Do Good Recklessly

DAY 15

GIVE IT UP FOR DAY 15

You can only reblog this 12 times a year

Make the most of that

Every month I reblog this and every month I’m baffled that it’s already the 15th.

I’m scheduling this for every month

DAY 15

GIVE IT UP FOR DAY 15

You can only reblog this 12 times a year

Make the most of that

Every month I reblog this and every month I’m baffled that it’s already the 15th.

I’m scheduling this for every month

you can only reblog this today

Golden rule of thumb for art kids: reblogging Bob Ross will bless you latest work

It’s sad that toxic game culture is so prevalent cuz like. As someone who has ended up in random matches with kids before, I can attest to how fucking easy it is to reverse and un-teach shitty attitudes in kids.

Example: I downloaded Friday the 13th because it’s free on psn. I dunno how to play, so I just enter quick play and I’m matched with 3-4 kids on mic. Immediately on mic they’re shitty and disparaging to each other. They laugh at each others deaths, they actively work against team mates and self sabotage, they call each other “fags”, etc. From the sounds of the voices they cannot be older than 13-14.

I put on my mic and just decide I ain’t havin it. I am nice. I thank them for barricading doors or leaving me items. When they break free from Jason’s grasp I say “good job!” or I try to help them. One kid survived for most of the match by himself. When he dies, I tell him he did a fantastic job.

The mood shift is practically INSTANT. These kids almost immediately stop being dick heads. They start encouraging each other and being kind. After the match all of them try to friend request me. Which should tell you a couple of things:

A) kids want to be kind, and they want to have a nice time playing games. But encounters with adults like me or so rare that they’ve trained themselves to instantly put on a toxic, shitty, defensive veneer when encountering any new person online. It’s literally just THAT EASY to not groom a horrible gaming community, it’s just that NO ONE does it.

B) the speed of which they all tried to friend me was cute, but paints for me such a sad picture? Like these kids are SO desperate to find people to play with who aren’t crappy jerks. They played with me for 10 minutes TOPS and all instantly tried to reach out to me.

tl;dr: The kids are alright. Adults are shit heads.

I cant agree with this post more

I witnessed something similar with my younger brother (this was when he was In fifth grade so bear with me here) and his friends. The teacher assigned for them to build a somewhat accurate spanish mission in Minecraft because their school had gotten some iPads and she needed to assign them something other than a PowerPoint.

Now here’s the thing. Most of these boys, my brother included, have ADD/ADHD. About a week into the project all they had in their shared world was chaos. Somebody filled the place with tnt and lit it up. Holes everywhere. Whenever one would attempt to try and build something (mostly wood huts and not the actual project) it would be destroyed within minutes as the boys began to insult each other heavily and complain that the design was ugly.

I brought my own ipad with me and decided to sit with the boys while they continued their reign of terror. I joined the world and built a hallway out of brick at the very center of this war zone. Immediately one of them tried to destroy it under the impression that “it looks bad”.

“Well, what should I make it out of?”

“Diamond.”

The ten year old mind is a mystery to me…

Anyway, then I showed him some pictures similar to these:

I reasoned that it would be easier to sway this kid toward another pretty block than trying to get him to stick to the materials of the time, so I asked him if he would like to help me replace my brick design with quartz (eh, it’s white).

Bam! One of the ten year old anarchists is dutifully building me a glittering gem hallway for our insanely rich monks.

The other three are off somewhere still yelling at each other and setting off explosives, but we have something built. Much to my surprise the kid asked if he could build the church next because he “wanted to build the most important part”.

Here’s where I learned something important. I don’t have ADD or ADHD but as I said before my brother does. When he gets fixated on something, he’s really gets into it. Once a few minutes had passed and this kid already had four walls up I decided to grid up the entire mission. One gets the church, one gets the farm, etc.

After playing the game with them for an hour, I had a pretty good idea of where each kid should go.

Church kid, I found, was very particular about materials and shape(hence his hangup over the brick). I gave him free reign over the outer walls of the mission and showed him the reference pictures to get him started.

My brother liked the farms most (he was building dirt domes over the cows don’t ask me how I made this connection it just worked, okay), so he was in charge of building pens for the animals.

Another kid was, at first glance, very loud and bossy when it came to decorating (constantly said we were making chairs wrong). Turns out he likes interior design, like putting benches and beds in the little rooms, so his bossiness was just frustration with my brother’s artistic sense I guess.

Another was very good with placing trees and plants around the exterior (I guessed this because he covered the place in a ridiculous amount of trees and I asked him if he would like to know where they are supposed to go). He got to make a vineyard for us and organized how the crops should go.

So how did it turn out?

Actually very nice!!

So what did we learn? Kids actually like to play games and be praised for their creativity and intuition. If I had just told them to stop messing around rather than direct their attention to areas within their interests, they never would have gotten anything done.

After an hour of gaming they:

On the plus side, since we moved the game file to my device for safekeeping, I now have a cute little souvenir of the time I played Minecraft with four ten year olds.

This is a really long post, but it’s super important. In games like Fortnite where you’ll find lots of kids, it’s important (if you can) to steer them away from toxicity. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve run into kids who talk like toxic adults and the act of just being nice to them completely turns them around.

This isn’t limited to games, by far. When younger kids are exposed to snide, aggressive older people in any capacity their instinctive response is to adapt that behavior to seem cool and adult and avoid being a target. Maybe you’re not even an asshole and you just play around with your friends by ironically insulting them, but kids don’t really know the difference. They don’t have that context. And they can continue to develop thinking this is just the way you’re supposed to act and that any sensitivity or vulnerability is something to be laughed at. I experienced this as a 13 year old on 90′s webforums and I didn’t break out of a non-stop snarky rude mode until like 22.

Fun fact: The “Pancake sucks” one is literally just Pancake sucking on a blanket, it’s not an insult to Pancake

tilting the screen works too ^^

Weird habit I need to shake:

whenever I hc two girls gay or ship them together I always feel like I HAVE to make one lesbian, like I’m being greedy and unrealistic if I make them both bi, same with when I’m making up sexuality hcs for all the characters from media I like i feel like I’m doing something wrong if I hc “too many” as bi.

Idk if other bis have this but it’s really weird my personal headcanons for unconfirmed or straight characters literally have no impact on other people even if I’m making content involving sexuality hcs, I don’t owe other people representation in my own fanon thoughts if I want every single character to be like me then they can.

This is too accurate.

something has been BOTHERING MEEEE…………ok so in the 80s, you have Heathers. the 90s had Clueless. the 2000s had Mean Girls. what is the definitive teen girl drama comedy of the 10s? 

I’m super sexual but like also I’m super shy which don’t mix well

My salary has stayed the same for 6 years.

My rent goes up every year.

We need rent control in every city.

“Boo-hoo, but my profit margin!” says local Slumlord

Me, feeling good after a new haircut: I–

My Dysphoria: You look like this now:

*prints this out and puts it in a locket for when the sadtimes hit*

im the dj screaming w laughter

I think about this at least once a day.

working in customer service be like

As you can see I have strong feelings about the orgy scene in Cats

the w-what

Is it just me or does 2019 feel....off? Everything is boring, the weather is weird, summer doesn’t feel right. The world isn’t fun anymore. Breaking rules is for enjoyment. People are rude and selfish. Drugs are a priority. Everyone is losing friends, relationships are falling apart. It’s like we’re all...stuck. There’s no emotion anymore. 2018 was weird, but 2019 just feels plain sad. We’re all growing up and forgetting how to act.

I’m calling it “apocalypse depression”.