He was gone.  His eyes were open, but there was absolutely no mind present…  His lips were moving, but only a few airy words slipped out…  A lot of “please” and “fuck” and sometimes my name, over and over again… As If in a Trance… My heart swelled with pure joy, and happiness for him.  I didn’t say a word – I didn’t want to interrupt his journey… He was in a Deep Blissful Trance… As I just continued gliding my silky soft fingers “With a featherlight touch” along his dancing - 9 inch Cock of Pure Raging Fervid Perfection - … Carefully, Invisibly - Guiding him through subspace… Knowing that He “Needed” Me… That he could   NEVER   Do this to himself...  

Weeks of hard work (for the both of us!) was finally paying off…

There was No Way I was going to let this exquisite moment END any time soon.  I completely forgot how drowsy I was, or how late it was.  I Kept Going… Carefully… Lightly… Nurturing… Soft Touches ONLY – Because just one firm grip of his thick base, or stroke - probably would have ended it…  At one point, when he was sweating, quivering, and babbling, I softly - sensuously - seductively - offered him a chance…  I whispered very quietly, “Remember, we have a safe word.”  That’s the only time I “broke character.”  I’m sure his subconscious heard me; I’m sure he understood - But he didn’t say anything, though…  He just kept quietly whimpering and begging in a trance,  “Please… Please…”

He wanted to STAY.  So I made him STAY ! ! !

He wanted to be Broken…  So I Broke Him ! ! !

The Next Morning, When We Awoke, He was STILL  “ROCK HARD”  In My Hand,  He said it was the BEST night of his life.  And I believe it! 

We Dozed, Cuddled and Snuggled the Next Few Hours in Bed That Morning as I Securely Held Him in my Grasping Hand - Unwilling to let His Healthy Manhood Deflate - Even in the Slightest…  Security COCK …

Anyways, We have another eight weeks to go…

Man O Man - Am I Going To Enjoy Myself - The Next Eight Yummy Weeks ! ! !

Obedience is Important

Even though I have been dominant to my husband for a few years, it can hardly compare to the decades of cultural indoctrination teaching me that the husband should lead, and the wife follows. Because of this lifelong conditioning, leading this relationship has been an uphill battle for me. Even though I am dominant and absolutely love being so, my dominance got off to a slow start, and remains slightly fragile to this day. It is something that needs to be carefully nurtured by both of us if it is to continue to grow long into the future.

For me to be dominant, I need to know for certain that my husband is 100 percent fully invested in my leadership and willing to follow. Because of this, I cannot tolerate any form of bratty behavior from him. Being bratty, no matter how playful, still challenges my dominance, and I’m not ready for that yet. I am very loving and quite playful, but any play has to be led by me, on my terms. Disobedience simply cannot be tolerated and I have to be strict with him. I’ll explain why.

Every act of submission or obedience affirms my right to control him, but more importantly, it gives a boost to my confidence, which makes me feel really good about myself, and inspires me to assume further control. Feeling powerful makes me feel sexy, which is one of the reasons why being dominant is so amazing for me.

Alternately, if he were to disobey me, break our rules willingly, or be bratty, my confidence would take a hit and I’d start questioning my own authority, sending me into a downward spiral of self doubt. I cannot be dominant in that mindset.

That’s the reason I have to be strict when I punish him. When he accepts punishment, it reaffirms my right to lead and repairs my damaged self confidence caused by his bad behavior. Enforcing domestic discipline leaves me feeling powerful, which is very sexy to me and, when it’s deserved, I really enjoy using corporal punishment on him now.

Although we have a few rules in place just for fun as an excuse to spank him, we take others very seriously. These are zero tolerance rules that I have thought out carefully and decided I need in place to rule him effectively. As we both value our relationship integrity, our promises to each other mean so much.

For each rule created, he has promised to do his best to obey it at all times, and submit to my punishment willingly for his failures. I have promised to do my best, to punish him each time the rule is broken and to the full extent that we have negotiated. The punishments for zero tolerance rules are intentionally harsh, to ensure the rule is taken seriously.  It’s not only about him breaking the rule, but making me question and feel bad about myself, causing my dominance to backslide, which we both agree should never be allowed.

Because he craves it, he has been very good when it comes to nurturing my dominance. Whenever I physically restrain him, including chastity, he puts up no resistance. Whenever I decide he needs discipline, he surrenders himself willingly. Whatever I dish out, he takes, no matter the punishment. He accepts whatever training I teach him and does his best to be obedient.

Again, my dominance is fragile, but with time, the fragility will dwindle down to nothing when my lifetime of cultural indoctrination is finally fully suppressed. He knows how important it is to me for him not to be a brat. As I lead him into a life of submission, he is doing all he can to help me grow and feel comfortable in a life of dominance and I love him so much for all he is and does for me.

How to Properly "Edge"  Him

The real art with  “Edging"   is to learn exactly how to get him as close as possible to an explosion without actually Allowing him to erupt. If you pay close attention while you fondle and play, you’ll learn precisely the clear warning signs of an imminent ejaculation. There’s nothing quite like habitual and routine  “edging”  for subliminally building a guys libido and desire. Not only will he cherish you more, thanks to neurochemistry, but within a short timeframe his vulnerable and exploitable mind will be totally under your feminine control…

Here are some tips:

1 - Make him always tell you exactly how close he is. Kind of obvious, but Insist that he tells you when to slow down and when to stop. Especially in the beginning while you’re learning how to read his body language. Keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the feel of it and he’ll love you even more for it…

2 - Feel for his body and muscles tensing, him holding his breath, arching his back or even tensing, all are signs he’s getting very close. Learn to read and understand the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning. Just be sure it’s a libido-building ruined orgasm…

3 - Move from strong to soft strokes, from his vein filled shaft up to his tip constantly. Change it up, take your time and make sure you get him ultra rock hard for maximum dopamine production in his vulnerable brain… I personally like lots of lube and oil and fast but not too tight of strokes, and then as he gets closer and closer, move to a looser grip and then focus on his hypersensitive head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where guys are most sensitive). Also take breaks frequently. It’s better to stop one second too early than one second too late, stroke - edge - deny - repeat…

4 - Make it ultimately his fault if he erupts. So again, if he does explode make sure you properly ruin it. Stop all rubbing and stimulation as soon as he starts to climax. Or if he’s tied down, you turn it into a post orgasm torture, after the ruined orgasm, where you use his slippery cum as lube to keep rubbing his hypersensitive Joystick, scolding him by saying: you’re so naughty, I didn’t give you permission to cum…

5 - When you do want to enjoy his pent up explosions, make that part of the tease too. When you’re planning to make him climax and erupt, this is a great time to also practice your edging techniques. Use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him, where you’re not worrying about accidently taking him over the edge…

6 - Oh and you can add a wonderfully sadistic element with this line: If you can hold on for just five minutes more my love, I won’t ruin it when you do cum, okay baby…

Thanks to FemdomDoneRight (on tumblr) for this effective mindfuck and programming tool.

