High as me to ride. Loughborough Fair, November 2019.

Absolutely! Let that be a lesson to us all…🕉

Kink at Pride

I believe the “No kink at Pride” belief is steeped in the Puritan / Christian view that sex is inherently dirty, nasty and evil. 

The only sanctified excuse for having sex is to produce children and that within the bounds of a marriage. A lesser excuse is having sex to seal the bounds of that marriage, (usually in the code of the wife submitting to her husband’s desires). Lower on the scale is a hetro couple who are going to be married, jumping the gun as it were, and having premarital sex. Lower still is a hetro couple who are in love having sex. Then you come to the dog and slut categories where hetros are having sex because they can’t control their animal urges. At the bottom are deviants who not satisfied with sating “natural urges” indulge themselves in unnatural urges.

Until very recently LGBTQA people were seen in that last category along with kinksters. There are still vast numbers of people who still see LGBTQA as deviants. (Though I think Ace people, can be seen as either unnatural for not feeling attraction or depersonalized as “saints” for it.)  There are many people who still believe LGBTQA equals pedophile, or bestiality or rapist. They believe the same thing of kinksters.  It’s this puritanical mindset that believes that if you can divorce LGBTQA from sex, then being LGBTQA will magically become acceptable to everyone. Which is not going to happen.  As for the “What about the children?” crowd. Again we are dealing with the sex is dirty mindset. 

Let’s put this into perspective. How many parades have military or police forces marching fully armed down the street. All of them carrying weapons designed for one purpose. To kill other human beings. Where is the “What about the children?” crowd here? How about the number of murders portrayed on television and movies?   The war hero shows?  Our society accepts that children are fine being exposed to killing and the representation of killing, in spite of the fact that killing another human being is a very unnatural act. One that very few people will ever commit and that in very rare circumstances. An act that causes massive harm to everyone around them, including the killer themself. 

On the other hand, the vast majority of humans feel sexual urges and most will have sex, sometimes on a daily basis. Here is a shocker for those idiots who don’t bother to think or remember. Children, even before puberty, feel some sexual urges. If you are a mom or dad you should remember having to teach your little boy or girl that touching their privates is something they should do in private, not in front of a room full of guests.  

Hopefully you didn’t shame them for it. During puberty, which can start as young as eight or nine for some kids, these occasional urges can skyrocket. This is normal. Not having sexual feeling is also normal. Its a sliding scale like water, from ice to steam, it’s all water folks. 

Sexual feelings are a part of human development. The problem is western society and Americans in particular try to hide this aspect of growing up in shame and secrecy, and silence, the horrible triumvirate that instead of protecting children, allows them to be preyed upon. Predators cannot operate in the light.

Back to kink at pride. There is a long history of kinksters supporting LGBTQA and lot of us are into kink as well. Kinksters have been in Pride parades from the beginning. Kicking out kinksters will not make LGBTQA people more acceptable, its a strategy to weaken the community not, strengthen it.  

So what do you say to kid if a group of kinksters is in a pride parade, and they ask about it?  

“These folks enjoy playing ‘let’s pretend’ when they are having sex.” 

Was that so fucking hard?

These circles are stationary

Oh wow. I didn’t know I needed to hear this.

This is actually, non-ironically, a great way of asking about benefits and company culture without asking about those things directly.

I had an interview during the pandemic, and I did ask this, and I can tell you, it tells them as much about you as it tells you about them.

It tells you:

It tells them:

So yes. Do actually ask this. It tells you whether or not you want to work for them, and tells them that they want to hire you.

imagine trying to learn english and hear this

the worst part is that this makes perfect sense to me

There is no one in earth stronger than people who learn English as a second language. I bow to you

“I ain’t draft dodging. I ain’t burning no flag. I ain’t running to Canada. I’m staying right here. You want to send me to jail? Fine, you go right ahead. I’ve been in jail for 400 years. I could be there for 4 or 5 more, but I ain’t going no 10,000 miles to help murder and kill other poor people. If I want to die, I’ll die right here, right now, fightin’ you, if I want to die. You my enemy, not no Chinese, no Vietcong, no Japanese. You my opposer when I want freedom. You my opposer when I want justice. You my opposer when I want equality. Want me to go somewhere and fight for you? You won’t even stand up for me right here in America, for my rights and my religious beliefs. You won’t even stand up for my right here at home. “ - Muhammad Ali 1967

oh shit! I am sad for no reason!!!!!!

me, confused: we had a good day. we read some fun stories. we got to pet a cat. AND we got shit done. we are fundamentally godlike and our therapist is gonna high five us so hard, so what's going on w/ you buddy?

brain, sipping margaritas and staring off mournfully into a carribean sunset, whilst nibbling on a tiny paper umbrella: buddy im just not vibin

me: *pokes brain gently w/ their favorite reading material* hey buddy you wanna go outside? U want some belly rubs? I've got treats do u want treats? we can do whatever u wanna do...

brain: *cannot be distracted from frustratedly chewing on its own leg*

me: buddy

"I dunno. Just feelin' vaguely disquiet, I guess."

Whatever is going on in Minnesota I am LIVING for it

My favorite thing about this is that they’re all by different people

doesnt make any sense the first time