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@thesaddyingworm-blog

yo welcome to my whatever blog where idc what goes on it as long as i like it call me Parker I'm genderfluid? he/him, they/them works just fine too tho 

Your purpose in life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

If you goal is to love yourself, then your focus is directed inward toward yourself, and you end up constantly watching yourself from the outside, disconnected, trying to summon the “correct” feelings towards yourself or fashion yourself into something you can approve of.

If your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed outward towards life, on living and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure and fulfillment.

Be the subject, not the object. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself. You are experiencing life. Life is not experiencing you.

Thank you this is the first post about self love that hasn’t made me want to throw things

Things they don’t tell you about top surgery

- Talk to the surgeon about the size you want your new areolas/nipples (don’t be afraid to ask)

- Numbness. No one talks about this for guys who are about to have surgery. You’re going to be numb all in your chest area, especially where the incisions were. They cut nerves as they pass along your chest, and it can take up to a year to regenerate those nerves. Still, feels super foreign for the first two weeks

- Make your bed into a pillow chair, body pillow, two on each side, and two for your head. 

- Sleep alone. I tried to sleep with my girlfriend and it was miserable. You really do need the entire bed for yourself

- Go on Groupon, & get yourself a 10 foot lightning cable iPhone charger, BEST THING EVER, can reach from wherever you are

- Don’t take a week off from work, take two. You will regret the one week, and love the extra time

- When they say “don’t move too much, even after the first week”. LISTEN. I moved way too much and got so sore super quickly. 

- Drink lots of water & eat if your taking the pain medication, otherwise your stomach feels super funky.

- Get stool softeners, & don’t be afraid to take those babies. Don’t wait a week to poop. you’ll surely regret it. 

- The drains are scary & they may hurt while draining or rewrapping your dressings, but once they come out, the second they do, its no more pain, its crazy. 

i hope this helps someone, because i wish i knew all of this when i was having mine a month ago. Looking back its like everyone forgets all the real negatives, its a great experience, & i healed very well & quick compared to most, but the first few days are crazy. They hurt, suck but it gets better. 

To the few guys I know having surgery this week!

-the headache you get a couple days after the surgery because the anesthesia is leaving your body hurts 200 times more than the surgery itself. And even that isn’t too bad.

-after a week or, you ITCH. It’s awful. Try not to touch your stitches too much. An ice pack will help.

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Anonymous asked:

Hey Matteo do you have any tips on how to dress as a trans man? I don’t... really know what to wear and look nice without features I would rather not show off being more easily seen if that makes sense

I’ve actually been working on a wardrobe guide a while back, but this made me remember to finish it, so here it is! All of this is stuff I’ve learned from experience and are my preferences, but I hope you can get something out of it.

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Tomorrow I have to call to cancel my top surgery.

So I was my surgery schedule for 3 weeks from now and my pre op next Wednesday. But I got a call telling me that my insurance refuses to pay for my nipple grafts. Aetna says nipples are just cosmetic so they don’t pay for that but they will pay for my mastectomy.

But I want nipples. And there is no way I can come up with 4K in 6 days. (I have to pay on the day of my pre op)

I’ve been cryin all night about this. I thought after 10+ years of biding and dying of all the pain I would finally be free.

I know there is no way for me to get 4000 in time. But if you guys could help..

And if you are looking for an insurance who covers top surgery. Stay away from Aetna (unless you don’t want nipples)

Im adding this here. So you guys know how you are all amazing! I woke up this morning and found out I have 131.57 on my paypal! And I want to thank everyone that is helping! It means she world to me.

The doctors office called me today. We talked. I cried. They told me I shouldn’t do it without my nipple graft and they felt so bad for me that they will take care of some of the bill so it become more affordable to me.

The total of the surgery is 5k now. I have some money and I will use my credit card to pay most of it. But i still need help with at least 1k. If you gurus can help me get there before Wednesday I will be able to go through with it.

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Kitty LGBT Pride Icons Part 1!

free to use without credit but please like/reblog if you use them!

[from left to right, top to bottom]

lesbian, gay, bisexual

transgender, pansexual, nonbinary

agender, genderfluid, bigender

(all same person if not clear)

I don’t get all the hate for Bruce Wayne? He’s a bit clueless but his scholarship’s putting me through classes…

#WayneEnt has as good benefits as local villains bc of Wayne’s pushing, #GCPD gets donations yearly #TeamGiveWayneABreak

Do people just ignore all of Wayne’s charity work? #TeamGiveWayneABreak #noteveryherowearsacape

Just got retweeted by all the Wayne kids??? #onlyingotham J Todd added #stillanasshole but i’ll count it

Can I add “retweeted by every Wayne kid” to my resume? #ilutinyWaynes #noreally #imapplyingtoWayneEnt sooo

Does the Bat actually have a Twitter? Bc if so I think he just retweeted my Wayne comment??? #onlyingotham

Honestly who gives a fuck if I as a trans guy don’t “look cis” like. I’m a boy. I know I’m a boy, no one can take that from me. So what if I’m not a cis boy, shit if anything I’m like a boy 2.0, New And Improved Boy, latest model Man. Heck off with your cis supremacy man I look amazing and so do all my other trans brothers.