Extra notes:

1 - Routine is critical.  Edge Him Every Day.  For best results: One short session (15 minutes) every other morning; one medium-length session (20-30 minutes) every evening before bed; and at least one long session (40+ minutes) every weekend.  If this seems like a lot of time, consider how much time you spend alone doing things you wish he was interested in (like watching your favorite shows on Netflix).  This is one activity he will eagerly join.  Edging is addictive to male neurochemistry, and it very specifically addicts him to you, as long as you do it regularly.  The more you do it, the more deeply he bonds to you, and the more he will crave spending time with you throughout the day.  This feeds on itself, and before long, your nightly “quality time” together becomes perfectly natural for both of you.  Even if you’re already in love, married, and devoted to each other, your connection can still go deeper - and the fire of wilder days can be rekindled.  No more going to bed alone!  Also, any time spent having sex or pleasuring you can count toward his edge time. (at your discretion) Daily orgasms for you, his heat beside you as you drift to sleep, and an eager, attentive lover totally addicted to your touch - what’s not to love?  No matter how busy or tired you are, you both have the time for this, I promise.  Do it for a week, and you will start making time for it.

2 - Edge him more than once.  For most, this is obvious. But for some new to edging, it needs to be said.  Don’t just edge him once and assume you’re done.  Depending on his stamina (and how long it’s been since his last orgasm) it can take a while to build him up to his first edge of the night.  It’s important to think of it that way: “first edge of the night.”  Because once you’ve guided him to his edge - and stopped - he is still highly aroused, and edging him again becomes easy.  All that build-up was time invested to get him to his most blissful state.  Now “cash in” your investment and keep him there, by edging him over and over again.  It should be easy.  A single, slow, tight pump is sometimes enough.  Watch his reaction and enjoy the show! (Women report that this is usually their favorite part - guiding their loved one from edge to edge with subtle touches, watching him, and knowing the exquisite gift he trusts only her to give.)

3 - Keep him guessing.  Every single time you touch his cock, he should never know if you intend to edge him, ruin him, or give him a full orgasm.  Lie to him.  Tell him you’re going to stop, then don’t.  Or tell him you’re going to ruin him, then give him a full orgasm.  Or congratulate him on the orgasm you’re about to give him, then “change your mind” and stop for the night.  This only works if you also sometimes tell the truth.  Once he learns you are unpredictable, his body will naturally prepare for orgasm, (every time!) giving him the rush he craves - while his mind reels in fear of the alternatives.  You are fucking his mind, in addition to his body - in a very good way! Watch how he reacts - from the curl of his toes to the flare in his eyes.  It’s incredibly hot.

4 - A “ruined” orgasm is when you let go and cease all stimulation, a split second before he climaxes.  His cum will sort of just leak out, and it’s not as satisfying as a full orgasm.  “Ruined” is a misnomer, though, because he still gets some small pleasure from it, so don’t be afraid to ruin him regularly.  He might thrash, beg, or try to finish it himself, so this is a good time to playfully experiment with restraints - something as simple as tying his wrists together behind his back with a belt or necktie will do the trick.  The important difference between a ruined and regular orgasm is that the male libido does not diminish after a ruined orgasm.  He will stay horny, eager, erect, and attentive, as though he had no orgasm at all, and you can continue playing, if you wish, after a short break.  You can even ruin him twice in one night - the second one is usually harder to achieve, though.

For women that wish to be in charge part 2

(Training your boy 2 - spankings )

I will repeat this many times, whatever you do, you NEED to want it and enjoy it at least as your boy does, if not more, otherwise forget about it.

To make one thing clear, spanking of any kind, is not necessarily punishment. It is a part of training and training is everything.

Just as much as it is important to train him how to pleasure you, or how and which food to prepare, on which days which chores should he complete, or how to give you massages, like anything else, spanking is to be learned and accepted by both of you.

You don’t spank just to punish, you spank because you like it. You don’t spank only to inflict pain, you spank because you can. You don’t spank because he deserved it, you spank because you want him to get used to it.

I use it all, paddles, canes, whips, ladles, hair brushes but, I mostly use my hands. It is quicker, effective enough and definitely more intimate.

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p.s. - don’t worry, you are not doing anything wrong, he wants it

Teasing in T&D or Chastity Play!

A girl doesn’t feel like playing all the time and chastity gets sort of ruined if you let him out every time you don’t feel very frisky. On the other side of the spectrum, simply ignoring him while in chastity is actually the most cruel, effective punishment for a locked man who is not behaving or who is constantly breaking your rules.                                           

So what do you do to get through the dead spots (for me it’s mostly if I’m really tired, stressed or busy) without being neglectful? After three or so years of playing this game with my wonderful husband, I’ve observed the following about the two of us and extrapolated it to apply to everyone since everyone else is exactly like us, I’m sure.                                           

Part of the magic of chastity play is that the male, who usually has the higher sex drive, is “playing” 24/7. He’s eating, sleeping, going to work, everything really with his penis locked up. Any stray sexual thought quickly reminds him about the game he’s playing. His keyholder probably has a lower libido but that’s okay because she just has to give him the occasional nudge to keep him at a full simmer. A little bit of attention on the days when you just don’t feel very playful will keep him happy and from feeling neglected until you’re a little more enthusiastic and ready to turn the heat up to a full boil.

Here are some of my tips for low maintenance chastity play. I try to make sure I do some combination of these every day when the nub is locked up. They take hardly any time, and I know they make him feel loved. They’re little things that get magnified in his mind by the cage.                                           

Fondle his balls every day. Ideally once in the morning and once at night. No matter how busy or tired I am, I can always find two minutes in bed to do this. I don’t even have to remove the CB. Our sleep schedules are a little different. He’s a night owl and I’m a morning person, but that doesn’t stop us. When I’m going to bed I just whisper in his ear that I want to see him in the bedroom. He never says no! I fondle his poor trapped balls for a few minutes (two to five is plenty) and then say good night. He can go back to his computer after that. If I feel like kissing a bit, I can do that, but if I don’t I just tell him to lie there and keep still while I “play with my nub” I wake up before he does in the mornings too. But he never seems to mind if I wake him up by playing with his balls! Again, just a few minutes. Enough to get a groan or two out of him and then I go take my shower or get my breakfast.                                           

Remind him of his situation. Of course he already knows he’s locked up and you have the key, but reminding him lets him know you’re thinking about him. You haven’t forgotten about him, you’re just waiting for the right time to make use of him. I’ll walk by him in the kitchen, give him a quick squeeze in front and ask “how is my nub doing? Still all locked up?” Or I might just say “being a keyholder is fun.” Or “Aren’t you lucky to have such a fabulous keyholder?” I’ve noticed that the more out-of-the-blue the comment is the bigger the impact it has on him. If he’s not really thinking about sex or expecting me to be thinking about it, mentioning his chastity jolts his libido into high gear.                                           

Take possession of his (your!) nub. Get in the habit of referring to his cock and balls as yours. Kiss him and ask “how is my nub doing down there?” Or while sitting on the couch fast forwarding through a commercial with your Tivo, casually ask him “Are you taking good care of my nub darling? One of these days I’m sure I’ll want to play with it.” If you get in this habit, then just a few words here and there add to his excitement and keep him happy and horny.                                           

Turn routine requests into chastity play - for example talk about it in terms of ‘points’ . Instead of asking him to pick up a gallon of milk on his way home, text him “Your keyholder wants to you pick up a gallon of milk on the way home.” Or say “a neck rub would earn you some much needed nub points.” Creating the fantasy that you are holding his release hostage to your whims is pretty powerful. Keep it fantasy and don’t abuse it (very much). Back rubs and foot rubs are nice even when I don’t feel very amorous, but they’re still physical things and he really likes it when I tie them to his chastity.                                           

Take chastity seriously. Don’t leave the key laying around or act like it’s no big deal if he gets out before you’re ready to release him. Do surprise “inspections” to make sure he’s still locked up. Ask him if he’s tried to get out, or tried to get at the key without permission. Use a no-nonsense manner to let him know it’s important to you that he only get out of his chastity device when you want him out. Every once in a while mention you’d someday like to get a more secure device. That keeps him from starting to doubt your commitment to the game when you haven’t seriously teased him for a while. Remember that’s he’s committed 24/7. The whole idea is he can’t check out of the game until you let him, so reminding him that you’re still in it helps.   

Muse about the length of his lockup. Sometimes I’ll tell him that I’ve decided to let him out the next weekend, then the next night tell him I’ve changed my mind and I don’t know when I’ll let him out. Sometimes I’ll tell him I’ve been wondering how long I should leave him locked up and just leave it at that. Tell him how you are noticing the benefits. No further information, just that I was thinking about it. I’ll ask him if he thinks he could go six months, or a year. If he asks if I’m planning to keep him locked up that long, I’ll just shrug and say “maybe.” It’s another verbal tease that takes very little energy from me but amps him up.                                           

None of those things take much time or energy from me. They’re easy to do on days when I’m stressed or tired or just not feeling very sexual. And they keep him feeling loved and cared for. I’ve really gotten into the habit of doing them. So much that I usually keep doing them even when he isn’t locked up. That’s not really a problem, but if he wakes up to my hand on his balls and he’s not locked up, I’m not getting out of bed without finishing what I started! Of course that just makes his lockups even more delightful for both of us.                                           

More Teasing Ideas                                           

When to allow Release

The break in period                                           

Initially, you need to find a comfortable, safe, and hygienic chastity device  which your husband can wear for extended periods. Maybe your husband  has already bought a device before he approached you, maybe you still  need to buy one together. In any case, you should start slowly to let  him adjust and make sure the device is fit for long-term wear and that the size is correct.                                           

 What is it about 3 weeks?

Well, firstly it’s long enough that any short-lived fantasties about being locked will be forgotten. Secondly, it goes one full week past the male’s typical 14 day sexual rollercoaster cycle. After sexual release, males experience dramatic drops in oxytocin and spikes in prolactin. Oxytocin is the caring, cuddling love hormone, while excess prolactin is the cause of irritability, decreased testosterone, and a substantial loss of libido. It usually takes between 5-10 days for these hormones to stabilise in the male. If we were to give him a sexual release once per week, these hormones would never stabilize. Beyond the 10 day mark, the positive effects heighten further.                                           

Pushing him to the 3 week mark means he has stabilised and then gone beyond, where we get 10-15 days of high oxytocin and low prolactin levels… which is what we want! You can read more about this in an article on the science of male chastity here.                                           

After that? Up to you!                                           

After the ‘settling’ phase, you should not think too much about lock-up  periods. He gets unlocked whenever you feel like it, although of course  being unlocked doesn’t necessarily mean you will allow him to cum. You have GOT to try the ‘touchless orgasm/release’ technique - probably the most mind blowing thing you will ever do to your man.                                           

Feel  free to go with a fixed schedule, such as one ejaculation allowed per 3 weeks, if that makes things easier for you – but don’t make it too  predictable, so also consider delaying or skipping a release date. For more experienced lovers, it is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least  three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the  break in period of getting a device that fits. This means that for the initial three months, the chastity cage must not come off, not even if  you want to use his penis for sex.  

Find what is right for you. After the ‘right’ amount of time being locked up, your husband would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but also mentally.                

Some of the women I talked with said their males initially back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a longer lock ups If so, he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity. Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready. You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain.                                               

So, long answer: see above.                                           

Short answer: push for 3 months.                                           

Release schedule after the initial lock-up period                                           

Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow,  how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. But how often should  he be allowed to cum after the initial denial period? There are a few  different views. No matter which system you choose, it is usually best  to ask yourself if it wouldn’t be better to go longer.                                            

Remember, you have the power. He wants you to!                                               

Orgasm Control: A List of Benefits

I get a lot of questions about the benefits for me and for my husband about the benefits of structured orgasm control as part of addressing the issue of “mismatched libidos” in heterosexual relationships. For many people, as soon as they make a start on this journey, a range of benefits become clear pretty quickly. So, in this case, I believe the requests for providing a list benefits are for people who are still in the process of deciding if this approach is for them.

The short answer is - yes, your life (and sex life) will change for the better. Give it a try.

The second short answer - yes, use a chastity cage. While it is possible to practise orgasm control without one, the benefits for you, but especially for him, of using a chastity cage are exponential. Perhaps the list of benefits below will elucidate why:

Control vs Neglect

In most heterosexual, long-term relationships, women have a significantly lower sex drive than their male partners. Men have less sex than they would ideally like. In this sense, marriage means that females control the allocation of sex. Already. However, without a deliberate structure and communication around the element of this control, the mismatched libido is interpreted by the male as ‘neglect’ or the feeling of not being desired. This can drive the male to pornography, masturbation or ‘nagging for sex’, which puts unwanted pressure on you, and is a serious turn-off.

When orgasm control is discussed and structured as part of the couple’s sexual dynamic, the male’s perception moves from being ‘neglected’ to ‘controlled’. The latter is highly arousing, and the sexual dynamics flips on its head. By controlling his sexual release, you as a couple are indicating that it has a ‘value’ far greater than when he is simply free to masturbate at will. His greatest physical reward, and the oxytocin, bonding, dopamine rush that follows becomes linked to you, not to Pornhub.

More Sex, More Orgasms (For YOU)

Orgasm control is about controlling the MALE orgasm, not yours. The worst thing you can do is be objective between release windows. Rather just call the whole thing off now - it will not work.

Rather, you can and should have frequent orgasms - and he will love giving them to you. My partner and I have sex frequently outside of his release window. I unlock him and we have standard sex - the only difference is that he is not allowed to cum. He goes slower, uses toys, users his hands and tongue - whatever he needs to do to follow the rules - and I can deliciously and *selfishly* enjoy it. Once we're done, he is locked back up until next time.

This is what he expects and desires - don't feel bad for one second. Stop thinking in the old school "Sex is about the male being satisfied" mindset. It is mindblowing for him in every way - both mentally and physically.

Reigniting the Desire

As has been said on this blog before, males are programmed to ‘move on’ emotionally after ejaculating. Orgasm leads to a spike in prolactin which is a ‘shut off valve’ for intimacy and sexual desire. Frequent masturbation is therefore a total intimacy killer. Controlling the male orgasm leads to increases in oxytocin focused on you as his key objects of desire. He is heavily sexually aroused and his desire for you will skyrocket. Now, he is fully aware that he can’t do anything about it until his scheduled release, so it translates as increased intimacy, and increased energy for other things.

No Pressure for Sex

Modern marriages are defined by women ‘feeling bad’ every time they are not up for sex. The perception of old-world society is that it is the women’s duty to provide sex whenever the male desires. With chastity and orgasm control, this is completely reversed. Sex is not the goal, and the ongoing sexual rush of the denial is what the male will savor the most.

We have PIV (penis in vagina) sex frequently. Most often this is outside of his release window, so he knows that he is not allowed to orgasm, and after I am finished, he is re-locked. It's a mind-screw and a challenge for him, but he absolutely LOVES it!

Chastity is Effortless

With him in chastity, I can do all of this without really having to do much. A bit of attention here and there, a bit of teasing and he is at a constant, positive simmer. It is about communication, structure and commitment.

Release Days are Effortless

When I do allow him an orgasm, this too can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement is so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. I personally encourage him to orgasm as fast as possible. Some days I take off the cage, provide a few gentle strokes, wait until he cums and then re-lock the cage. This can take 2-3 minutes in total! To save time, simply placing a vibrating massages on the cage’s base-ring for a few minutes will bring him to orgasm without even need to take of the cage. He will LOVE this, and again, hardly any effort on your part. That is how it should be.

If you do unlock him for release, always relock directly after he orgasms. This significantly reduces the "drop" he will experience after orgasm and will push him through the 2-3 grouchiness period much smoother. He loves it if I put the cage on him, but if you prefer he locks himself, straight after his release, firmly tell him that it's time to go back in the cage.

Cages Look Sexy

I think of chastity cages as jewellery which is very aesthetically pleasing. Unlocked penises flop about, lean to one side, grow and shrink unpredictably and are often pretty badly manicured. When locked in a cage, everything is so neat. Males will need to do a bit of gardening down there to make it as comfortable as possible. Everything is held in place. His nub is encased and immobilized. His balls are held tight and presented forward. He will want to wear tight underwear or swimwear for comfort purposes, which presents such a neat little package. Every time I see the cage I am reminded that he is doing this for me, and I get a little shiver down my spine. It just looks better, and I love it!

Arousal on Demand

Males think about sex all the time. The vast majority of sexual thoughts and corresponding erections go completely ignored. When locked in chastity, these sexual thoughts (and erections) are contained, and are linked to you as the keyholder. This is highly arousing for the male, and will feel like direct attention from you - even though you may not even be in the same postcode. The cage works for you full-time, and is there whenever the male is aroused. Extremely powerful!

Discipline

The chastity cage helps males to stick to the rules. Most males masturbate significantly more than you will ever imagine. For the vast majority, they will NEVER have gone 21 days or more without masturbating since they first discovered it in their teens. With a cage, masturbation is simply off the table. They must direct this energy elsewhere. Which leads to :

Weight Loss and Conditioning

All of this extra energy must go somewhere, and in most cases, this is directed to physical exercise and conditioning. Many women report that time in chastity has lead to significant weight loss and body sculpting in their males. Motivation and drive are seriously tangible chastity benefits that you will notice as little as 7 days in.

Service

Oxytocin is the courting hormone. Increases in this wonder drug caused by orgasm control will often lead to a far more focused, attentive and service-oriented mentality. Whether conscious on his part or not, I notice a happier, more helpful male, with a higher attention-to-detail and eagerness to please. Use this as you see fit!

A Better Sex Life

Most importantly, chastity and orgasm denial will improve your sex life. Sex does not equate to penetration anymore, although it certainly can if you wish. Unlock him at any point in the schedule for sex of you're keen for it - it's just that outside of the release window, he will have to find a way not to orgasm. You are the focus until his release date!

Most importantly, "sex" in long-term marriages is about sexual interaction - intimacy, honesty, communication and care. This is why you are doing this in the first place. Rewire your thinking as a couple, and become a highly engaged, balanced and aligned sexual partnership.

Conclusions

These are just some of the many benefits that are associated with the exciting journey of male orgasm control. Drop some more in the comments and I can add to this ever-growing list.

100 hours in bondage (rules)

Feedback is highly appreciated. Don’t worry will setup several backups to make it challenging but safe. There will be overall rules, rules for indoor and rules for outdoor. And Bondage of course…

Overall rules

Indoor rules

Outdoor rules

Daily Bondage Tasks (every 24 hours)

Tasks can be split up in single hours but must be completed every 24 hours. When not completed a task within 24 hours the remaining hours are doubled added to the next day. Only full hours count.

I love this and need to read it over and over again. This is a concept I want to use in my life, and some lovely sub’s life.

I re-reading this, I see the set up a bit different: I think she should be denied any orgasm for as long as it takes for her to complete 100 hours of bondage. Of course, the bondage will include a bunch of teasing and edging. I get the 100 hours in chastity idea, too. Would make for a great (very) long weekend.

FemdomPunishment Ideas…

This post contains all of the ideas I have been able to come up with or find on the internet for female-dominant, male-submissive scenes…

You’ll probably notice that a lot of the ideas are designed for use over many days and are associated with orgasm control. This theme emerged over time because orgasm control is so effective at heightening male desire. We use this list in a very simple framework when setting up scenes. First she picks one or more of the ideas below (either by hand or randomly) and makes rules and tasks out of them. Then, after a few days of suffering through them and pushing me to peak sensitivity, the frequency of rules and tasks increases (over a weekend, for example) and she adapts punishments from the list (or comes up with them on her own) to achieve a good, intense session.

So anyway, I hope you enjoy them and they inspire ideas of your own! Please note, though, that we haven’t tried all of them. Some of them may not be practical.

1) Hold Pennies Against the Wall

This task is very hard: have him hold pennies against the wall using only his fingertips — one penny per finger. Depending on how you position his arms, this can be easy or extremely difficult. Arms spread wide apart forces him to get his face very close to the wall and will tire his arms quickly. Same with his hands being very high up.

For every penny that drops, punish him. Keep the punishments severe enough that he really fears dropping a penny.

You can also make him hold a penny against the wall using his erect cock. This will force him to keep himself hard.

2) Controlled Orgasms

Rules that control his orgasms are the most effective and psychologically impactful rules you can impose. These rules also become good excuses for torment and punishment. The mix of wanting to orgasm and facing big punishments feels very exciting.

Ideas for Normal Situations

He has to earn orgasms –> After you have had five orgasms, he gets one. –> He chooses to undergo a punishment or humiliation in order to flip a coin. Heads grants him an orgasm. Tails gets him another punishment or humiliation –> He earns points toward his next orgasm by acting the role of the \"perfect slave.\" These can only be earned by doing things for you without being asked, and acting the part perfectly. 20 points per orgasm.

He must ask permission prior to orgasm.

He is allowed to orgasm, but doing so carries an automatic set of punishments or humiliations.

Every time he orgasms, he owes you a favor.

You pretend to believe that he will take any opportunity to have an orgasm, and go to great lengths to prevent it (chastity belt, lots of restraints, careful supervision).

After every orgasm, he must collect his semen and do something embarrassing with it.

Come up with a \"training regimen\" to teach him to resist orgasm. He wears a chastity belt until he can resist your best efforts to get him to come while you reach two or three orgasms.

He is forbidden to clean up his own semen if it lands on him.

He gets a very short window every day to bring himself to orgasm while you watch. The chastity belt goes back on at the end whether he succeeds or not.

He gets a set limit of orgasms per week, which he can trade like currency. (His limit could be one. Or one every two weeks. Just because he can trade doesn’t mean he needs a lot of them.)

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Instead of a promised orgasm, he has to edge instead and thank you at the end as if he had an orgasm.

Lengthen the time he has to wear the chastity belt.

Treat pre-cum as orgasms for punishment purposes.

Warn him about a severe punishment if he orgasms, then tie him down and ride him until he does.

During the time when he is permitted to orgasm, position his body so that he can’t prevent himself from coming on himself.–>Make him put his knees on the wall behind him so that his cock points toward his face

If you are on top and he comes, keep going. The sensory overload is really overpowering. Even though it feels great, it’s a good \"mean\" thing to do to him.

Punishment Ideas

Remember that if your slave just had an orgasm without permission, he’s less in the mood than he was before. So instead of a regular punishment, pick one that is more severe, and execute it after he’s back in the mood (possibly the next day).

Make him write out a coupon for a certain number of days spent in a chastity belt. Spend it whenever you like. If he picks a number that is lower than what you picked, make him choose again and double his next result. (You can choose to have him give you a number of orgasms instead of a number of days.)

If he comes inside of you, sit on his chest while his semen drains out of you. Tie him up until it dries.

Chain a heavy weight to his chastity belt for a while, giving him something he either has to drag by his balls or deal with as he does other tasks for you.

3) Edging

Edging is the practice of bringing someone very close to the point of orgasm and then baking off. It’s usually done repeatedly, which both increases sexual need and results in the closest thing to multiple orgasms for a man. You can force your Slave to edge himself a few times to increase his sexual need. Or, you can do it to him and punish him if he orgasms. This will force him to resist orgasm.

4) Must Volunteer Information

This is similar to the \"Must Not Lie\" rule, but forces him to give you extra details whenever he’s answering a question. It can be very useful, because he has to actively think about what other secrets he can divulge. Use it to force him to keep you aware of the things he’s thinking about.

Ideas for Normal Situations

He must tell you when he’s horny

He must go into detail about what he wants sexually and why

Whenever he’s asked a question, he has to answer it, and then say \"Also…\" and add more details.

He must try to help you come up with more effective punishments, more humiliating tasks, and tell you how he might try to get out of obeying you

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Since you can’t read his mind, there’s no way to know if he’s holding something back. Rely on punishments if you find out that he didn’t tell you something.

Punishment Ideas

This is a rule that focuses on helplessness and humiliation. It’s also oral, since he has to tell you things. If you catch him leaving something out, punish him accordingly.

Make him write out several punishments and rank them according to desirability. Pick one or more for him to go through.

Make him tell you the most humiliating punishment he can think of. If he disobeys again, he has to go through with it.

Take away his right to speak for a while. Use a ball gag or tape if necessary.

Tell him to apologize. Don’t accept his apology until he recommends a good physical punishment or humiliation for you to employ.

5) Must Keep Legs Spread

Here is a very simple rule that is designed to keep things awkward for him and emphasize that his cock and balls belong to you. Usually the rule is that his legs can’t touch his cock or balls while you are in the room. Tell him that you want to see his balls hanging down.

Ideas for Normal Situations

He must keep his legs spread whenever you are within reach of his genitals

He must spread his legs on command

When a Slave’s Been Bad

He must keep his legs spread at all times, just in case.

Tie his legs up by the knees and spread them out. Then tease him by doing things to him that would make him want to close his legs

Punishment Ideas

Breaking this rule is all about not giving you access to his cock and balls, or about him not putting them on display for you. Punish him accordingly.

Tie his ankles to his wrists. Then tie his elbows to his knees. Last, pull his cock and balls behind his legs and tie his legs together so that they are trapped down by his butt. Now he gets to keep his legs closed, but you have full access to the genitals. Torture them for a while until he becomes more compliant.

Since he won’t put his genitals on display on his own, take away all his clothes and tie him up in a full-body rope harness. That way he can stay on display for you until you get tired of him.

6) Must Obey

Make it unconditional that he has to obey you, or anyone you specify, and punish him if he doesn’t do it promptly or well. This is one of those rules that you’ll talk about a lot, bringing it up to him to remind him that he doesn’t have a choice (or that you’ll punish him severely) if he doesn’t obey.

Ideas for Normal Situations

Have him acknowledge every command with \"yes ma’am,\" \"yes, mistress,\" or similar.

Give him a time limit to obey. For example, he might get punished for not jumping to do what you say within three seconds.

If he’s being forced to obey someone else, have him ask that person to give you an evaluation of how well he did.

Test him by giving him a list of things to do while you are away. Demand proof that he did them.

Come up with a word you can use to tell him that you are giving him an order while he’s in public so that others aren’t aware that you’re giving him a command to obey.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Dramatically increase the number of things he has to do so that he’s kept very busy

Use toys, locks, and complicated tasks to make obeying very hard, such as –> Blindfolding him, then telling him to get a specific item that can only be identified by sight –> Chaining up his hands and then giving him something to type (with his tongue?) –> Give him an enema, and tell him he can’t release it until a task is done.

Give him tedious tasks, like writing out a sentence fifty times.

Punishment Ideas

Failure to obey you should carry the harshest punishments. The point of this game is to use punishments to force him to obey you. Therefore, the punishments have to be intense enough that doing humiliating and painful tasks is less miserable than going through with the punishments. Generally, you want to pick very painful or very humiliating punishments for this kind of error. Try to get him to call out in pain several times. He’s got a safe-word if you go too far.

Chain him up so he is completely immobile, then leave him like that for a while, maybe periodically torturing him.

Take away a sense or a privilege for a long time, such as use of his hands for 24 hours.

Add a couple extra rules to his list of rules

Make him pick a few punishments he would rather not be forced to undergo and then draw one randomly

Add a few days of slavery to his sentence

7) Must Become Hard

With this rule, the slave must force himself to become hard. This usually carries a time-limit, or is just a way for you to keep his hands on his cock, constantly fumbling with it. This has more to do with him having to make himself hard with you watching than it does with him getting hard. He is putting himself on display. Keep that in mind and see if you can think of ways to change things up.

Consider making him exaggerate the process so that it’s extra disruptive. Some ideas are to have him stretch out his cock, or use both hands, or kneel until it’s done.

This rule can be fun if he can’t use his hands to make himself hard. He’ll be left humping you or the furniture to comply.

Ideas for Normal Situations

When Mistress enters the room, slave has a certain amount of time to make himself hard.

On a schedule, such as once every three hours, slave has to make himself hard and present his cock for your inspection. If it’s not hard enough, or if it offends you in any way, he can be punished.

When seeing something arbitrary, such as a high heel, he has to become hard –> You might say, \"You like skirts so much? Well, you’re going to show it!\" And have him make himself hard every time he sees one on TV.

Upon hearing an arbitrary word, such as \"songbird,\" he has to make himself hard.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Instead of just making himself hard once, he has to become hard, become soft, and become hard again –> Add a time-limit to complete this task to make it harder.

Make it more uncomfortable for him by keeping him from freeing his cock from his clothes or adjusting it while it’s getting hard.

Forbid him to use his hands to make himself hard or simply tie his hands out of reach of his cock. This will make it much tougher, but still possible.

Make him stay hard for five minutes before he can let go of his cock or stop stimulating it.

Punishment Ideas

If he fails to become hard for you in time (or if he forgets), change the rule so that he isn’t allowed to become hard for a day. See if you can catch him breaking that rule and slap a chastity belt on him.

The next time he has to be hard on command, put him in a lot of pain by slapping at his balls with a ruler or squeezing them (or similar) while he is trying to get hard.

Make him get hard without physical contact on his cock of any kind. (This might be very difficult.) Tie him up to be sure that he can’t move, of course.

8) Must Use Specific Names

This is a rule in every slave contract: that he must refer to you by a name of your choice. You can extend this to involve other women or other people. Common examples are:

Ma’am

Mistress

My Lady

Goddess

Madam

Ideas for Normal Situations

He isn’t allowed to use your name.

He has to answer \"yes, <special name>\" whenever you give a command

Must call other men and women \"sir\" or \"ma’am,\" even if he knows their names.

Must be sure to state your special name before asking any question

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Once again, this rule is so common that it’s almost always in a contract. I can’t think of tougher ways to implement it.

Punishment Ideas

This rule is a vocal one, so punishments can involve the mouth or speech. But don’t let that stop you from popping him in the testicles for forgetting to say your name before a question. Just be sure to catch him every time.

Make him wear a ball gag for thirty minutes every time he forgets

Tape his mouth shut when he forgets

Make him eat or drink something (like alcohol?) every time he messes up.

Place a clothes pin on his tongue for a while

Make him hold something with his mouth

9) Must Kiss

Slave must kiss some part of Mistress under some conditions. Type of kiss, duration, and number of kisses are up to you. You could, for example, make him practice kissing until he gets it exactly right.

Body Parts to Kiss

Vagina

Ass

Feet

Hand

Mouth

Ideas for Normal Situations

You can assign different body parts to kiss under different situations. If he forgets or gets one wrong, he gets punished. For example –> He must kiss a chosen body part when you enter the room –> He must kiss your clitoris after you orgasm –> When Waking –> Before Bed –> While showering, he must constantly kiss your vagina –> When seeing something arbitrary, such as a high heel –> Upon hearing an arbitrary word, such as \"songbird.\"

When a Slave’s Been Bad

He must practice kissing the chosen body part. The more disobedient he has been, the longer he has to practice.

Instead of a simple kiss, you can make a complicated series of kisses that he has to get right every time.

You can put a blindfold on him before he kisses. If he misses the spot, he gets punished.

Punishment Ideas

Kissing is an oral act, so you might want punishments to involve the mouth. Here are some ideas.

Leave him in a ball gag for a period of time for every mistake he makes with this rule.

Force him to wear bright red lipstick and gloss (make his lips kissable) to remind him what his duty is.

Take away the use of his hands (using ropes or chains) and let him use his mouth as hands for a while. When he has had enough, give him a test to see if he has learned his lesson.

10) Must Wear Collar and/or Cuffs

You require your slave to wear a collar, wrist cuffs, or ankle cuffs, or any combination both as a symbol that you own him and so that you can quickly restrain him at any time.

Since the collar and cuffs can’t be ignored, it will force him to remember the situation he’s in. You might want to avoid making him wear a collar while he sleeps, but that is the only one you need to be careful about. Cuffs while sleeping are just fine.

Ideas for Normal Situations

When he gets up or gets home from work, he must lock a collar and cuffs on himself. Only you can unlock them.

He has to lock chains that hang freely from his collar and/or cuffs.

He has to sleep with wrist and/or leg cuffs on.

He has to lock himself to the bed when he goes to sleep.

He has to lock something embarrassing to his collar.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Not only does he have to lock cuffs on himself when he gets home, he has to lock his wrists together and his ankles together. You unlock him when you get home or by telling him where the key is by phone.

He must lock something very heavy to his ankle cuff. Like a locked bag of bricks, or a suitcase full of heavy items.

Make him lock himself to the toilet or to some other immovable object by running a chain behind it.

Punishment Ideas

Usually, the punishment comes from him unlocking the cuffs ahead of schedule. Sometimes this is necessary for safety or for other reasons (like a friend comes by), but you can still punish him for it. Simple restraint is perfect for that.

Run a rope or chain over a beam in the roof and raise his wrists as high as possible, maybe even making him stand on his toes. Tie it off so that he has to stand like that. Torture as desired. He won’t be able to stop you.

Before he goes to bed, make him wear short chains that either link his wrists, his ankles, or link a wrist to an ankle. You can also lock his wrists to a bondage belt.

Tie him in the frogtie and the chicken-wing tie at the same time. Torture him, make him walk on his knees and elbows, or just leave him stuck on the ground for a while.

Tie him spread-eagled on the bed. Use your imagination after that.

11) Flexibility, Strength, and Weight

I’ve combined three rules into one here. You can force him to reach (or maintain) a specific weight, achieve a certain degree of flexibility, or force him to gain strength. All of these require a test after a long period of time to see if he meets the goal. Failure needs to have a significant-enough punishment that it will push him to exercise and stretch for so many days to try to reach the goal.

It also gives you a convenient way to punish him in a way that will hurt for a long time. You can force him to do 100 situps, for example, and his ab muscles will ache for days. However, this can interfere with other games where you are pushing his body to its limits.

Ideas for Normal Situations

He has to lose a certain number of pounds by a certain date.

He has to become flexible enough to perform yoga moves of your choosing

He must become strong enough to hold something heavy for a period of time

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Force him to exercise in a tedious and very challenging way, such as crawling to every room in the house fifty times.

Force him to exercise until he is too exhausted to stop you from overpowering him

Punishment Ideas

These rules require him to exercise so often and for so long that you need to have punishments that will motivate him to work through the pain and boringness of exercise over a period of weeks. Pick punishments that make him pale, or that are worse than the exercise itself.

Add a period of slavery for every pound he fails to lose by the deadline, maybe a week per pound.

Put together a list of extreme hard labor that he must do if he fails to make his goal. Make him do the work naked, in chains, or while wearing uncomfortable toys like a large butt-plug.

12) May Not Flinch

Slave is punished for flinching. Pulling away counts as resistance, just like saying \"no.\" You have free reign over the slave’s body. You can even make him act like he is happy when you touch him. But he can never show you the disrespect of moving away when you want to touch him.

Ideas for Normal Situations

Once he realizes what you’re reaching for, he must try hard to put that body part in your easy reach, either by moving closer, removing clothes, or assuming an agreed-upon position (like putting his hands behind his head).

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Add a line in your notes or itinerary to try to get him to flinch a certain number of times each day. Once he passes the test, this rule can be dropped. But be convincing!

Tie his hands behind his back, and tie those ropes around his balls. Then try to get him to flinch. If he moves, he will yank on his balls. Train him to hold very still by trying to get him to flinch.

Add extra physical punishments or humiliation if you catch him flinching. (Two punishments instead of one, etc.)

Punishment Ideas

Tie his hands and legs very securely so that he can’t flinch. Then give him several reasons to flinch while he’s unable to. That way, he can tell the difference between when it is appropriate to flinch and when it isn’t.

Tie or wrap his hands (which are primarily used to protect body parts) in very awkward orientations so that they are not only useless, but uncomfortable or awkward. For example, tape his thumbs together and secure them to the back of his collar with a short rope.

13) May not Say a certain word

This is both a teasing rule and a very serious one. Consider these two situations:

He is not allowed to say \"no\" to anyone.

He is not allowed to say the word \"is.\"

In the first example, you make it clear that he’s expected to do whatever anyone asks. This is a straight-forward and common rule.

In the second example, you pick a common word and wait for him to forget the rule, giving you frequent opportunities to punish him.

Ideas for Normal Situations

He may not use the word \"no.\"

He may not use personal pronouns (me, my, our) and instead has to substitute \"the slave\" for them.

He may not speak unless addressed by someone (asked a question, etc.)

You force him to use an embarrassing word for his cock.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

He has a limit of words (or sentences) that he can say, after which he must be absolutely silent. (If you have a hard time keeping track, just count the number of times he starts talking.

He may only speak while wearing a gag or with something held in his mouth.

Punishment Ideas

This is simple: if he speaks out of turn, focus on oral punishments. Bad tastes, gags, extremely hot foods, and so on.

Gag him for a while, possibly sacrificing a meal.

Make him hold something in his mouth. (Your freshly-worn panties, a jalapeno, or a piece of soap.

Make him conduct a complicated task with his mouth (such as sorting the sex toys, sorting your panties by color, and so on.

100 hours in bondage (rules)

Feedback is highly appreciated. Don’t worry will setup several backups to make it challenging but safe. There will be overall rules, rules for indoor and rules for outdoor. And Bondage of course…

Overall rules

Indoor rules

Outdoor rules

Daily Bondage Tasks (every 24 hours)

Tasks can be split up in single hours but must be completed every 24 hours. When not completed a task within 24 hours the remaining hours are doubled added to the next day. Only full hours count.

Training improves performance

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Excellent guide for keeping Your slave busy and secured.

I wish…

“Yes, I know boy! You are very horny and expect your monthly release. Try to calm down in my arms, because your release today is cancelled. Your moaning is ok, boy! The gag will prevent you from interrupting me. I´m very proud of you and you have been well trained the last months. But I have decided to make some adjustments on your training to achieve the next level of our relationship. I do not like playing games and you do not like to be exploited by being forced to execute silly commands. We are both real perverts meant for each other to develop a real BDSM relationship for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Let me say we are tied together for the rest of our lives. But a good relationship is hard work, a never ending work. That means that your training never ends as my mission to explore you never ends. What I have already learned is that your horniness is a very important aspect of your slave soul. If your are horny your behavior is much better, the training methods are more successful, your mood is better and you can be kept in leather and rubber much longer. Therefore I have decided to do anything to keep you horny at all times from now on. Listen to me, boy! I will explain what that means for you.”

“The consequences are very clear. Keeping you horny is easy as long as you are in any kind of bondage. The level of horniness can be raised by applying stimulation methods and making use of your fetishisms. But as soon as you had an orgasm the horniness has gone for a while. This is always like a reset. Troublesome progress is suddenly destroyed. From my point of view this is not acceptable any more. So I see no other way of keeping you chaste. Therefore your old chastity device have been replaced by new massive steel chastity device that is designed for long term. It has two safety mechanism independently from each other. Your penis is secured in the steel tube by your PA piercing in the front and the tube is attached to a steel belt that is locked around your waist. It is actually the most secure chastity device on the market that is designed for long term with special cleaning features, which can be used without removing the device. Even draining prostate fluids is possible with the device on. The main cleaning period, where the device must be removed, is indicated with 2 years.”

“So from now on you will be kept in enforced long term chastity for the rest of your life, boy! You will never again achieve a penis stimulated orgasm. Even you will never touch your penis again. I will do anything to keep you always on maximum levels of horniness. Your balls and your prostate are able to produce their fluids as much as they can. But the fluids never end up in a release by a normal orgasm. Instead they will be drained by anal stimulation every month. A new monthly draining session will be established replacing the monthly release. Your chastity device will not be removed. You will be kept in rubber and leather and heavily bound on a draining table in a strict hogtied position. You will be hooded in the heavy padded leather hood and always strictly gagged. Then you receive the stimulation. The stimulation simply focuses on your butt and on your nipples. Nothing else is touched or will be considered. This will be done very consequently to bring you on the edge. Maybe in the first sessions you will be very horny, desperate to cum and leaking huge amounts of precum but nothing else happens. Then you will be still kept in the heavy hogtied bondage for a while and after the session a new month of BDSM training begins. Maybe a few months later your prostate is full of fluids and spilling over. Then you will experience what a draining session is like. Loosing fluids, simply dripping to the floor, without the feeling of an orgasm and with a minimum impact on the level of your horniness. Immediately again ready for further training.”

“The long term chastity will lead to a paradigm shift. Chastity does not mean less sex. On the contrary. Your sex drive will enormously increase and must be considered as high potential of energy. This energy can and must be used in a meaningful way. So different consequences for your training will follow. Your mood and your endurance will not be a problem any more. So you can expect to be kept in rubber and leather for very long periods. Your bondage sessions will be increased. You have to endure longer periods in bondage and the bondage itself becomes heavier. There are also some new security aspects that must be applied for a chastity boy. For example you have to learn to sleep in a leather sleep-sack, because securely bound in a leather sleep-sack overnight is the only way for sleeping from now on. But what is the most important consequence is the adjustment of the training methods. Your penis and your balls will be ignored and the butt and nipples training will be increased. Finally all your saved energy will be readjusted to focus on your sucking skills. You will end up in a very horny gimp, covered from head to toe in rubber and leather, always kept in strict bondage, always ready for sucking services and never allowed to achieve a penis stimulated orgasm.”

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Maintaining A Balanced Level Of Control

To feel content, a human pet needs a consistent level of control and love from its owner. I like to use a balance of both mental and physical bondage while he is in service to me.

The more physically free he is, the stricter my rules and protocol will be creating mental bondage, and forcing him to constantly police his own actions to stay out of trouble. I also tend to ration the amount of loving attention I give him while free (quick pecks on the cheek instead of passionate kisses) and he never gets to orgasm or sexually serve me under these conditions.

The more physically controlled he is, the more the rules and protocols relax and I shower him with more loving attention, even babying him at times while helpless. In this way, amazingly, I have conditioned him to love being bound helpless and now he wouldn’t dream of refusing my restraints. He is quite happy being locked up as he knows sexy time (whether he is pleasuring me or I allow him an orgasm) between us only happens while he is helplessly restrained.

No Restraint

For instance, if he is at home unencumbered by any restraints, he is forbidden to leave the yard without my permission. My pet isn’t allowed eye contact with me, to kiss me, or to touch me above the ankle without permission or command to do so.  When I touch him or kiss him, he must remain totally passive. I expect a high level of obedience and punishment is much easier for him to earn. If he isn’t actively doing something for me, I will sometimes randomly give him corner time or force him to remain silent and crawling on all fours. These are a couple of my favorite ways to use mental bondage to control him.

If his chastity device is removed while unrestrained, he isn’t allowed to see me undressed or touch me at all. This is exceedingly rare, as I normally restrain him before the device is unlocked and removed, to ensure that he cannot touch his bare penis. I always accompany him during doctor’s appointments to ensure his hands stay away from his crotch.

Moderate Restraint

If he is moderately restrained, such as being fettered, ball and chained, or leashed to something, he may look at me freely but if we make eye contact, he must lower his gaze in submission immediately, and then slowly look back up at me. He may kiss me and touch me, but not in an overtly sexual way. I pay more attention to him, teasing, denying, and kissing him a lot more, but never give him total access to me.

High Level Restraint

In contrast, while he is kept physically restrained and fairly helpless, the touching rules are relaxed.For instance, when his fist mitts and tack booties are locked on and he can only crawl, he is free to look at me without restriction and touch me as much as he likes while being so physically helpless. He can crawl right up and bury his nose in my crotch, and suckle my breasts without fear of punishment.If he manages to get me revved up, I will spread my legs and let him pleasure me with his tongue or strap on head harness. If I don’t want his attentions, I can easily push him away, step on his head and pin him down under foot, or lock his deprivation hood on. If I’m in the mood and his chastity sentence is complete, he may even get some sexual relief himself.

He isn’t always expected to act and be treated as my pet, but when he is, this is how I control him.

Orgasms For The Key Holder Another one of the benefits of a male cock cage is that their key-holders’ orgasms will become much more frequent… and intense! As the arousal of denial builds in the submissive from being in a male cock cage, he will want to take his sexual frustration out on his key-holder. The submissive will constantly be thinking about sex with their key-holder while in their cock cage. When any small opportunity presents itself, sparks will fly. Oral skills become noteworthy very quickly, but the submissive can please their key-holder in a number of other ways. Usually with their hands, with toys, or even with a strap on! As time passes and the submissive has built up their frustration in their cock cage, they will exert more of that sexual energy toward the key-holder. Ultimately giving better and better orgasms the longer they are locked.

The orgasms of a key-holder is one of the most cherished…shared by submissives and key-holders alike. The submissive enjoys making their key-holder feel good and giving them countless orgasms, and ensuring they are completely satisfied at all times. Submissives especially enjoy giving an orgasm without getting one in return. The key-holder of course will enjoy the mind boggling inter-dimensional orgasms they receive – truly unlike anything else they’ve ever experienced before Before leaving the topic of orgasms, we cannot forget about the submissive locked in the cock cage’s orgasm. This is probably the greatest of the perks of chastity that the submissive can look forward to. All the time pent up in denial in their male cock cage causes the skin to become hyper sensitive. This hyper sensitivity feels better than anything they’ve ever experienced before. When they finally experience an orgasm, it will be single-handedly the best orgasm they’ve had in their life. And the longer they’re in chastity, the more intense it becomes!